Where the fuck are all the tops?

[brat2781]

bttm/versatile here

 

[gmoney]

Versatile/bottom here. Like others have already said, it depends on the guy. I've bottomed more, just because I've been with more tops and I like it! I enjoy topping too. Even topped a guy who was a top until he met me.

 

[dpnice]

Strangely I have never classified my sexual desires in that way yet when I fantasize over someone it does involve me being on top.

Very few people have actually penetrated me and on the whole it was to give them pleasure rather than pleasure myself.

Twice it was the most mindblowing experience of my life. But despite those two exceptions I have never had the conscious desire to be fucked.

Of course it doesn't really matter now as my days of passionate sex are well and truly over. I voted any way.

 

[kayman23]

Oh well, I'm a bottom, but I don't care.

 

[Willie Boy]

When did one person, Xango, become an "us?"

So you haven't noticed that I, too, am bi? I tend to stick up for my fellow bi's, so yes, if you try to mess with one of us, I'll have to step in and shoot my load in your face. Would you like that?

 

[Fucker29]

Damn it! Now I want a PM Marley with your predictions.

 

[gdude30]

lol.

Marley I agree with your theory but it's not just JUB.

It's the internet and probably a majority of the gay community.

Here is the reason. Before AIDS came about people were having sex like it was a fad or something. And I actually wonder if there were more tops or versatiles back then. But also some of them were strictly oral.

But you also had all these young men who would marry these pretty womenz and walk down the aisle thinking "I like cock, I like cock, I like cock" and then marry the woman and still think about men.

And the result now is married men cheating on their wifes and having sex with men and sucking a cock for the first time or bottoming for another guy. Because they probably topped their wife's so much and wondered what it's like to be topped. And then they might end up liking it so much that they become strictly bottoms.

Then again there are also some guys who claim, "Oh yeah I'm totally a top I love to fuck guys. I'm masculine looking and acting." When really they just think it a sign of weakness or it makes them less of a man if they put up their legs for another man when it's not. So they might be fucking just to hide something or to try and be masculine.

And later on in life they might realize they are more of a bottom and become strictly bottom. Because of men hiding their sexuality or creating a fake sense of masculinity the result is millions of bottoms and very few tops. And even fewer true versatiles. Lots of people will say they do both but only do one.

And then there is the interesting power thing. Where an older guy might love to fuck younger guys but fucked by a younger guy. Or a bigger guy might fuck a smaller guy but get fucked by other guys. That give and take of power sounds really interesting.

I myself get tired of all the horny bottoms online saying how they wanna be fucked or bred. I think it all depends on the person's nature.

I know for the most part that I am naturally submissive with some pockets of dominance. I used to think that your nature couldn't be changed. But I am starting to think otherwise. I used to top guys before. But I did it cause I felt I had to and stopped for a long time. I did it again recently though with someone and I loved it. Then we flip flopped and god damn was that interesting. Giving and taking the power. But the difference with now and then was I wanted to top him. I diddn't have to. But this being said. I wouldn't top everyone. It truly depends on the person for me. But then again that could be said for me bottoming. I wouldn't bottom for everyone.

 

[G-Lexington]

^ Well, not everything that happens in the bedroom has to involve power. Two guys can have sex - and yes, even anal sex - without it being about domination or submission. It can just be about enjoying themselves.

Lex

 

[gdude30]

^ Well, not everything that happens in the bedroom has to involve power. Two guys can have sex - and yes, even anal sex - without it being about domination or submission. It can just be about enjoying themselves.

Lex

This is true.

And I'm sure it can happen where one of them or both of them might do something they haven't done before for the other one becuase it feels right. Yeah sometimes it's just good to do what feels natural.

 

[Shepherd 2]

Mr. Wright, I agree with your sentiment. I like to do a lot, but some things are more centerred in who I am. But my partner is a large part of that now for 22 years, and so there is not much I would not do.

Shep+

 

[JamesKim]

It's just easier to find bottoms than tops.
Tops are more masculine and everything, which makes them really hard to tell from straight males, verses bottoms that are usually a bit more on the feminine side.

 

[Joshua_me]

You can find anything through Google:

"The Four Tops" !

 

[LilBit]

At heart I'm more of a bottom. I've been fucked a few times, but I have a really nasty case of IBS that makes it pretty painful for me. I've tried lots of different positions, and I've tried it solo too, and it just doesn't work for me.

And so I'm pretty much an exclusive top. Problem is, I apparently send out really strong bottom vibes (to the point where even straight people sense it), so I seem to attract tops.

 

[hotatlboi]

It's just easier to find bottoms than tops.
Tops are more masculine and everything, which makes them really hard to tell from straight males, verses bottoms that are usually a bit more on the feminine side.

Usually being the key word there. Im versatile but lean towards bottom, and I'm totally masculine, most people have no clue I'm gay.

 

[wraithsa]

signs in nonchalantly and smiles

 

[Lightsage]

I've already had this conversation with marley before so I'll just sit here and wait for the verdict...


The best thing I have heard on JUB in a long time. Well at least one that isn't totally perverted.