Which Are Some Good Sites to Meet Guys?

[FunFunk]

I typically compare them to my breakfast cereal, but your blizzard shall suffice.

Unfortunately, the only kind of flake I've been tasting lately is the type you put in your bowl and pour milk over. And not to satisfy a milk fetish.

 

[arpeggi]

Unfortunately, the only kind of flake I've been tasting lately is the type you put in your bowl and pour milk over. And not to satisfy a milk fetish.

Man, they just end up being soggy and tasteless in the end anyway.

Sometimes you're better off with the fruit loops.

 

[Sha-Rok]

I met my partner on a4a we've been together for over a year and I met great friends there too. So a4a is the best bet in my opinion.

 

[FunFunk]

I met my partner on a4a we've been together for over a year and I met great friends there too. So a4a is the best bet in my opinion.

It seems the men on Adam4Adam can be grouped into two distinct camps: one that just want sex and want it now and the other that are geuinely looking for long-term relationships.

 

[SonOfSlobone]

Excuse me -- I feel like I'm coming in from another planet. But I'm curious about when exactly "hookups" became a thing to avoid at all costs. In my more active days I was all about hookups and spent considerable time and energy trying to find them.

Don't you guys ever get horny while you're waiting for Mr. Right to show up, get down on one knee and ask you to marry him?

Just wondering...

 

[Elwood]

http://www.gay411.com/ Is a pretty popular one in Montreal, I have seen profiles from the States on there as well.

 

[arpeggi]

It seems the men on Adam4Adam can be grouped into two distinct camps: one that just want sex and want it now and the other that are geuinely looking for long-term relationships.

Expecting every guy to fall into one of two categories is problematic.

 

[FunFunk]

Excuse me -- I feel like I'm coming in from another planet. But I'm curious about when exactly "hookups" became a thing to avoid at all costs. In my more active days I was all about hookups and spent considerable time and energy trying to find them.

Don't you guys ever get horny while you're waiting for Mr. Right to show up, get down on one knee and ask you to marry him?

Just wondering...

I've never had a problem with hookups (especially between more substantial relationships). A guy has his needs and shouldn't feel ashamed or apologetic about fulfilling them.

I found from first hand experience that even on the sites that cater to men supposedly in search of long term relationships, many of those same men settled for hookups -- or were truly looking for LTRs less than they were looking for hookups.

 

[FunFunk]

I don't mind hookups if both parties know what they're getting into ahead of time. it's not really where I'm at right now in my life, but I've done it before and would do it with the right guy.

what I mind are the seemingly endless stream of guys that I meet who are like "I'm not really looking for a hookup, I want something real, etc, etc" and then drop off the face of the planet after getting you into bed. if they were up front about it, I'd probably have hooked up with most of them anyways, but it would have saved me that "is he blowing me off or isn't he" week where I have to magically divine where his head is at and obsess about what I might have done wrong.

My thoughts exactly. And you never really know if you did anything wrong. But usually the cause isn't anything you did or didn't do, it's the other guy's own assorted issues (irresponsibility, lack of consideration, dishonesty, anxiety, fear, etc.). You probably wouldn't want to start a deeper relationship with guys who have a lot of those issues anyway.

Then, of course, there are those with whom you set up a time to meet -- just for him to never show up and never contact you. That happened to me just last night. And then, this morning, the guy sent an email saying he "fell asleep" and would still like to meet later. The last email he sent to me was less than an hour before we were to meet. So, maybe he sent the last few of his messages while he was asleep... No, I'm not going to respond or otherwise bother with him anymore. Obviously a waste of my time.

Finding someone, whether for a long-term relationship or a quickie, takes a lot of time and it can be frustrating, despite the promise of the internet and these websites. But I suppose one just has to be persistent...

 

[FunFunk]

Expecting every guy to fall into one of two categories is problematic.

I was just simplifying things.

I did not mean to imply that an encounter that starts as a hookup can't evolve into something much more. Or that someone can't just be looking for whatever comes his way, whether a one-night stand or the start of something bigger. Or that someone with the goal of a long term relationship would be averse to having a quickie with someone online who strikes his fancy.

 

[FunFunk]

Just joined OkCupid in search of friends and maybe a more long-term oriented relationship. Seems like a good site with many local users. Let's see what happens.

