Why am I so turned on by str8 guys?

[looseliam]

Simple:

wanting that which you can not have

 

[Willie Boy]

Maybe its the unachievable aspect to it?

 

[Rex]

I agree. It's the masculinity and the wanting what you can't have thing but I think eventually you're going to want more than just sex and seek out other types of guys.

 

[unclaimedblessing]

Some guys enjoy the challenge, forbidden fruit is always the sweetest.

 

[boxerdudeuk]

also being gay, we're typically attracted to hyper masculinity. i mean, there's lots of guys out there that aren't too far from being women except for the plumbing.

i myself am attracted to masculine guys and i'm one myself - i'm not attracted to effeminate men in the least. it's just a personal thing.

i was lucky enough to date guys who were like me.

don't get me wrong - effeminate guys are still guys and i hope they find the happiness we all deserve, but it's a personal thing.

it all boils down to what drives you sexually. for me, it's a masculine guy. if a dude utters the word "girlfriend" or "sister/sista" when talking about other guys - i'm typically turned off immediately.

 

[a little edgy]

When you see a hot, masculine guy, and you feel a strong attraction to him because he's straight, how do you know he's straight?

I'm not justforfun26, but speaking for myself:

First of all, there's the wedding ring, if he's wearing one. I know that some gay couples wear them and that some men who are married to women are not straight, but the great majority of married men are straight.

Secondly, there are the basic odds. 90+% of all men are straight. Once you filter out those who set off your gaydar, chances are that almost all of the remainder are straight. In other words, if you assume that any man who seems straight IS straight, you'll be right at least 95 times out of 100.

Finally, some men just radiate heterosexuality. I don't know exactly how to describe it--whether it's the expressions on their faces, the way they walk or talk or whatever--but there are some men (by no means all hetero males fit this category) who you just know are straight. Those are the sexiest of all.

 

[kingkhan]

Why not see masculine bi guys? As a someone who is bi I am masculine but, like cock and there seems to be more guys like this then you realize. The reason that you like str8 guys like others have said is becuase they portray masculinity I doubt that u like them becuase they like women I doubt you like someone like me just becuase I like women.

 

[a little edgy]

You might be surprised though, some of those who radiate heterosexuality also love cock and you'd never guess it.

Could be, but then they wouldn't be straight. It's not just about acting or looking straight, it's about BEING straight.

I think the solution to being hung up on straight guys is to have sex a few times with guys who are indeed 100% straight. They won't do much for you in bed, so it's kind of one-sided. Forget about kissing and cuddling and romancing. They are just there to get their rocks off. If you picked up a gay guy and he just got his rocks off and that was that, would you still be attracted? And some straight guys are kind of unappealing when naked and don't really keep up their appearances well, may be ungroomed and even not very clean - stinky butt even after they shower.

It hasn't been my experience that straight guys* are less clean than gay guys. Otherwise, it could be true that they are not as careful about (read: obsessed with) their looks as many gays. But: (a) This is changing, I'm sorry to say, with the rise of metrosexuality and "manscaping" (ugh!); and (b) I prefer men who are more natural and less primped, pumped, and pretty anyway.

WRT kissing and cuddling and straight guys just wanting to get their rocks off, this is covered in the str8 they react badly after they cum thread. Basically, if you want romance and cuddling, str8 guys are not for you. Similarly, if you expect reciprocal sexual service, then you're probably going to be disappointed.

bw92116, you make good points, but I think you may be missing the fundamental idea that it's the mere fact of the man being straight that's attractive. Either you like them, or you don't. If you do, then the other stuff doesn't matter. If you don't, then why bother?

*Of course, they can't be 100% straight if they had sex with me, which is part of the frustration and attraction: the unattainability of truly straight men.

The reason that you like str8 guys like others have said is becuase they portray masculinity I doubt that u like them becuase they like women I doubt you like someone like me just becuase I like women.

kingkhan, having sex with women is a key part of the masculinity of straight guys for obvious reasons. So, in fact, I DO find bi men who are masculine to be hot, especially if they are actively bisexual--that is, they enjoy fucking women and try to do it often.

 

[kingkhan]

a little edgy So how about nerdy bi guys who can't get women but likes doing stuff with guys? Or you probably want the ultra macho man who is the ladies man.

But, I kind of understand what you are saying so for gay guys who like str8 guys does it turn you on to watch str8 guys fuck women? and then do fantasize you where the women?

 

[filipbong]

it's chemistry, my dear...
the musk, the pheromones, the manly vapors and juices...

 

[unclaimedblessing]

justforfun26.
Several have given very valid opinions, but I would like to add some words of caution.
Messing with straight guys could end up badly for you.
Several weeks ago there was a members thread here (I don't remember the OP's name) who had sex with his straight best friend. Afterwards the straight guy beat the piss out of him and hurt his dog so badly it had to be euthanized.
The straaight guy was arrested and subsequently released and they were awaiting a court date.
We don't have total control over who we are attracted to, but you probably should try to cultivate a taste for gay/bi men. There is never a satisfactory conclusion to a gay/straight relationship for either party.

