Why Do Gays Hate Bisexuals?

[maxpowr9]

i dated a bisexual guy once. He was very nice but he said to me that he wanted to date a woman now. I dont hate them. Dont know where Im going with this lol.

 

[Ninja108]

Not sure, all I can say is my bf is bi, I'm gay and we're very much in love. That's all that matters to me

 

[littlelarry]

BI sexual ... I love pussy and penis. DEAL WITH IT!!! Penis gets me as horny as boobs and pussies. I love both!!!! This is the life of a bisexual.

 

[D-Base]

Hurt is something that is not nice when it is done to you, do your homework before you sleep with someone and if it ain't right then you won't do it.

But how do you do your homework when you are being manipulated and left in the dark all the time.

I am not generalizing you bi guys are cool and all. Apparently most of you here seem to be straight forward with the way you feel and the way you want others to feel about you. It is cool.

I'm just gonna share my experiences with this.

I have dated 3 bi guys to date.

2 of them basically lied to me about pretty much everything, one even lied about his name and I dated him for half an year or so.

They pretty much did everything right to make me think that actually I am needed and wanted and there was nothing to tell me that I am not worth their love.

I am a guy who generally falls easily. Both of them knew I had feeling for them and both were alright with it until I demanded some of it in return. That's the point when things go to hell. They get scared and decided that it's time to put some light on it all.

One told me he can absolutely never have a relationship with a guy because you see "it's wrong".

The other one said that sex and feeling should not be mixed and that from me he only needs the sexual part because he ain't the type that falls in love (yeah, tell that to your girlfriend).

So both basically cut me loose and found another fuck buddy. It's alright, it's cool, I was gonna leave it all anywho.

The third one I'm seeing currently.

You can read about him in my blog if you are any interested.
He doesn't lie to me, nor he's telling me things I wanna hear to get to my pants. He basically does stuff so i figure out I have no chance of winning it.

So this time it's up to me to decide WEATHER. And this time I can do my homework.

But not each time this is possible.

I also want to add that a lot of the things Lube said I have noticed as well. I can relate to his statements. I do not think anyone here is generalizing I think most of us have some personal experiences with the issue and have stores to tell.

 

[Rali_hates_Mondays]

How on earth can you say such a thing?

My friends have a weakness for bisexual men. In their experience they are often quie masculine apparently.

 

[rareboy]

I've posted on tons of other gay, hetero, and mixed crowd sites and this place has some of the worst and most bigoted people I've ever interacted with online when it comes to the topic of being bisexual or being out as a bisexual.

One wonders why you would subject yourself to the pain.

 

[G-Lexington]

Let's pretend I already did the "no not all gays hate bisexuals and yes there are bisexuals that hate gays too" dance.

Why do SOME gays hate bisexuals? A couple possibilities, and that's all they be.

* Jealousy. Our dating pool is roughly homosexual-5% of the male-48% of the world out there. (Then there's those who are closeted, those who are partnered, those who don't find us attractive, etc.) Bisexuals have that added into the heterosexual-95% of the female-52% of the world. To some gays, that might look like a guy with a huge buffet in front of him peeking over at another man with a couple slices of bread and saying, "Mmm, those look good."

* Fear. Very few of us are attracted to PRECISELY one type of person. Yes, I'm only attracted to men, but I'm attracted to short men, tall men, hairy men, smooth men... That's not surprising, I think. But when my short boyfriend is with me, I don't think he's ever reminded that I also like tall guys. The term "bisexual" specifically draws attention to the spectrum that's appealing. If I referred to myself often as a "shortophile/tallophile", he might continually be wondering if I secretly wanted a tall guy on the side.

* Misconceptions. Just as gays often get lumped into stereotypes by ignorant straights, bisexuals get lumped into them by ignorant gays. The two most common stereotypes are related: "the guy who wants to fuck guys for awhile before he gets married and settles down" and "the guy who wants to get married and settle down, but STILL fuck guys on the side". The first stereotype feeds the fear that bisexual men are just "playing around" with what gays consider our "way of life" before reverting to "normalcy", whereas the second stereotype makes gays simply look like a convenient way to get off.

Are there bisexuals who fit these stereotypes? No doubt, just as there are effeminete gay hairdressers and gay guys who cruise the parks after dark. Do most bisexuals fit these stereotypes? Not in my experience. I've only known three bisexuals fairly well, and both of those were just guys (well, two guys and one woman) who were honest with their nature, and were trying to take things as they come.

I think it just boils down to ignorance. It's hard to keep a stereotype going once you meet someone in that group who busts it.

Lex