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Who pays for what in a gay relationship?

I have to fight my boyfriend to let me pay for anything. It's the only thing I don't like about him.
 
I abide by the universal rule: top pays 100%, bottom pays 0 and vers pays 50%.
 
I usually pay, as I make 5 or 10 times, or more, than the guys I date. I have only dated men of average income or lower-average, as I end up liking men who do things they are passionate about regardless of pay (ie... Artist, teacher, engineer).
 
He knows he will be in my ass when we get back to his place. He pays.
 
loki81 said:
it's totally an annoying pride thing with some guys.

not that I'm fabulously wealthy, but I make pretty decent money, don't have any debt, and my expenses overall are pretty low (renting a house that my family owns helps)... but because of my work schedule (I don't work M-F, 9-5) I end up dating a lot of guys who are unemployed, working retail, etc.

and I totally don't mind paying for whatever, but some guys get like butthurt over it and would rather do nothing when they're broke than let me pay for them.
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I know, and it bugs me when they won't just let me pay. It's hard for them to relate when I explain I do not want to date some Type A asshole, that works all the time, because I'm already that guy, and refuse to compete with my bfs job to get time off to spend together. It's hard enough when 1 job is a career that demands a 24/7 schedule some weeks. Money is not a competition in my relationships.
 
and I totally don't mind paying for whatever, but some guys get like butthurt over it and would rather do nothing when they're broke than let me pay for them.
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I don't know if it's that extreme. In my case, I've taken care of and provided for myself my entire life so having someone come along and want to "take care of me" because he makes an exorbitant amount of money just doesn't sit right with me. I don't really see it as being prideful, but I am my own person and I think paying for things I want/need is something I need to take of myself. I have no problem with him buying me the occasional gift or whatever but it doesn't make me happy when people try to pay for everything every time.
 
within reason, at least. my ex used to give me shit about never buying him gifts (and meanwhile, not only was I paying for everything we did, but it wasn't as if he was buying me gifts). I didn't put up with that for long.
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It's the complete opposite with me. He's constantly buying me stuff all the time. I think he may just have a shopping addiction and is using me as the outlet lol. But, seriously, from what I understand it's not really him trying to spoil me (he's not my "daddy" or whatever the fuck people call it) it's just that money is no object to him so whenever he sees something he thinks I'll like he just buys it. It's nice every once in a while but I have so much stuff clogging up my apartment now it's ridiculous. I think it might be some sort of ploy to get me to move in with him...
 
Elvin said:
I don't like being treated. It makes me feel weird. I am usually the one picking up the check. I do this a lot with friends.
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I'm a bit of the same way. I don't mind picking up the check but if you ask me out to dinner and your wallet is shut come check time, I will make a note of that.
 
I've found that guys who are less 'conventionally attractive' are more eager to pay when on a date with a hot guy.

So I guess a sure-fire way to get free meals for life is to date the hideous?
 
Elvin said:
I am usually the one picking up the check. I do this a lot with friends.
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I'm the same way. But...it's also really nice once in a while, someone else picks up the bill.
 
My boyfriend and I take turns. He pays more than I do though lol. While we were dating we usually just said whoever invited/made the plans it was their treat, cuz their idea. And then if we were going with a bunch of people, whoever had more funds at the time would pay for the other :)
 
I've found that the key to a good relationship is discussion.

This has worked surprisingly well in my gay relationships, my platonic relationships, my friendships and also in regards to who paid for what in my gay relationships.

Just my personal opinion.
 
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