Why can't I find a Boyfriend

[Lube]

Back to the original question: many guys who spend a lot of time online are unwilling or unable to move out of their comfort zone and have a real, live relationship.

Finding people in real life is the way to go.

Why do I feel like a broken record?

 

[Luka]

hell, i'm with ya on this one luka...i'm now on tons of social networking sites etc...and i'm for the most part just looking for friends, i don't know whether i'd be interested in someone until they've gotten to the point where i get to know them in person.

...so far, i can hardly find people to talk to that interest me. Pickyness is equivalent to you knowing what you want, and what you don't want..what you like and dislike in the people you surround yourself with...and yes, it may limit who you allow yourself to get close to, but generally, there is probably a reason why you are not interested in being around certain people....so just remember to be true to yourself, but never so rigid that you wouldn't allow someone to redefine your standards.

as far as not being interested in flamers, or guys older than 10 years older....

1) you are entitled to be interested in certain qualities in anyone you want
2) you are entitled to voice your opinion
3) you guys that jumped down his throat are being pretty harsh and offensive yourselves here

Thanks dude


and thatk you to everyone else for your imput!

 

[LotusOnBuddha]

I cant honestly agree with "age is just a number." Luka is 20 per his profile, and i believe in college. There is a bunch of baggage that comes with being 20 and in school. We were all there. What 30 year old would want to deal with that is beyond me. In the same respect i think a 20 year old will eventually get frustrated with the 30 something. They are at two totally different stages in their lives. So unless one is using the other, i dont think it works out very often.( note i didnt say it NEVER works out, its just rare)

Get involved with some of the summer pride events that may be going on in your city. Its a great way to meet people and broaden your horizens. You'll make friends and they can introduce you to new people. You never know who people know. Thats how i met the guy i'm with. We ran in the same circle.

You're still young luka, focus more on having fun and meeting new guys and networking and school than "Oh my god im im single dieing alone." Its hard to change that focus especially if lots of your friends are in relationships. However if you can learn to focus on having fun with guys and befriending them and not focusing on sex or this great need to be a relationship you'll be better off. You'll come off as less needy and independent guys with goals and their own hobbies and interests are sexy. And thus you will attract new guys with

Best of luck!