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Who pays for what in a gay relationship?

If you ask a guy out, you should be willing to pay. If he asks you, let's assume he intends to pay. But in a steady relationship- take turns!
 
He buys the lube. I buy the condoms.


Just kidding...we don't use condoms. :badgrin:
 
if we both have the money, it doesnt really matter who pays. if one or the other does, then they pay.
 
FanofFiction said:
If you ask a guy out, you should be willing to pay. If he asks you, let's assume he intends to pay. But in a steady relationship- take turns!
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^Agree altho' I also like to split the bill on a first date, regardless of who asked whom to go out to dinner. I don't feel entirely confortable letting a virtual stranger buy me dinner - a date does take two, after all :) If I invite a guy out, sure the bill is on me by default but nice if he offers to split.

Splitting expenses on the evening (ie: one pays for dinner, another pays for movies, etc) only works for me if you're going somewhere else sunstantial after the date. A great dinner can cost quite a bit, whereas paying for parking/movies is hardly the in the same league. It's a token, sure, but hardly evens it out. Still, there's romance to consider... :)
 
skips said:
I've found that the key to a good relationship is discussion
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Exactly. I'm reminded by this thread of a similar gratuitous dating charade; "wait three days before you call". I believe superfluous guidelines such as these are the problem with dating and relationships in general. Everyone seems so busy second-guessing how they act and feel based upon such absurdly contrived 'rules', and playing fatuous games, that they over-complicate the situation and find themselves feeling too uncomfortable to simply be themselves. Sure, accentuate your more appealing characteristics if you're interested, but if we all simply communicated openly and honestly, abandoned the extraneous games / presumed 'roles', and were just honest about what we were thinking and feeling, things would be so much easier.

Any universal 'rule' or 'guideline' attempting to dictate 'which person pays for what' is completely redundant in my eyes. Is it so difficult for two individuals to communicate with each other, to work out the dynamic of their own relationship between themselves, that they feel it necessary for an extrinsic source to instruct how they should interact with each other? Ridiculous.
 
^I agree that universal rules can be silly.

Do what works for you and seems reasonable.

Be careful around money. If a guy always expects you to pay, he could be looking for a sugar daddy. If he always wants to pay, he could be insecure or desperate.

On the other hand, if you split everything exactly 50/50, that feels more like a business relationship than friends or lovers.

Be flexible if you have wildly disparate incomes. Do what works for you.
 
Depends...

The b/f and I usually have a system where last one to pay doesn't have to pay the next time around...

So, if we go out and I pay; the next time we go out, he pays. On the occasion where there is a really large bill, anything over $35 really, we usually tend to split it right down the middle to be fair.

Though, on occasion, one of us have absorbed the large bill on our own. Usually, if we went out for a reason (birthday dinner, etc.) and felt we should cover the whole bill.
 
Whoeves makes the most money should pay, and if they both make money then they can take turns, one pays on Friday, the other on Saturday etc etc...

So far, I didn't need to discuss this with my ex or my current boyfriend. With my ex he pretty much paid for everything (he made money, I was in school) with my current BF is kinda 50/50. It just happened naturally in both situations.
 
I will always pay the bill, and tip the staff well if they provided good service for either a male or female date. I have a slight personal issue with accepting money, even small money, gives me a funny feeling that I dislike.

Paying for a significant other makes me feel good though, especially if I have asked THEM out on a date, I don't see why they should pay. If they really feel like it, they can pay me back another way, and no that wasn't supposed to sound sexual :P
 
chrisw87 said:
I will always pay the bill, and tip the staff well if they provided good service for either a male or female date. I have a slight personal issue with accepting money, even small money, gives me a funny feeling that I dislike.

Paying for a significant other makes me feel good though, especially if I have asked THEM out on a date, I don't see why they should pay. If they really feel like it, they can pay me back another way, and no that wasn't supposed to sound sexual :P
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I love guys with this mentality, not because I want people to pay for me, but because it seems so manly for a guy to want to take care of you that it can be such a turn on. ..| good.
 
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