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Why Cant I Get A Man!

pocono

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OK...so I'm drunk and horny! Not a great combo.

So...wtf is wrong with me. I'm single...and am told I'm good looking. So WTF am I home all alone...again? I'm just soooooo tired of sleeping alone. Come fucking on!

I likely shouldn't drink and type...but my "friends" are busy with their BFs....F-U-C-K em!
 
Perhaps the reason is that you're at home?

Seriously though, if all your frieds are coupled up, make some new friends. Easier said then done, but all you really need is one new friend and the rest will fall like dominoes.
 
Do guys reject you? Do you reject them? Do you not meet any? What's the underlying problem?
 
From your profile, I can see you're a nonsmoker, are of average height, have blue eyes, depending on your build might be just slightly more than HWP, you are able to meet someone for a drink, and you live in an area near populated cities.

There ought to be many choices for you...

Have you looked inward?

Do you like yourself? Are you non-judgmental of others? Do you always have to be in control, or are you willing to be "Zen" about life, dating, etc.? Do you "put yourself out there", or sit around waiting for life to come to you?

Maybe you're doing all you can. If so, then in time you should have what you want.

After all, we all get what we want.
 
Why can't u meet any Lafayette College hotbois or Lehigh Univ. studs on the web?
 
Because, I'd say, you're more interested in the concept of "having a man" than you are in finding someone and attempting to build a relationship with him.

Lex
 
Well you can only find someone if you are truly ready to find the person.

Also ask yourself - do you just want a man just to have a man or do you want a man who you can stand by and really experience life with.

Learn to love yourself first aswell - think of your positives and negatives - reflect on your life.

Make a love list - in it you right down everything you want in a man - personality, character, appearence etc - visualise him and you together and burn it right after you wrote it. Also look out for Ladybugs - if you encounter one it means love is on its way aswell as goodluck.

Oh and don't be desperate just be mellow - and let things come naturally and also work hard for what you want. We all have a soulmate so don't give up on your man!:kiss:
 
Hmmm...Interesting! Sadly I believe most of you have hit upon something.#-o

It really may be that I'm more of the problem than I understand. In reflecting on last night it is clear I could have gone home with someone. But here is the rub. Most of the guys I really like are off the market. At one time or another last night I was "hit on" by no less than a dozen guys. Someone even told me their brother was interested. But...I didn't do anything. I have made a move on guys in the past and had some "fun," but haven't been able to find anyone that really interests me in a few months. :cry:

I would love to find a guy who is kind of handsome, with a nice personality, and is not crazy. Oh....I have some preferences, but am open to a lot of different types of guys.

As for Jason's worry about Man-repellent...I kind of doubt it. Normally I only drink 3-4 beers one and occasionally two nights each week. A little more during the holidays a little less during the rest of the year. I go on some extended camping trips and such and have never had any problems or even any real cravings for alcohol. So maybe...but doubtful.

I really wish finding a boyfriend was easier... And, thanks for your concern.:kiss:
 
Don't tell others what you want in a man trust me - people will come with thier opinions etc and just mess up that frequency and confuse you.

Make a love list and burn it.

Also take time to be your own friend :-)

Judging by what you wrote I get a feeling you really are yearning for a deeper connection with someone so if you want that, establish that connection within yourself and let your internal compass guide you to your man:D

Life is easy it's just we complicate things which are not complicated just to create drama lol. That also implies finding a boyfriend.

 
>>>I would love to find a guy who is kind of handsome, with a nice personality, and is not crazy.

I don't know from "handsome". But you'll notice that a lot of guys who ain't exactly porn-star or model material still manage to get into relationships. Why is that? Are they deluding people? No, it's because even if they're not attractive, people can still be attracted to them. Objectively, no, my partner's probably not that attractive. (And I'm even less so.) But see - we're in love with each other. And because of that, he's attractive to me. I'd rather be in bed with him than anyone else. But this feeling didn't just "happen" out of the blue. It had to grow.

There are guys out there for you. Just keep an open mind. Don't reject him because he didn't make you pudgy in your drawers the second you laid eyes on him. Talk with him. See if you click. If you find him easy to talk to, easy to relate to. If not, no biggie - you gave it a shot. If so, keep going. See what happens.

Lex
 
What's not clear is whether the pity party is because you don't have someone to shag for the night or because you want a relationship.