 

[SonOfSlobone]

I've never had a problem with hookups (especially between more substantial relationships). A guy has his needs and shouldn't feel ashamed or apologetic about fulfilling them.

I found from first hand experience that even on the sites that cater to men supposedly in search of long term relationships, many of those same men settled for hookups -- or were truly looking for LTRs less than they were looking for hookups.

Fair enough, but just to put another two cents in -- that in my experience an awful lot of LTR's, if not most of them, start as a hookup. The idea is, you make contact with the guy, then you meet, then if you're attracted to each other you maybe end up having the sex. Then if you both enjoyed it, why not do it again? Next stop LTR...

Of course inevitably a certain percentage of the guys you come across on these sites are assholes, but usually you can figure that out pretty quick. Theoretically...

 

[gdude30]

I completely agree with you SonOfSoblone.

However for those who want to go ahead and seek out an LTR immediantly. Well that's why sites like Cupid.com are in business.

For hooking up (As in fucking, sucking, dating, or fuck buddies)

Manhunt
Craigslist (LOL)
Squirt
Adam4Adam

And there was some nude something things. Forgot the name. Maybe nudedude.

For looking for friendship, relationships, and hook ups I suggest these.

recon.com
silverdaddies.com
findfred.com

I'm sorry but those cupid sites are so fucking spamish. I think I did it once and it took tons of verifications and emails back and forth for me to actually talk to the guy. It was retarded. It's very limited if you aren't paying.

Some of the sites I listed limit you a little if you aren't a paying member. Except Adam4Adam. If it's not too bad. For example, you can browse profiles on manhunt but can't view full pictures if you aren't paid. Same for Recon and Squirt. Those sites limit how many profiles you can view a day and messages unless you pay. Even so being a free member doesn't limit you as much as something like Cupic or Outpersonals does. Outpersonals is one to stay away from.

Have you heard of gaypersonals, kinkpersonals, and anything else that has personals at the end? They are all the same and very limited if you don't pay and not worth paying.

Silverdaddies doesn't limit how many profiles you can look at but you can only send two messages a day and can't view someone's photo gallery. Only their main photo. That one actually is worth paying though. So is Recon. If manhunt works for you (as in guys in you're area) that is worth paying as well.

Gay.com used to be really good and even had a cool chat and a 3rd party chat applications to do multiple things but they changed it drastically and the chatrooms and profiles are not as good as they used to be and the whole UI for the site is kind of laggy and weird.

I've barely used FindFred. But I do like them because they give kick ass CD's at pride. Not that I'm biased or anything. I haven't really used them to give them a fair review. Oh it was dudesnude. That's what it was I just remembered it.

As for Smartphone apps Grindr isn't too bad BUT IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE GUYS IN YOU'RE AREA. It really does.

I don't really use dating/hook up sites anymore because I'm not really looking for sex or a relationship. But I used to go on dating/hook up sites all the time so I'm familar with the ones I know. But occasionally I get horny. We all do

Also something I haven't really looked into but find interesting. On some porn sites they have member pages where you can view the the models or amateurs and actually send them messages and some of them are actually looking to hook up. I'm sort of surprised how many are around the area I'm in. I don't know if that's something I'll ever do but the concept sounds cool. Of course that's probably something most people already knew. I'm in the whole dark ages with the porn star world.

 

[FunFunk]

Fair enough, but just to put another two cents in -- that in my experience an awful lot of LTR's, if not most of them, start as a hookup. The idea is, you make contact with the guy, then you meet, then if you're attracted to each other you maybe end up having the sex. Then if you both enjoyed it, why not do it again? Next stop LTR...

Of course inevitably a certain percentage of the guys you come across on these sites are assholes, but usually you can figure that out pretty quick. Theoretically...

This is all very true. I myself have had a hookup or two turn into something a bit more substantial.

 

[FunFunk]

I completely agree with you SonOfSoblone.

However for those who want to go ahead and seek out an LTR immediantly. Well that's why sites like Cupid.com are in business.

For hooking up (As in fucking, sucking, dating, or fuck buddies)

Manhunt
Craigslist (LOL)
Squirt
Adam4Adam

And there was some nude something things. Forgot the name. Maybe nudedude.

