Why are most straight guys...

[yehme2]

I hate it when straight guys think that just because you might be gay that your attracted to them. For example, there is this really rude retard in my class and once just out of the blue asked "are you gay? cause i think u act like it" or something. And check it, i have never really spoken to him, how fucking rude is that? And I heard he was married so i asked him politely and nicely if he was and started to act like i was hitting on him or something. UGGHHHHHH. Its not just him, other straight guys make being gay such a BIG FUCKING ISSUE when even gay people themselves don't, at least i dont. I am starting to really dislike being around straight guys, not all. Like i hate when they're like "NO DUDE, THAT FUCKING GAYY!!". It gets me mad, and sometimes i feel like shouting "I AM GAY SO STFU YOU STUPID FUCK". I am also not that flamboyant and people are generally surprised when i tell them that I am bi (im still experimenting).

Sorry, i just had to let that out, and if any of you guys experienced something like this tell me and also comment

 

[edawg81]

LoL...I feel your pain ! As i see, hear and feel some of this as well...

 

[aijalon18]

I'm definitely not one to defend straight guys at all but it's not entirely their fault. SO many gay guys are attracted to any straight guy no matter how disgusting, nasty, shitty personality, or terrible they are. Just the fact that they are straight turns them on. It's incredible. And just look at how many stories there are in this very forum about all these gay guys who fall for their straight friends.

 

[BlondeCanadian]

Im not going to lie if i was straight and asked someone if they were gay and thay asked if i was married i would come to the same conclusion

 

[G-Lexington]

Take a look at all the "I'm in love with my straight friend" and "How do I blow a straight friend" threads in this section, then ask again.

Lex

 

[CudDULL]

i deal with this sometimes but rarely, i think most straight guys just aren't open enough with their own sexuality to realize that not every gay guy is trying to hook up with every guy they see, including a straight guy.

 

[M4P]

These are the most ignorant and narrow minded of straight guys

Years ago a pig of a straight guy at a Mexican resort found out I was gay and said to me "well don't look at me". I looked at him and replied "don't flatter yourself". That shut him down

What is it with these guys? Is every straight man attracted to every straight woman? Not!

 

[Jerry]

I've seen it too and yes, it is annoying.

I think I've done a little to help the cause because the first guy I came out to used to be like that. Now that he knows I'm gay and have been gay since way before he ever knew me, I think his view of gays is changing a little. When I come out to more friends, I can only assume they will shed some of their ignorant strereotypes too. Hopefully they will share their newfound wisdom with others

 

[omgitsmetoo]

If ever a straight man pulled that whole "Oh, you're gay, that means you MUST be attracted to me!" crap, I'd straight up tell him that "You have nothing to worry about, you aren't attractive enough for me to want to try anything with you, anyway" or "You're far too unattractive for that to be your first thought when finding out somebody is gay."

 

[bronzeganymede]

i totally understand how you feel, its very frustrating. most straight guys still think of gays as mincing, swishy, lisping fems out to fuck every man, gay or straight, in the world. unfortunately there are gays who stick to this stereotype and it certainly doesnt help when certains gays go after straights trying to turn them out. personally speaking, straight guys make me uncomfortable at times and i leave them alone. ive never fallen for one nor flirted or tried anything with one. and the few times a straight guy ever acted like he was uncomfortable with my sexuality or thought i was after them, ive politely put them in their place. they need to be educated sometimes. this is an age old problem, people thinking of others as stereotypes and not as people.

 

[G-Lexington]

And for the record, I know of one - ONE - straight guy who was offended by my sexuality because he thought that meant I was "checking him out". He started actively avoiding me at work, but being the clueless gargoyle I am, I didn't notice for over a month. Finally, he mentioned something to me, and I said "With YOU? Ugh, I'd rather go straight." And he got offended at THAT, too.

I finally told him, "Vince, seriously, do you want to fuck EVERY single woman you walk by? Really?" That was all it took.

