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Where's your life going?!

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You finish high school almost as valedictorian, you attend college for 6 years, you work for free for almost two years, you graduate with a professional degree, then you relocate... then life suddenly seems stops.

You watch your friends get married, you promise each other to never forget... then they forget. You have your parents buggin' you about marriage, but you work nearly 50 hours week to avoid the thought of marriage and the loneliness. Work seems to have become the same old damn routine. You think about buying a house, but you're not even sure if you'll be in the same city next year. Plus, who wants to live in an empty house?

Then you wonder... where's your life going? :confused: You want more from life, but you wonder, is there even more? You had set goals in high school and college, but what's next?

Figuring out life after college is very hard, even with money in your bank account. :(
 
I'm in my 6th GAP year. So my life's going pretty much nowhere.

Uni/College next year, I swear!

Feeling fairly happy though. Contentment is out there but I doubt it lurks in real-estate.
 
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that's probably me in a few years with or without the money in the bank... :(
 
I spent years and years perfecting my GPA for the sake of getting into that dam pharmacy program. Then BAM! unexpectedly came out of the closet. Balancing gay new life and studious old life is hard. GPA is plummeting faster than a drag queen going down a slide with lube....but at least I'm finally enjoy my fabulous life. However, the thought of not getting into grad school is making me gag a little right now. I feel like I'm at a split on my road of life and confusion is setting in. *scratching head*
 
Bidude117 said:
You finish high school almost as valedictorian, you attend college for 6 years, you work for free for almost two years, you graduate with a professional degree, then you relocate... then life suddenly seems stops.

You watch your friends get married, you promise each other to never forget... then they forget. You have your parents buggin' you about marriage, but you work nearly 50 hours week to avoid the thought of marriage and the loneliness. Work seems to have become the same old damn routine. You think about buying a house, but you're not even sure if you'll be in the same city next year. Plus, who wants to live in an empty house?

Then you wonder... where's your life going? :confused: You want more from life, but you wonder, is there even more? You had set goals in high school and college, but what's next?

Figuring out life after college is very hard, even with money in your bank account. :(
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follow the wind ....... where ever the wind blows ...

And one ask what does that mean ...:?
I have not found what i want yet, will post on here when found.;)
 
We may need to consider the possibility that the primary purpose of our lives is still in the act of revealing itself, and embrace that uncertainty as a gift. Because you know what that gives you? Freedom. The freedom to explore, take chances, to dream, to escape, to nix things and start again. Just think, if you really knew what your mission was, you might find some emotional security in that knowledge--but you would also be trapped.
 
It seems to me that Americans spent far too much of their lives in college putting off the business of actually getting on with some sort of career. I do and did almost all my learning at work, start at the bottom and work up. Never expect anything to fall in your lap, you have to work for it and prove yourself all the time. We all crave satisfaction, try and get it from doing whatever you choose to do well, it will pay dividends, believe me.
 
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hoodedrat said:
Actually, come to think of it, where exactly should it be going? I have a roof over my head, food to eat, average health, good friends, etc, etc, what more do I need?
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IMO more people need to be like that.
 
Jory said:
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^ ^ My sentiments exactly.

Ironic that it is a SUBMARINE sinking. I've been underwater so long I have no idea what solvency even LOOKS like.

Every time I think there's light at the end of the tunnel, it really is another oncoming train.

NOBODY wants to see the stack of papers the Nursing Home sent me yesterday. :help:
 
I just lost a job in San Francisco. Now I'm in NC trying to find work as a bartender. Man that was a fun month. Totally....

I hope I know. I have a degree in Philosophy/Anthropology and I hope to take the PHI degree to a PhD. I got time though, I'm only 23.
 
I m done with college, just graduated... so yeah... right now I'm pissing my pants about wot to do next
 
All these 22 and 23 years olds stressing about what next need to chill. Unless you're planning on a career in show business, ahtletics, or modeling where you have to make it by 25 or not at all, there is no need to rush to a conclusion. Better to take some tentative steps into corporate life, get used to the routine, earn some money, and consider graduate scool in a couple of years if that's what you feel you need. You might even be eligible for tuition reimbursement with your employer.

I've realizing now that all that worrying I did when I was 22 was a waste of time, because more concrete answers come later. And the outcome is the same regardless: becoming part of the establishment in one way or another.

But don't take too long finding yourself. There are certain moves that are best taken sooner rather than later. But above all, don't worry yourself sick about anything.
 
I graduated from college three years, started making some very decent money in Los Angeles, decided that field wasn't for me, and now I live in Portland and work a crappy job.

I am, however, going on a several month road trip across America starting in August. For now, that's all I need to keep me going. What's going to happen when I get back home to this wonderful economy with no money, no job, and a "quit" on my resume? I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.
 
I have the advantage of age on my side. I don't have to worry where I am going as I have already been there and come back.

I can do anything I want to now and the reason I don't is because I am more than happy with what I am doing and where I am going.

Mind you I suppose that in all honesty I wouldn't mind being young again with all its insecurities and doubts as at least it would mean I could start picking up hot guys once again. ;)

I wish I had the magic formula for being happy and enjoying life but unfortunately I don't. You all just have to battle on and do your best, trying to enjoy life as you go along.
 
I graduated from university last year, turning 23 and decided to enroll for a law degree at an open learning University here in South Africa. My reasons for not carrying on with law at my old more prestigious university, with a career path that was set, pretty much that? I was in the pub my friends and I used to go to at our University, just before graduation and the thought that I could pretty much map out my life, terrified me

I don't know what if law's what I want to do anymore, it's what I wanted when I was 18, but sometimes it feels as though all that I've learnt between 18 and 23 could fit into an entire lifetime.

So I decided that this was for me, it opened up my possibilities while not stunting my professional/academic growth. Right now, I'm preparing to go off to South-Korea alone to go teach english, who knows where that'll lead me to, I don't and I think that's the most exciting thing ever!

I know it's a cornball thing but one of my favourite passages from that Baz Luhrmann "Everybodies Free To Wear Sunscreen," is this:

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life,
the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22
what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.

Whenever I start getting worried about wear my life is going, I think about that. I feel life is something that you never know where its leading. A lot of those human interest stories about the financial crisis show these former investment bankers who got retrenched and are now doing random things like being florists (that's the one I remember most) and they say that's the happiest they've been in their lives coz they're finally doing what they love. I think just go with what feels right at the moment. Don't worry so much about some bigger picture.
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