 

[a little edgy]

a little edgy So how about nerdy bi guys who can't get women but likes doing stuff with guys? Or you probably want the ultra macho man who is the ladies man.

Depends on the kind of nerdiness. If you mean classic nerds like science and computer geeks ... that's pretty hot, actually, because it's masculine. In fact, it's sexier than noisy, posturing machismo, which I tend to think is mostly a pose. Arts and theater geeks ... not so much; that's a bit feminine for my taste.

But, I kind of understand what you are saying so for gay guys who like str8 guys does it turn you on to watch str8 guys fuck women? and then do fantasize you where the women?

Yes to watching. Aren't most people here turned on by that? I don't generally put myself into the porn that I'm watching, so no to fantasizing in the way you describe.

 

[kingkhan]

Depends on the kind of nerdiness. If you mean classic nerds like science and computer geeks ... that's pretty hot, actually, because it's masculine. In fact, it's sexier than noisy, posturing machismo, which I tend to think is mostly a pose. Arts and theater geeks ... not so much; that's a bit feminine for my taste.

Yes to watching. Aren't most people here turned on by that? I don't generally put myself into the porn that I'm watching, so no to fantasizing in the way you describe.

I meant classic nerds.Arts and theater geeks would come off as gay to me. And thanks for answering my questions. I think I could be a gay guys "straight"nerdy guy but, I think for gay guys who want str8 guys should be aware that a str8 guy would probably leave you for a women quick. I know I probably would and I would feel bad doing so but, it would be hard not too becuase, I am primarily attracted to women. Then again I have never been in that situation.

 

[KCMoeDavis]

In general:
1, Don't act like girls
2, Don't over act manly.

 

[R.B.S.]

what drives you sexually. for me, it's a masculine guy. if a dude utters the word "girlfriend" or "sister/sista" when talking about other guys - i'm typically turned off immediately.

I have always been turned on by masculine straight jocks. In my university there was one effeminate gay boy - he didn't attract me at all.

And I was drooling over one straight soccer jock. He was always talking about soccer and girls. I envyed the girls for having sex with such a hot buck.

But lots of str8 men aren't attractive at all. Some of them are just farts.

So, it's masculinity that attracts me.

 

[steve621]

Simple:

wanting that which you can not have

took the words right out of my mouth

 

[a little edgy]

it's the mere fact of the man being straight that's attractive

So an ugly, scrawny guy is attractive to gay men, by the mere fact that he's straight?

Thus, Woody Allen should be every gay man's dreamboat, by the mere fact that he's straight.

I was speaking for myself, not all gay men. Secondly, heterosexuality is an attractive quality, like being tall or well-built or masculine in demeanor. That doesn't mean that ALL straight men are attractive, any more than all tall men are attractive. However, being straight does add a dimension of appeal that can overcome other deficits. That is, a straight guy who's a "5" in looks will be more attractive TO ME than a gay guy who's a "5."

When I express interest in a guy and he starts mentioning women, pussy, etc...I can take a hint and move on. I used to come on to guys back in the day and have that happen...I made myself change my mindset about them right then and there. No use chasing after someone who doesn't want you.

Ah, but you can still worship them from afar. However, when you begin to identify with Rose from Two and a Half Men, then you can be pretty sure that you're in too deep.

 

[Sa245cool]

this guy was at the bar with me at my work after i got out. he kept buying me drinks. apparently he was straight but he was flirting with me so hard and showing me his muscles. we talked about my homosexuality and he was being really playful and i swear to god i thought my dick was going to explode. point being that if this was last year i would have found a way into his pants but a word to anyone who is even the slightest bit emotionally unstable or just in a period of instability: straight guys can kind of be similar to a black hole. but to be honest i really think the only way you can learn this is to be more upfront about your sexuality so if that means hitting on straight guys then by all means go for it. but i do think the whole phenomena of gay guys being attracted to straight men (and only straight men) has a lot to do with feeling uncomfortable with your sexuality. thats when you find yourself in a rest stop getting serviced by a man with no teeth and burn scars. (mmmm so manly)

 

[MystikWizard]

To answer the question. We all want what we can't have.

 

[cocksmells]

people have mentioned liking what you can't get, the masculinity etc, but I think I know what you mean. it is their confidence. even the nerdiest straight guy belongs. he has trouble getting the woman, but there are no questions, no hurdles. life was made for the straight man. I think it gets in your head and ideas warp, like if I was with him things would be easier. but as soon as he gets with you the world will see him as a fag and things will change. you are wrestling with cards you were dealt. being gay, even those that accept it, like it and wouldn't want to be straight had years or even decades before that where they had to find their place. that is how it is for now. I think as gay becomes more accepted there will be less of a difference in how a gay boy socially develops as opposed to their straight counterparts. how many times as a kid did you hear a gay guy was a worthless cocksucker? even if you worked through the guilt, the sexual fetish is already developed. find another guy with a high sex drive and take it slow. remember together how just rubbing dicks with a guy was so hot.