Why Are You Single? Let's Solve This Dilemma

[screwnutty]

i'm not ugly and in fact i think i clean up pretty well. i've been told that i'm funny and i know i'm smart. i can strike up a conversation with just about anyone and make friends pretty easy. my drawback is that i am not an ambercrombie model.

I get told the same thing by my friends. Yet nothing happens. Figure in a few years I just give up and get a dog or something for companionship. Devote my life to something else and leave this gay lifestyle to the younger crowd. Retire from the dating game that is.

 

[screwnutty]

Screwnutty, maybe you're looking for the wrong types.

Maybe. Course I'd like to actually meet a gay guy in person to see how rusty my skills are!! It's been 12 years now since college and I've never came across another gay person in my area at all. I'm out. I'm open etc. I have a good number of friends spread around my Ontario and the only gay guy they know is me. If it wasn't for JUB and TV. I'd swear I was the last one on the planet!

Hell, I even dropped the Doctor Who avatar and took up one of GL's enemy corp symbols to see if I can get noticed! Sorry GL! (ps: Yeah the story is amazing...but I've only read the first issue....it was at Chapters when I had some time to kill! )

 

[PabloZed]

Wow, 12 years? Dude, you could get your own reality show.

We both know you are not the only gay person in that whole area. Statistics claim gays are approximately 10% of the population, which would be 800 gays in your town. Say its only 1%, that would still mean 80. They are there, just in closet.

 

[Críostóir]

8000 people isn't big enough for anonymity, unfortunately. That's why so many gay people flee to the cities.

I recommend it, in fact. Cities are better!

(OK, I mean I'M cut out for the city and not the country. Just couldn't resist the joke. YMMV.)

 

[PabloZed]

A small community sounds nice to me. They probably have a nice bakery and have fresh produce. I suspect I will have to flee this city when the shit really hits the fan so I am scouting rural communities. Canada may just be the ticket.

How much does a little house cost?

 

[screwnutty]

A small community sounds nice to me. They probably have a nice bakery and have fresh produce. I suspect I will have to flee this city when the shit really hits the fan so I am scouting rural communities. Canada may just be the ticket.

How much does a little house cost?

Around $150,000 Canadian plus here in Goderich. Check out the town website.

http://www.goderich.ca/

I like it here and I'm comfortable and at 33 years old....I guess i've settled down and this is my town.

 

[PabloZed]

Very cute town, but I think I spotted some fags in the town pics. Those two clowns on a bike looked suspicious.

 

[gdude30]

Sure, one or more to be exact.

But I am of a different pov on some things than expressed here. I said looks matter, but in a subjective way. No one is attractive to everyone else so how can any of us expect to meet the expectations of everyone we meet? We have to be the best us. I know I can groom myself better, but I love being a bit of a slob. My clothes are sometimes threadbare. I need a haircut right now, but ya know, I sometimes like my hair long.

My main problem is that it takes a subpoena to get me out of the house. My friends don't even ask anymore. The irony is that I usually have a good time. My goal is to change that come spring and summer.

I guess there is that new problem of the economy, but then I don't drink.

You sound like you are fine. I am not sure if you are looking for a relationship though or if you are just going day by day and if one happens great and if one doesn't then that's fine too.

Searching too much can cause unnecessary strain. But sometimes something does need to be done.