Whore or normal?

[thelaw18489]

The fight in this thread made me laugh. Some people take sex allot more serious then it is. Casual sex is just that a means to an end theres no love or feeling behind it other then maybe lust. Do not confuse casual sex with the act of making love which is the definition of what happens when in a relationship. Two different things do not hold someone to the relationship standard when comming to sex two completly diffrent things. One of the acts is filling a physical need the other is filling a spiritual need. Enough said.

 

[bankside]

The fight in this thread made me laugh. Some people take sex allot more serious then it is. Casual sex is just that a means to an end theres no love or feeling behind it other then maybe lust. Do not confuse casual sex with the act of making love which is the definition of what happens when in a relationship. Two different things do not hold someone to the relationship standard when comming to sex two completly diffrent things. One of the acts is filling a physical need the other is filling a spiritual need. Enough said.

The trouble is, people who can reduce another human being to the level of a human Fleshjack just good enough for getting off, are generally not the most skillful people for a relationship.

 

[eastofeden]

The trouble is, people who can reduce another human being to the level of a human Fleshjack just good enough for getting off, are generally not the most skillful people for a relationship.

Well...that is certainly not true. I have a great relationship...26 1/2 years...and I loved casual sex before I met him and I found it rewarding. I feel it added to who I am versus having subtracted and because of it I brought alot more honesty and wisdom and a lack of false images and expectations to the table in my relationship....and those things have helped make it as successful as it has been.

There is far too much shame and unfortunate value judgements associated with sex in the world.

 

[Rolyo85]

Well...that is certainly not true. I have a great relationship...26 1/2 years...and I loved casual sex before I met him and I found it rewarding. I feel it added to who I am versus having subtracted and because of it I brought alot more honesty and wisdom and a lack of false images and expectations to the table in my relationship....and those things have helped make it as successful as it has been.

There is far too much shame and unfortunate value judgements associated with sex in the world.

Quoted for holy scripture.

 

[winterkill]

I'm having a hell of a lot of fun.

A heartwarming short story – you are only 19 years old but you fully understand the PLEASURES OF HOMOSEXUALITY and act accordingly, ignoring the prudish preachers of monogamy. One or two new sex partners per day are perfect for me, so you are quite monkish from my point of view. Sexually-transmitted diseases should not be a problem if they are curable. Smooth sailing with a lot of sex is much more healthy than wasting months and years with lovesickness and failed suicide attempts. Sex is a fine art that requires beauty and intuitive synchronization. Naked conversations with strangers are hard to top in terms of openness; each person comes with a different perspective, teaching you so much more about life than a single sex partner could do. I don't see how a heterosexual lifestyle can compete with that. For the future I wish you several simultaneous relationships (polyamory) and additional sex ad libitum.

 

[Rolyo85]

Yeah, that was pretty gross.

 

[seven2go]

The more partners you have, the bigger the chance you'll get an STD. Just always make sure to play safe and get tested regularly. Don't let anyone pressure you into barebacking. If they bareback, there's a really good chance they already have HIV. You don't want to have HIV ever. [STRIKE]Especially at such a young age.[/STRIKE]

There........MUCH better........

 

[Rolyo85]

Yeah, barebacking is an absolute NO, regardless of how hot they are, what they promise and how clean they claim to be. And quite frankly, my philosophy is "if you want to bareback with me, how many others have you barebacked with?" I just don't get involved with guys like that.

 

[Rolyo85]

Lol weird decisions you made from one asshole encounter (see what I did there?). The one I'd make would be "better screening".

 

[bankside]

I have a bad story about this.
I've met this guy he was all nice, and we decided to have some awesome sex. Well it was tight nice until I asked him to put a condom on. He did. He started fucking me and then he pulled out. He started to fuck me again and it was totally different feeling. I reached back and I realized he had no condom on. I was sort of fucked up and shouted his head off. After that I had to blackmail him for a month because he was not willing to take a HIV test without pressure. The bloody asshole...

Ever since than: No sex with strangers and no sex on first date.
And I also decided that until I can't trust someone I will top.

This is why I was never willing to have sex with a stranger that I might have to end up blackmailing for a month to get him to have an HIV test. That just never seemed erotic.

The interesting part is being okay fucking people that you don't trust as long as you're not bottoming. If they were smart and savvy then shouldn't they only be interested in topping strangers? This seems like a way to end up fucking men who are gullible or who don't give a fuck, and I think the odds of them having a disease go way up, if I follow your logic.

 

[billybob109]

As long as it is safe sex I say there are no labels! Have fun while you can!

 

[bananagoof]

You said it bothers you slightly, but you're having fun. It sounds like you're giving yourself a lot of freedom, which can be very, very fun...but never forget the consequences. As others have pointed out, this is your one and only body you're playing with here, and HIV testing won't turn up a disease within days of an encounter. The more of these random encounters you have, the more the chances you'll catch something, pass it along, and then never even know when or who you caught it from.

I think there's something to be said for restraint and self-control. Maybe tone it down for a little while and see how hard that is for you. Take a month, cool your jets. If you find it a near impossible task, then you may be developing a bit of an addiction and should think about what's causing you to turn to sex so often for gratification.

 

[HollisterBoy93]

If no answer would change your attitude and sexual activity, why ask?
I'm a pretty traditional guy (I could get married tomorrow if I met the right guy), and I don't necessarily think you're a whore or a slut. I think you're having a lot of sex with a lot of people which is dangerous. But if you're wrapping that dick up, then it's nobody's problem besides your own (psychologically speaking). Keep having safe fun and embrace your sexuality.

 

[hanzosword]

Nobody else's opinion matters on this except yours. You're having fun so enjoy yourself. I don't see a problem with it. Live all the life you can live

 

[MorrisseyX]

As long as the OP is protecting himself and having safer sex he should be fine. The whole whore/slut thing is a joke because it is just shaming. What's the difference between meeting someone in a gay bar or at a bathhouse or on the internet or on grindr?

The OP just has to decide what he thinks he can handle. If he can handle having sex twice a week with different guys more power to him. But if the OP feels he wants an emotional connection to someone then try something different.

 

[Chrizze]

You should do what YOU want to do,not what you think someone else wants you (except if you are in relationship) to,or,in this case,think they want."as long you do no harm,do what ye will".Just play safe,ok? Medicines for HIV aren't exactly aspirins,you know.