White Guys, are you or will you ever be into black guys?

[Callum]

I've recently been like borderline harassed by this gnarly dude on PoF. He's black, but he can't spell, so that makes him gross.

 

[blueranger]

i think you're confused with what sexual preference and sexual attraction is. sexual attraction is how you are wired and sexual preference is who you would like to sleep with. you can't control who you're attracted to BUT you can control your preferences.

i agree that you can't judge if someone is racist or not by whether they chose to sleep with blacks, whites or whoever. that's not right. however, i think it's a totally different story if that same person decides to make assumptions and prejudicial statements towards the same group that they don't deem attractive as if there's something wrong with that group of people. that's what i've seen. i don't think that not being sexually attracted or having sexual preference gives someone the right to belittle or to act like they're better than that person or that group of people that they're not interested in dating. that becomes something else entirely. there are many gay men that aren't attracted to women BUT they damn sure don't go around acting like they're better than women or belittling them because they're not sexually attracted to them. it doesn't keep them from treating and looking at them as human beings. that's what the problem is. that's when you can assume that someone is a racist because it goes beyond saying that you're not attracted to them.

now you are talking of a completely different thing i didnt even mention.

ofcourse that "acting like you're better", thinking and implying that you are superior, more valueable as human being in some way than people of other race, is a racist behaviour.

but that has nothing to do with your legitimate choice to sleep with who you are attracted to, and dont sleep with who you are not attracted to.

english is not my language, but sexual attraction is tightly related to sexual preference.

as an example, someone can say that that woman is beautiful, or that that black guy is gorgeous, but if he hasn't ever gotten even a hard on on a woman or a black man - he hasn't, and that's something he can really control, and that's not racist.

 

[Benvolio]

I'm cool with someone not being attracted to darker skin. There are some black guys who have lighter skin than some white guys.

Physical attraction based on race is racist since race is not defined by physical characteristics.

Physical attraction is not based on race, it is based on physical characteristics. What you are attempting to do is to silence discussion of attraction by prohibiting the use of generalizations. When someone says he is attracted to blonds, he really means "some blonds". Obviously, there are lots of ugly unattractive blonds in the world. And, when he says he is not attracted to black men, he has in mind the black men he has seen in the past. He is not necessarily saying that all black men--including those you say are lighter than some white guys--are unattractive. It is hard to have a discussion of attractiveness without using words and generalizations.

 

[blueranger]

Doesn't make any sense. If you're not attracted to physical characteristics then say that.
For example blacks and Latinos are so close in many characteristics many of the time (and many Latinos have black heritage) why do I so often see no blacks but not no Latinos.
It's bc it's a racial issue. It's a social issue. "Black" evokes a very social and emotional response.

So if you're not into dark skin just say so and then it won't be just blacks. It will be many Latinos, middle easterners, Indians, etc.

It's not as if blacks have such unique physical attributes that they are not shared by many other races.

No, latinos, indians, middle easterns and black people dont all "look the same"... Needless to say, ofcourse that people of any of that races doesnt "look better or worse" than others, beauty is ofcourse beyond race. But if someone has never been attracted to a man of a race X (got a hard on) it is not racist thing for him to say he is not into people of that race. He can respect and not discriminate or be friends with people of that race etc, but it is his decision and right who he wants to have sex with, and he is not racist because of that.

 

[blueranger]

Personally, I have never put in my add in any dating site that "I'm not interested in people of that or that race". Personally, I dont mind being contacted by people of any race and answer particulary like "sorry, i am not really into you, good luck".

But if someone puts in his personal add he's not interested in women, or effeminate guys, or people of some race - i dont really think he is mysoginist, homophobic or racist because of that.

I'm attracted to people of many different races, I'm caucasian, but i.e. I've been attracted to more Latinos than Caucasians. On the other hand, I have seen maybe 20 black people live in my whole life, like in the street, and havent ever been much close to them, or even had the opporunity to even talk to them, because I live in that part of Europe where black people are rare. Ofcourse, I have seen many of them over the media, television, internet.

but maybe I would try to "do something" and see how it goes with a guy like this one. i dont know. maybe i just never got the opportunity.

 

[blueranger]

and this guy aint bad either

 

[Taralen]

Which European country do you reside in?

Over the next few weeks, I will be doing some jet setting. First going from L.A. to Toronto to see my mother and spend a few days.

Then I will be visiting Italy, and if I behave myself possibly Croatia to meet my boyfriends family.

The only European country I been to is France. There were many black people there. Also Germany has lots of black people.

I'm just curious. I like knowing about peopke outside of America.

I sent you a pm too. Please respond. ^_^

 

[hermenegilde]

To answer the topic's title question:
I'm 100% white, have always been attracted by black men - and not because of the usual stereotypes (gigantic cocks, etc.) but rather due to several physical qualities most of black have to a higher level (most of all thicker skin textures, but also more arched butts, thicker lips...) But this is a non exclusive preference.
Thanks God, as the poster above said, I live in France where black men are many, and always had the chance to meet black men who pleased me and who didn't seem to dislike me...