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Why can't I find a Boyfriend

Luka

Luka

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Ok seriously i don't know where to look, Manhunt is the only way I know of to meet guys, and guess what, they aren't the boyfriend type, lol. So any surgetstions? Or can someone send me one? make sure you poke holes in the box so he can breathe, lol
 
Look in the real places. Get involved with some of the gay or gay friendly groups.

Eat in the right restaurants and hang around the right cafes.

Even go to bars...to have fun and not to prey.

You're good looking, you have a great smile. shouldn't have any problem.

Get going.
 
lots of dating websites cater to homosexual relationships so try joining one of them. Just be sure to put down that you're looking for dating/relationship and not sex.
 
* Search online for gay groups in your area.
* Volunteer at some gay-oriented places.
* Go to the book shops, coffee houses, and whatnot in the gay area of town.

Or just wait for one to just show up. It's not effective at all, but seeing as how a lot of people seem to be choosing this option, I figured I'd offer it.

Lex
 
met my partner on Yahoo personals. I figured while was hanging out at the bookstore going to the local community center, why not put a few adds up.

Online personals worked for me. Just have to be open IMO. If you will only date the BEST looking people and not willing to meet an average bloke, you may be missing your chance. Looks tend to fade, the personality is what will keep.

Just keep an open mind and be happy with your life. When you are happy, you will get your guy
 
Met my bf on MySpace. He found my page and we started chatting and things just took off. That was two years ago and this are still going strong.
 
thanks everyone, I'll def. try some of these things:) never thought of them, lol
 
Puff said:
I'm going to be brutally honest, you've come accross to me as a pretty closed-minded guy on the forums. Just saying.
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HAHA ummmm okay.. please go on, not sure what u mean. I dont get offended so be straight up with me, lol
 
^^He might be referring to a post you made on another thread in this forum in which you said you couldn't stand flamboyant gay men.

Did you intend to insult other people on JUB who read that? Or were you just not thinking?
 
I'd forgotten those.

It is true.

You may be missing out on some wonderful relationships because your view is so narrow and if you are as quick to voice some of your opinions as you are to post them, you may just be coming off as a bit of a shallow dick wad.
 
HAHA. Well I geuss I never thought of what I say in that way. I'm just stating my opinion like everyone else. It's not meant to be "offensive" I dont get offended and think people who do are lame. I'm trying to hurt anyones feelings. I just think flammers are annoying and I personally would not be with anyone more than 10 years older than me, thats all.
 
there are some amazing guys in their thirties and older,Luka----it just takes a bit of maturity to see that....you'll find someone some day.
 
Luka said:
HAHA. Well I geuss I never thought of what I say in that way. I'm just stating my opinion like everyone else. It's not meant to be "offensive" I dont get offended and think people who do are lame. I'm trying to hurt anyones feelings. I just think flammers are annoying and I personally would not be with anyone more than 10 years older than me, thats all.
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with setting standards or having a criteria for what you want in a relationship. One of the main problems as I see it cause everyone seems to confide in me about their relationships from relatives, friends, a shit load of coworkers, etc, is that very very few of them are compatible with each other. People tend to jump into relationships before really knowing the other and when it is too late, they try and make it work. Very few people are honestly happy with their partner cause they aren't getting what they need/want out of the relationship. So if you know what you want, do not give up. Everyone deserves happiness. And one last thing, one does not have to have a bf to be happy. I have been single for almost 4 years now and absolutely loving it.

The best way to meet other guys is through friends. They will more than likely be able to give you the ins and outs of a guy than some profile on gay.com or manhunt where most people lie...UGH!!!!
 
yea ive found out about the lieing first hand, its sucky lol. Another thing about the age thing, my mom is only 39, so dating a guy who was close to my moms age kinda freaks her out, lol
 
Don't make it your mission, because you can be independent, single and be fine. But if you do want a boyfriend, it's better to look physically rather than using the net. Even with all the website that include locals in your area, many people don't use networking sites or message boards.

You'll start dating and find someone. All the best!
 
hell, i'm with ya on this one luka...i'm now on tons of social networking sites etc...and i'm for the most part just looking for friends, i don't know whether i'd be interested in someone until they've gotten to the point where i get to know them in person.

...so far, i can hardly find people to talk to that interest me. Pickyness is equivalent to you knowing what you want, and what you don't want..what you like and dislike in the people you surround yourself with...and yes, it may limit who you allow yourself to get close to, but generally, there is probably a reason why you are not interested in being around certain people....so just remember to be true to yourself, but never so rigid that you wouldn't allow someone to redefine your standards.

as far as not being interested in flamers, or guys older than 10 years older....

1) you are entitled to be interested in certain qualities in anyone you want
2) you are entitled to voice your opinion
3) you guys that jumped down his throat are being pretty harsh and offensive yourselves here
 
Keep on finding guys for fun and casual stuff,, this love thing will strike when it has to,, you cannot create a situation to make some one love you,,,all you have to do is to flow with the current and eventually you will get your mate if he is meant for you.
 
Its fair enough to have standards. Good luck with it all Luka and im sure youll find a great guy soon.
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so just remember to be true to yourself, but never so rigid that you wouldn't allow someone to redefine your standards.
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Last time I checked, 'standards' had a pejorative context.

Not wanting to date effeminate or old guys is not about standards. It is about preferences. But for those posters who used the term 'standards', the implication is that if someone does fuck an older or effeminate guy, it implies a lowering of oneself.

We don't think Luka is like that. But as I pointed out, if he expresses his distaste for these preferences among others, he may come across as somewhat shallow.

For all guys who think that they can only connect with people that have the same tastes, political opinions, right height and/or weight, etc. etc., you may be missing out on some great friendships along the way...or even the love of your life.
 
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