Why Are You Single? Let's Solve This Dilemma

[Lasosa]

I'm too shy, and I have a severe lack of confidence/self-esteem.

 

[pmgunnerxx]

errr totally was... one of the last guys i really wanted to date said he liked me but i need to lose a few pounds

seriously I'd like to know where he thinks you should lose it from your adorable as is.

 

[Telstra]

I have anxiety and as a result, I think I will never meet anyone. And the body dysmorphic side of me says "why would anyone want to be with me"

i saw a programm on Oprah.
that guy was hot but he said he was ugly.

I think alot of people would want that guy if he change his mental thoughts.

 

[PabloZed]

I kinda think of us as sitting in a group, sharing. And I hear a lot of common themes, all of which I feel can be overcome. How we are viewed by others and how we views ourselves (which seems to be influenced by the former) is one theme.

I too care way too much about what other people say and think, but I care a lot less than I used to because I have grown more comfortable with myself and being in my own skin and my own body. Until we know and like ourselves, we are way too vulnerable to the outrageous slings and arrows of other people.

 

[Telstra]

because i'm fat

i just had alook at your pic.
You looks pretty hot there.

maybe you are picky ?

 

[JetSetJake]

A combination of factors already mentioned, plus a few that haven't been.

I find the following poem relevant to this thread:

Lord, grant me the courage to change the things I can;
The strength to accept the things I can't;
And the wisdom to know the difference.

 

[winterknight]

I've resigned myself to being single my whole life.

 

[Narcissism is fun]

Because it's hassle-free, it's cheap and people are annoying.

Thats why I'm single

 

[D-Base]

I'm single by choice. But that will be chaining eventually

Puka, whoever told you u are fat is either blind or stupid. Or both.

 

[probable]

i have no idea why i'm single. i mean, i'm clearly the perfect guy?

 

[Lord Booticus]

Well I'm not really that attractive and I carry a bit of extra weight, but the biggest obsticle is that I've not really met another gay guy in 4 years.

Not really being into the gay "scene" in a city that isn't really gay friendly means I've not really met anyone.

 

[Telstra]

ok my theory,
if you are happy with yourself first others will come.
If you are not happy with yourself, others won't come.

So look deep down at myself and not blaming others.

 

[Hot Hector]

because i'm fat

You look perfect to me.

Well I am single because I am too self conscious and don't go out. I am shy. And I'm in the closet (working on changing it all though).

 

[fabulouslyghetto]

I'm single by choice and if I so desire to start scoupin' niggas I don't really need any help, my game is 20/20. Thanks but no thanks.

 

[Fucker29]

Whores don't date. That's why I'm single.

 

[MetaKnight]

I'm still single because I find it too hard to open up my emotions most of the time, and because I'm too picky with people since I don't want to be disapointed in the long run.

 

[Fucker29]

by choice i guess - i'm having way too much fun

Yeah...without me!

 

[PabloZed]

Ah, a #3.

I was running around NYC when I was 19 so I know what you mean.

 

[fadeinout30]

I have been happily single for 4.5 years.

I absolutely hate the drama with relationships and the fact that men, gay or straight, always treats their "other" as I piece a property which I am not. I like to come and go as I please.

And no, I am not a whore.

 

[Kester]

I'm single cos I broke up with my b/f on Thursday night.