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Why can't I find a gay man who can accept my obesity? (FYI: This will be lengthy.)

Re: Why can't I find a gay man who can accept my obesity? (FYI: This will be lengthy.

DoctorGiggles25 said:
Hello again. You guys are very persistant and after 3 and a half years I should know that by now. I will admit looking back on this post, I was in a different mind set and that set was based on a false reality that I think I have come out of. I know all about society and our fucked up ways. Im not as vain as I make myself out to be and if you guys really knew me, you would know what I mean. This is why I love JUB as previously stated. You guys gave me that slap in the face that I needed and helped me realize a lot of things about myself. I hope this thread helps someone and if it does, the criticism Ive received will not be in vain.

~ DG
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I know ... reality sux. I wish we could be however we a want to be and get whatever guy we want. But alas, it's just a fantasy.

Luminox said:
Aleister,Nitish : I second (and third !) that...Sorry Giggles but you can't have double standards like that...;)

Really hot and attractive guys are usually gonna go for good-looking people as well. And I mean, why shouldn't they ? If I looked like a model I wouldn't be settling for fat or unattractive guys either, knowing that I can do better than that !

I spent all my life chasing after those hot and attractive guys and it got me nowhere ! I just kinda accepted the fact that I am (ok, 'was') fat and ugly and that's it, that they gotta accept me for how I am . Guess what ? THEY DIDN'T ! So a couple of years ago I changed my mentality and started working on the opposite : I started trying to become "hot" and attractive myself, so that I can earn the "right" (if I may call it that) to get one of those guys ! I know it sounds all weird and funny but it really kinda is that way ...

I realised I can't have that kinda double standards cos I would certainly not date/hook up with a guy like myself...so I tried on becoming more like one of those guys I always am attracted to. (Now I've changed my whole outlook on life and I'm more concerend about being healthy and fit than being hot but that's a different story, lol ! But being healhty and fit usually means attractive too...;))
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Great post. I can so relate to this. I used to be a chubby kid and got teased. So I dieted and became skinny and nobody teased me again. I guess if you want something to change, the change has to start with you ;)
 
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