For looking for friendship, relationships, and hook ups I suggest these.

recon.com
silverdaddies.com
findfred.com

I'm sorry but those cupid sites are so fucking spamish. I think I did it once and it took tons of verifications and emails back and forth for me to actually talk to the guy. It was retarded. It's very limited if you aren't paying.

Some of the sites I listed limit you a little if you aren't a paying member. Except Adam4Adam. If it's not too bad. For example, you can browse profiles on manhunt but can't view full pictures if you aren't paid. Same for Recon and Squirt. Those sites limit how many profiles you can view a day and messages unless you pay. Even so being a free member doesn't limit you as much as something like Cupic or Outpersonals does. Outpersonals is one to stay away from.

Have you heard of gaypersonals, kinkpersonals, and anything else that has personals at the end? They are all the same and very limited if you don't pay and not worth paying.

Silverdaddies doesn't limit how many profiles you can look at but you can only send two messages a day and can't view someone's photo gallery. Only their main photo. That one actually is worth paying though. So is Recon. If manhunt works for you (as in guys in you're area) that is worth paying as well.

Gay.com used to be really good and even had a cool chat and a 3rd party chat applications to do multiple things but they changed it drastically and the chatrooms and profiles are not as good as they used to be and the whole UI for the site is kind of laggy and weird.

I've barely used FindFred. But I do like them because they give kick ass CD's at pride. Not that I'm biased or anything. I haven't really used them to give them a fair review. Oh it was dudesnude. That's what it was I just remembered it.

As for Smartphone apps Grindr isn't too bad BUT IT ALL DEPENDS ON THE GUYS IN YOU'RE AREA. It really does.

I don't really use dating/hook up sites anymore because I'm not really looking for sex or a relationship. But I used to go on dating/hook up sites all the time so I'm familar with the ones I know. But occasionally I get horny. We all do

Also something I haven't really looked into but find interesting. On some porn sites they have member pages where you can view the the models or amateurs and actually send them messages and some of them are actually looking to hook up. I'm sort of surprised how many are around the area I'm in. I don't know if that's something I'll ever do but the concept sounds cool. Of course that's probably something most people already knew. I'm in the whole dark ages with the porn star world.

Thanks for all the info. Yeah, most dating and hookup sites are great at taking up your time but spotty on delivering results. Also, it tends to be much easier to find people when you're new to a site. After you've been using a given site for a few weeks, you're likely to find fewer and fewer "matches." Anyway, I'll try some of the ones you mentioned.

 

[arpeggi]

Apparently OkCupid was recently purchased by Match.com.

Expect required membership fees in the future.

 

[BrownBoi89]

Apparently OkCupid was recently purchased by Match.com.

Expect required membership fees in the future.

DANG! Oh well...I wasn't having any luck on that site anyways lol.

 

[altlover85]

It's sad to hear gay.com went down the tubes.

I met my first bf on planetout.com, but I think that merged with gay.com at some point.

I met my current bf on www.clubsilver.org. It's a site for older/younger relationships.

Both of my relationships were long distance initially. My first one was an hour and a half, but we ended up moving in together after a few months (which was way too fast) and my current relationship is 3 hours, but I'm trying to move to be with him because the whole reason why I even expanded my search that far was because I wanted to live in his city. Thankfully we see each other every other week or so for a couple of weeks at a time.

You may have to expand your search, but obviously long distance isn't for everyone.

Thanks for all the info. Yeah, most dating and hookup sites are great at taking up your time but spotty on delivering results. Also, it tends to be much easier to find people when you're new to a site. After you've been using a given site for a few weeks, you're likely to find fewer and fewer "matches." Anyway, I'll try some of the ones you mentioned.

This is so true.

Good luck to everyone searching for a guy and try to make sure you meet the guy within a month if not sooner so you don't waste your time on some flake.

 

[ckyb2]

I've never really used dating websites in the past, but because of this thread I registered for A4A.

After looking around in my area I have seen some people that I know...lol.

 

[FunFunk]

Apparently OkCupid was recently purchased by Match.com.

Expect required membership fees in the future.

Yeah, required membership fees to rip me off, lots of spam to annoy me and still absolutely no results. Just like my experience at Match.com. Guess I'll close my account soon -- assuming Match.com doesn't close OkCupid sooner (hey, it would be less competition for Match.com).