Why are you single?

[Treborf]

The real reason -- none of that "I'm too focused on my career" nonsense.

Me: I'm single because I tend to retreat once I sense a relationship headed towards the next level. I just really like being alone sometimes and that alone time becomes hard to come by once a relationship gets serious. That might be something to work on for the new year, I guess. Add on.

 

[refujiunderground]

okay, i am single because i am currently trying to get more comfortable with myself and who i am. since september, i've been coming to terms that i'm gay and that it's not going to go anywhere. i might as well get used to it and stop lying to myself about being straight. i'm not straight and never will be. i thought that my future would be finding a woman that i was attracted to, settle down and have kids. for the past how many years let's say since i was 12 years old, i pretty much lied to myself about being straight and went through great lengths to validate it. things didn't go as planned. never had a girlfriend, never got laid, and despite the very few opportunities that to do both, you can say that i didn't want either. i wasn't attracted to the girls that were interested in me and i wasn't interested any pussy for that matter. that whole ordeal basically all went back to saying that i was gay and that that i was aiming for the wrong place. i was very angry and miserable too to the point where i was blaming women for me not getting a girlfriend or any pussy when it was just me.

a part of dealing with it has been me taking steps, self acceptance, not feeling ashamed of what i am naturally attracted to (guys) and eventually coming out which is something i haven't even done yet. i am now thinking about going to a few gay bars in the near future, next year i'm hoping and am open to finding a guy and everything else that comes with that.

now that i think of it, i've had opportunities to i guess date guys because i've pretty much set off other gay guys gaydars where they were pretty much persuing me or giving me the option to get with them for whatever. being that i was going through a period where i was in deep denial, i wasn't even considering it even though a part of me was like "let go and be happy. date him. loosen up your anus or go shove your dick up his asshole. let him be your man". so yeah, i fucked up but i have an excuse though. i wasn't ready but now, you can say i am nearly ready. not quite but when i am, i plan on catching up with what i missed out on. i hope to have a loving relationship with another man one day but until then, i'm pretty much just chilling. i'm not rushing shit. just coming to terms being gay is enough in itself. i'm happy with that because to be real with you, i never thought that i would have the balls to do this shit. as crazy as this sounds, some months ago at the way my life was going, i thought i would have probably killed somebody or killed myself before i would admit to myself that i'm gay.

 

[Wcw10891]

im single because: I choose not to put myself out there to meet someone, and would rather just hang out with my straight friends, who i am obsessed with.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Because I don't want to date anymore at this present time. And since I run into guys that don't want to date either, or don't know what a date is, or are always wanting to be "discreet" and hidden and whatever, I've just decided I don't have time for it.

Wanna be an object, fine. Wanna be a friend, fine. Just don't come at me like you wanna be with me, cuz right now i'm incapable of believing it.

 

[RaKroma]

I'm not making real effort to meet guys.
I feel cynical about relationships and jaded with guys.
I don't feel like I have much to offer, so I avoid dating.
I have too much shit with personal life to get back in order.
I sometimes act awkward and feel insecure about my looks.

 

[martin6]

Let's just say that a couple of my friends think I'm actually Jerry Seinfeld. There's always something I can't stand about a guy...




...Which makes me a loser, but I don't really care.

 

[Asenath]

I'm single because I'm too tired after work to go out into the shallowest dating pool in the history of ever and deal with other people's BS. I play MMOs instead. Guildmates don't get offended when you fall asleep on them while they're talking. Unless you're in a dungeon.

 

[MindBlast]

I guess I'm too picky. I want a guy who's just as into physical activity/sports as I am.

 

[fluxxx]

I'm single because...

1. I'm not making too much effort of dating/finding someone
2. I got bored easily
3. I'm sorta hating commitment
4. I'm pretty picky
5. I fell in love too easy (and here we go again, back to point no 2)

 

[menRsexii]

I am single for many a reason. Guys that go after me, not many, are all wackadoos. They're just weird and I don't know what attracts them to me. Hmmm... either way, I've kinda given up on any relationships right now. At one point, that's really all I wanted but now I realize, I need to work on me before I can trust anyone else.

 

[nafhoosier]

I'm single for various reasons:

1. I think I'm afraid of commitment
2. I've had bad experiences with gay guys in the past
3. I'm a little insecure (I can't imagine someone being in love with me).
4. I'm not very optimistic of me ever finding love or the right guy unlike everyone else, so just give up on trying.

 

[Wilde Oscar]

I could go on and on about it, but I don't really feel like embarrassing myself that much tonight.

 

[Racer Dave]

1.) Only just accepted being gay and come out so it's all still very new to me
2.) Have no idea where to meet anyone in my area
3.) I'm shy so not just going to charge up to a guy and ask him out
4.) Not quiet sure how I will react the first tike I meet a guy who wants sex, still a virgin so ... Ja

 

[freefall]

Because I'm not putting enough efforts to look for gay guys out of my current scope.
Because I'm not entirely out and consequently and simultaneously too shy to approach some hot-looking random dude.
Because I'm still trapped in an unrequited love, which sucks.
Because I'm afraid I'm going to bore anyone going out with me so I keep pushing people away no matter what.

 

[Ram]

Honestly, at this juncture in life, I just want to focus on my career. A lot is depending on me not to fuck things up. With a regular dose of sex from friends and great unfuckable friends, I don't need a man right now in my life. After August, I will start hunting again for a new boyfriend.

 

[USEDCAR]

It seems like tis is the season that everyone is getting into relationships. My straight friends are constantly in and out of relationships it does get depressing. And i been single forever


I live in a small town- A lot of the good guys live far away i don't want a long distance relationship.
The Gay guys around here are mostly stuck up or just want to fuck.
Its hard to find a gay guy that i click with most of them don't talk much or Open up when i approach them.
I need to start fixing my self up meaning losing weight,Dressing better, and going out more.

 

[Drugstore Cowboy]

i'm single cuz i choose to be. i really enjoy my independence too much to ruin it by strapping myself down to someone who will take that all away from me. i know it sounds kind of selfish, but i really like my independence and being alone too much to want to ruin it.

 

[treanir]

Because I'm bitter.
Because I expect things to go wrong.
Because they have always gone wrong in the past. Spectacularly wrong.
Because the only guys who fancy me live far, far away.
Because the one who are partnerable already have a boyfriend.
Because there's something wrong with the single ones (including myself).
Because love sucks.

 

[fluxxx]

Because I'm bitter.
Because I expect things to go wrong.
Because they have always gone wrong in the past. Spectacularly wrong.
Because the only guys who fancy me live far, far away.
Because the one who are partnerable already have a boyfriend.
Because there's something wrong with the single ones (including myself).
Because love sucks.

those two points are also the reasons, why am I still single...

 

[xRemyx]

-Honestly, I don't think I'm ready.

-I love feeling independent.

-The guys I do connect with end up smothering me with constant calls/texts/etc., so I move on.