Lex

 

[yehme2]

I think straight guys, at least most, like to flatter their egos by saying gay guys are attracted to them. This is one of the reasons why some straight guys like to go to gay clubs to get male attention, i know its the wrong kinda of attention, but for a fragile straight ego, IT IS STILL ATTENTION!

The funny thing is, the guy that thought i was hitting on him is the ugliest and fattest guy in the entire class. Next time he says something like this I am going to blast on him, like hot water in a kettle. lol. Thanks for the feedback.

 

[Esquire0399]

I know how you feel dude. I hear this shit all the time from my roommate. We were best friends until I realized how huge of a homophobe he is (he has no idea I'm gay) and now we've just drifted apart. It's pretty sad actually. He gets so pissed and insecure when we have friends over and my gay friend comes as well, saying things like "I really don't want him staring at my dick," to which I'd like to reply "shut the fuck up you arrogant asshole. What the hell makes you think anybody wants to." But since we have to live together for another semester before we graduate, it's just easier to ignore it for now, as much as it pisses me off.

 

[Lefty]

yehme, rather than a big scene just quiwtly stop and look him head to foot and remark..." frankly humbert, i am not now and hope that i never get that desperate...then smile and walk away...much more sophisticated and adult a response in my book.

esquire,the next time 'roomie' makes a crack like that you could just sayroomie, you have nothing to worry about, i've seen you in the showers (or elsewhere) and theres nothing there that elwood couldn't upgrade from in a heartbeat. or trust me roomie, elwood has higher standards than that.

seriously guys, yelling screaming and hissy fits are just demeaning.. a few well chosen words are so much classier and more effective. in truth, if they are tooooo stupid to understand the subtle approach they aren't going to be put in their place...let alone 'straightened out by a big scene.

 

[erobert]

"This is one of the reasons why some straight guys like to go to gay clubs" I don't think they're that straight if they're hanging out at gay clubs. I mean I don't go to strip clubs to soak up all the female attention and boost my ego.

Anyway, I agree with what's been said. People tend to have high opinions of themselves but there's no need to get bitchy with them and make them think of more negative stereotypes to put in their ignorance bank.

Just be upfront with them that you're not attracted to them. Despite how they act in public straight men have feelings too.

 

[BlondeCanadian]

I was planning on moving in with a friend of mine this year and she lived with a guy we both know since highschool when she asked him he didnt want to live with me because i was gay and he thougt i would be all over him lol pissed me off sooo much

 

[Payton]

The one response I hate, (and I've heard it quite a few times actually) is when a straight male doesn't feel comfortable going to a gay orientated party, with his reasoning being, "They're all going to hit on me and stuff".

I was once heading out with my friend to a club, and it’s quite known that it’s a gay crowd on that particular night. One of other mates responded with that exact quote above.

After a few seconds of a blank stare, I had to assure him that gay men do have standards.

There tends to be two common reactions. It's either that, or as yehme2 mentioned, the guy will consciously flirt with you in order to get your interest and attention, only to boost his ego.

 

[jude swings]

now this topic has happened to me. some find out i'm bi and automatically think i'm into them which btw the majority of the times is NOT the case. it's a fucking ego thing but it really isn't any diff from bi or gay dudes who think everybody wants to fuck them when that is NOT always true. it's really just dudes and their inflated egos.

 

[Mstrshake]

I would never pursue a straight guy, as it is a huge invasion of privacy to do so without them wanting to or being curious.

The problem is that they have this idea in their minds that all of us want to bed as many straight men as possible and then brag about it afterwards. And the part that sucks the most is that some people actually do this, and it gives the rest of us a bad name, so their assumption isn't even a completely baseless one, rather just a generalization. I'd be more angry towards the gay men you see on television or in public who brag all the time about how many straight guys they have managed to sleep with, rather than the straight men who believe this misconception, were I you.

EDIT: I mean, it is one thing to be hopelessly in love or attracted to a straight man, but it should never matter so long as you can exercise the self control to not act on it on impulse? Unless he lets you or wants you to, then that is a different story.