why asian considered to be bottom?

[merblues]

i'm a 19 years old asian.

international student here..

i've met some people (not asian) and i don't know why but it seems like they think i should play bottom in bed!

its not like i hate bottoming, actually like it for sometimes but Not all the time!!

i dont act like girl (its a non-sense though.. no relation between that two!)

i'm short.. only 5.6ft tall.. is that why? (another prejudice here!)

 

[BINOWGAYLATER]

no - not your height - it's a BIGGER prejudice that your "smaller" !!

What is really bothering me - now -- is that after "oriental" went out of power -and everybody became "Asian" they no longer identify with a Race of people if you will.. I grew up with around 1/2 million ASIANS - but not one of them would identify as anything other than EXACTLY what they are _ Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Philipino, Thai, Vietnamese, Cambodian - need i go on?
why are people content to simply say asian now? and not be proud that that they are Chinese or something else??

 

[tonyboy]

i'm a 19 years old asian.

international student here..

i've met some people (not asian) and i don't know why but it seems like they think i should play bottom in bed!

its not like i hate bottoming, actually like it for sometimes but Not all the time!!

i dont act like girl (its a non-sense though.. no relation between that two!)

i'm short.. only 5.6ft tall.. is that why? (another prejudice here!)

I've never figured that an Asian guy should be a bottom.. not sure where you get that idea from... perhaps you've just met guys that like to top.

The height of a guy should not determine if he is to be a bottom... that doesn't make sense.
I've only been with one Asian guy... and neither of us wanted anal sex anyway...
We just made fine love by sucking and kissing and rimming...
So, no top nor bottom.. and it all worked out very well..

 

[gdude30]

It could be because of stereotypes.

I've heard the same thing. "Asians make great bottoms" and that's bullshit. Not every asian is a bottom. Some asians are tops, versatile, or might not even get into sex. Every person is not a bottom.

I think the stereotype is because of the younger looking face and age, maybe being smooth, and sort of twinky or slender.

Maybe the same way that a white twink, "blue eyes, brown hair, slender body, and flat chest" is stereotyped to be a bottom or sub as an asian guy is.

But I will add to the stereotype. I'm mostly a bottom. I do know asian tops too.

But it might be the height too.

But uhm.

What does bottoming and acting like a girl have to do with each other. I don't understand that...

 

[Jerry]

I can tell you this my friend, I'm a very strong white guy who happens to like Asian guys.

I don't expect anything from the guys I meet, be they Asian or otherwise.
If I were to meet you and we wound up in the bedroom, I would expect no more of you than you would of me. We would be there together, to make each other happy, and whatever we do to make that happen, well so be it.

I love smaller guys, but I don't expect (and certainly don't demand) them to be bottoms. I'll take any guy I get along with and have a connection with. In bed, we're equal partners, just like we are any other time

 

[Curiosities]

Bottoms in general are more easily noticed, and the assumption that we're tiny in every area, including the dick tends to enforce that.

Oh, and porn.

 

[asianstudlover]

It could be because of stereotypes.

I've heard the same thing. "Asians make great bottoms" and that's bullshit. Not every asian is a bottom. Some asians are tops, versatile, or might not even get into sex. Every person is not a bottom.

I think the stereotype is because of the younger looking face and age, maybe being smooth, and sort of twinky or slender.

Maybe the same way that a white twink, "blue eyes, brown hair, slender body, and flat chest" is stereotyped to be a bottom or sub as an asian guy is.

But I will add to the stereotype. I'm mostly a bottom. I do know asian tops too.

But it might be the height too.

But uhm.

What does bottoming and acting like a girl have to do with each other. I don't understand that...

They CAN make hot bottoms. They dont have too. but there IS such thing as a positive fetish.

 

[sumtingwong]

i'm a 19 years old asian.

international student here..

i've met some people (not asian) and i don't know why but it seems like they think i should play bottom in bed!

its not like i hate bottoming, actually like it for sometimes but Not all the time!!

i dont act like girl (its a non-sense though.. no relation between that two!)

i'm short.. only 5.6ft tall.. is that why? (another prejudice here!)

It's because you tend to hookup with guys who like to top! You need to find out BEFORE HAND if he's more top or more bottom and pick the right guy for the right situation.

I'm asian (no joke) but when I hook up with a guy, I always check out if he's more on a bottom side or a top side. Since I rarely hookup with "more top" guys, I never run into situations like yours.

 

[Nomenclature]

What does bottoming have anything to do with acting like a "girl"?

