Who do I come out to?..

[TroyBoiFromVA]

Thanks for all the support guys! I don't have much time so I am just going to comment on a few points for now.

First of all --- No, I do not want to kill myself or anything of the sort - perhaps I was misunderstood up there ^. I was trying to explain that i'm really -not- that far gone yet.

Second --- I am pretty overwhelmed at the response i've gotten and it really does help, I feel a lot better already!

I'll reply again later, just wanted to give a huge thanks to you all

 

[muscleboy82000]

Thanks for all the support guys! I don't have much time so I am just going to comment on a few points for now.

First of all --- No, I do not want to kill myself or anything of the sort - perhaps I was misunderstood up there ^. I was trying to explain that i'm really -not- that far gone yet.

Second --- I am pretty overwhelmed at the response i've gotten and it really does help, I feel a lot better already!

I'll reply again later, just wanted to give a huge thanks to you all

You are most welcome and glad to be able to help.

Let us know if you need anything and keep us advise on how things are going

 

[TroyBoiFromVA]

Sorry it took so long to post again.

Nothing really has changed at all, although I did accept an old friend's offer of going to Atlantic City for a week.(A week ago I would have found some way to back out of it!)

As I write this(At 4:40am, work in 3 hours!)I have decided what I lack most of all is motivation. Motivation towards everything in my life really.

Probaly going to sound extremely lame, but I actually read a book that my sister was reading[Dear John- Nicholas Sparks] and wanted to cry because I was so jealous of the love they had!!!

I need to stop feeling so sorry for myself.

 

[G-Lexington]

Nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself as long as it achieves what it needs to - getting you off your tail and getting something done. The trip is a great step in the right direction. Keep working on pushing your boundaries outwards until you're happy where they are. Good luck!

Lex

 

[Yeehaw]

My only advice to you, is to be who you are, and live your life from the beginning at college. Come out, or hang out with the people you think you would be most comfortable with. I made the mistake when going to University, to not come out, or not seek people who fit my lifestyle. So now, it has become another four years of highschool..ALL over again. Don't let that happen! You don't want to repeat highschool. Just my opinion.

so true, I completely ignored the gay part of me when I was in university until the 4th year, which was already late, by the end of the year I made only one gay friend...

I'd say the sooner you come out (even just to yourself and gay people) the better. join gay groups or volunteer, but don't have expectations from the groups/events you join, just take it easy, most of the time you're not going to meet a great friend first few times around...

 

[TroyBoiFromVA]

Nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself as long as it achieves what it needs to - getting you off your tail and getting something done. The trip is a great step in the right direction. Keep working on pushing your boundaries outwards until you're happy where they are. Good luck!

Lex

uh huh....any day now..

 

[TroyBoiFromVA]

Ugh! I just don't know what to do. I need better Gaydar, or something :-|

 

[3nipples]

Quite frankly, 18 was a horrible age for many of us. Things get better and then keep on getting better. Trust me on that.

As much as you can, try to relax and take things as they come. You are going to feel more comfortable about yourself and being gay. Your gaydar is going to get better.

 

[DonDon]

Ugh! I just don't know what to do. I need better Gaydar, or something :-|

Honey, I'm 38 and my gaydar still sucks!!! LOL! I find it much easier to just go where gay people hang out, a gay and lesbian center, gay bar or coffee house, gay pride events. That way if you hit on a straight person there, they'll be much more understanding about it and they'll be the one who's a little embarrassed rather than you.

 

[Yeehaw]

It's all about momentum. I know where you're coming from when you say that you feel like you have no motivation. It seems so big and looming when you try to plan it out. Once you make a step, you build a bit of momentum. Just keep going and it gets easier and easier. Make a friend and become friends with their friends. Go to a party or a club. Or what about someone at school? In class?

not to sound discouraging, sometimes you may lose what you have built and have to step back and rebuild the momentum. My closest gay friend just ended our friendship by cutting me out of his profile, over virtually nothing. I met a few friends thru him but I'm not really close to any of them. People like me who are just starting to make gay friends should probably expand their gay network and not stick to one.

 

[TroyBoiFromVA]

Anyway, something I did not add before:

I_was_out to someone I worked with, we were friends for a while and he ended up transferring and we never spoke again.(I really did not respect his "ways" with other guys, and I really was not "open" with him, so it hardly counts)

 

[TroyBoiFromVA]

Anyway, anyone from VA?!

 

[G-Lexington]

Not I. I'm 2000 miles away. You might start a new thread in the "Looking for Friends" section, entitled "Virginia"...

Lex

 

[TroyBoiFromVA]

 

[provenlogic]

Something wrong?? Having a bad time?

 

[TroyBoiFromVA]

Nothing new is all!

 

[SurferBoyKai]

first of all brah, welcome to JUB! secondly, congrats on graduating high school!

wow...i can't believe so many of you guys had such gnarly experiences in high school. i was an out bisexual in high school. no one cared. i was popular, but in the jock sense of it. i was popular in the sense of i was able to literally hang out with any clique and fit in. i could hang out with the band geeks, and then hang out with the jocks. i could be with the auto class people, then hang out with the nerds.

as for yer question, "who do i come out to?" brah, i dunno if it's been said yet, but i say come out to whomever yer most comfortable comin out to, yah? i'm gonna be starting college in the winter term. my cousin told me that there are so many different kinds of people that anyone can find someone a group of friends. i also hear that people in college are a lot more accepting of people (not just GLBT, but all sorts of people) than high school. so i'm shure you'll find someone you can come out to brah.

good luck in college!