Is this post about being lonely or just being alone for the night?
 
pocono said:
Hmmm...Interesting! Sadly I believe most of you have hit upon something.#-o

It really may be that I'm more of the problem than I understand. In reflecting on last night it is clear I could have gone home with someone. But here is the rub. Most of the guys I really like are off the market. At one time or another last night I was "hit on" by no less than a dozen guys. Someone even told me their brother was interested. But...I didn't do anything. I have made a move on guys in the past and had some "fun," but haven't been able to find anyone that really interests me in a few months. :cry:

I would love to find a guy who is kind of handsome, with a nice personality, and is not crazy. Oh....I have some preferences, but am open to a lot of different types of guys.

As for Jason's worry about Man-repellent...I kind of doubt it. Normally I only drink 3-4 beers one and occasionally two nights each week. A little more during the holidays a little less during the rest of the year. I go on some extended camping trips and such and have never had any problems or even any real cravings for alcohol. So maybe...but doubtful.

I really wish finding a boyfriend was easier... And, thanks for your concern.:kiss:
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sounds like you are looking for a perfect guy. :)
 
Jasun said:
Ok.. but see.. having a boyfriend generally doesn't start with picking up a stranger at a bar to go have sex.

But it answers the question that I had about where you were meeting men.

Why not do something a bit more proactive and meet men in places that aren't first and foremost places to get drunk and pick up? Maybe join a gay baseball team or bowling league? Find a way to meet gay men who share your interests and guys you can meet without all the sexual pressure?

You'll have a lot more luck meeting men when you take the alcohol and dance music and the hunt for sex out of the equation.
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Hmmmm....This, of course, makes great sense. The challenge in the Poconos (all of two counties and parts of 3 others) is we have just one gay bar and no gay special interest groups. In the summer there is a pool at the bar (its an old resort) but that's it. I could go to New York. It is about 1.5 hours of heavy traffic away and costs $35 just to park the car. The Poconos are a real challenge. A friend frequently tells me I should move...he may be right.

Maybe my standards are too high. What I want is (and this is all in the eye of the beholder) a nice, non-crazy guy that is more or less good looking. Sounds easy...but!](*,)
 
You might be single. You might be good looking. But you're not the ONLY one going through it. Many of us out here are single and scratching our heads.

I've never been in a committed relationship before. I've dated, but it's never materialised into anything else. I accepted that maybe it's not for me right now, but I'm going to keep looking.

Never give up, keep your options open, and hope for the best!
 
pocono said:
Hmmmm....This, of course, makes great sense. The challenge in the Poconos (all of two counties and parts of 3 others) is we have just one gay bar and no gay special interest groups. In the summer there is a pool at the bar (its an old resort) but that's it. I could go to New York. It is about 1.5 hours of heavy traffic away and costs $35 just to park the car. The Poconos are a real challenge. A friend frequently tells me I should move...he may be right.

Maybe my standards are too high. What I want is (and this is all in the eye of the beholder) a nice, non-crazy guy that is more or less good looking. Sounds easy...but!](*,)
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don't drive, public transport or walk is better.
 
Lube said:
Seriously.

A 10-second Google search brought up

http://www.palsnepa.org/About_PALS.html

and 9 bars:

http://www.gaypoconos.com/bars.htm
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Hey Lube,

Thanks for taking the time to do a search.(*8*)

I'll check into the Pals NEPA organization. That may lead to something.

The bar list on the other hand isn't quite as easy. It is a bit out of date and covers a very large area. From my place Scranton-Wilkes/Barre-Allentown-Moosic-Bethlehem are all about an hour drive. New Hope is about 1.5 hours. So....it is still kind of limited to Rainbow Mt. Now that is truly a great place, but it is one place.

Thanks for your help!
 
pocono said:
Hey Lube,

Thanks for taking the time to do a search.(*8*)

I'll check into the Pals NEPA organization. That may lead to something.

The bar list on the other hand isn't quite as easy. It is a bit out of date and covers a very large area. From my place Scranton-Wilkes/Barre-Allentown-Moosic-Bethlehem are all about an hour drive. New Hope is about 1.5 hours. So....it is still kind of limited to Rainbow Mt. Now that is truly a great place, but it is one place.

Thanks for your help!
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Glad I could help. It's never as bad as it seems.
 
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