Straight, male-dominated society dictates that anyone who is penetrated is the bitch. They consider a gay bottom to be "acting like a girl", because he's taking "her role" during sex.


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However, I'm not sure if I'm also supposed to like Arabs, Persians [...] Native Americans

Asia's a huge continent. Most People don't realize that Middle Eastern and Indian people are Asian, too. "Native Americans" aren't native to America at all, actually; they're a Mongoloid people and are genetically South Asian.

 

[pat grimshaw]

…why are people content to simply say asian now? and not be proud that that they are Chinese or something else??

any answers yet?

 

[EwanSF]

In my country, the word "asian" is generaly used to describe people from the Indian subcontinant. Just thought I'd drop that in. Anyway, I've had sex with a chinese guy and a philipino. Chinese, top. Philipino, bottom. Just something for the statasticians.

 

[Dduder]

It could be because of stereotypes.

"Sigh"

Here we go again...repeat after me:

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

 

[orient_al]

I am a Filipino and lived in Vancouver , most white guys i had dated and be en in bed with ,and became boyfriends with... are versatile and i topped most of the time. Bottoming was not my choice. I love topping and they loved in the recieving end. I had one guy that makes sounds out of pleasure... sooooo loud...i am afraid neighbours would hear...He got a boyfirend but he comes to me for pleasure...One time i got the pleasure of bottoming when i met a white guy and we had sex-after-dinner at his place, and he was an experienced top and him and i had to compromise on who's gonna bottom, that was me, for the first meet and him on the second date...i really enjoyed bottoming with him. I had my other share of bottoming with a Mexican bf back then but i had to be on top for control...

But i always love topping especially seeing my partner in bed enjoy the moment while i am inside him, it gives we great pleasure to perform well and i normally comes a lot..My filipino friends think i do bottom with my white partners , and i just give them a smile.....like so ;-)


by the way i am 5'4....

 

[AfroMan777]

I think size has a major impact on why people think like that. Most Asians are small framed and really easy to pick up, throw around, and control (Especially the females).

 

[Scottyboi]

I'm 6'4" with a very large athletic build =x

Personally I'd love to bottom but I really can't get into it with people who are more then like 4 to 5 inches shorter then me and arn't my size...just don't feel dominated I guess =/


sorry, honest answer to an honest question. But this is just me and its definitely not just asian dudes this applies to

 

[orient_al]

Scottyboi...i agree with you , mate......some men look for dominance in bed...but for most of my encounters, it was not about dominance and power issue...


i met this lanky 6'3 guy in a bathouse and we hit it off quite easily....had sex, i top.....he came, i came afterwards....got post-coital talk...

before i left the bathouse he introduced me to his partner...i was not expecting it...it was like " hi hon, this is ___- i had great sex with him...i was like"..hey, nice to meet you mate...cheers..."

that was wierd, but i ended up being friends with them, had dinner double dates and the guy calls me when his partner is out of town....

I went out of town, for good...!

 

[Level27]

"Sigh"

Here we go again...repeat after me:

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

*sighs* Here we go again with this reply every time the notion of stereotype comes up. Surely, it's one of the easiest ways to get around having to admit that they are usually formulated inadequately. After all, the "truth" contained in a stereotype, which, by the way, is normally nothing more than mere (false) impression, gives it all the more reason to exist, right?

 

[LoveIsNow]

Because, that's how it is. Blacks top Middle Easterners who top Latinos who top Whites who top Skinny Girly Whites who top Skinny Girly Latinos who top Asians. If you have sex with a Native American or anyone from the Indian subcontinent you're a pervert. This is common knowledge, dude.


Society sucks.

 

[sumtingwong]

"Sigh"

Here we go again...repeat after me:

All stereotypes exist because they contain a large kernel of truth to them.

Truth is there are a lot of DUMB ASIANS out there than you can imagine. They always pick a guy with the word "Total Top" in his profile (or similar clues) to chat with and then wondering why the dude wanted to be um... "the top" in bed!

 

[Level27]

Because, that's how it is. Blacks top Middle Easterners who top Latinos who top Whites who top Skinny Girly Whites who top Skinny Girly Latinos who top Asians. If you have sex with a Native American or anyone from the Indian subcontinent you're a pervert. This is common knowledge, dude.

I can totally imagine a skinny Arabic twink paired with a buff Asian stud. The arabic boy ties the muscular asian's wrists together, forces him to turn around and bend over. He says, "HaHA!! I got you now!" And pounds him hard.

The asian stud rolls his eyes and yawns, bored by the little twig pouncing on his fat cheeks and all the while internally laughing at how the young boy thinks he's so big and dominant.