Why Do Guys Keep Trying to Top Me Without A Ccondom

[1091MAC]

I would think it would be helpful to have that discussion before you hit the bedroom.

I have noticed on some "dating" sites, many guys will say on the their profile that they are only interested in safe sex, but then when the time comes, they actually want to bareback.

Just be clear up front want you expections are and carry condoms with you so you know they have been well taken care of and not riding around in a car glove box for the past several months in 95 degree heat.

 

[sixthson]

Why does this keep happening to me?

Did it ever dawn on you that you are not cut out for casual sex with strangers? I mean, you have posted lots about bad experiences with your hook ups, stating that it hurts and there is no pleasure in it for you at all. Now your hookups are trying to boink you without protection. What's next...rape?

Love between two people is a beautiful thing and a safe place where you can feel free to share your likes and dislikes and explore pleasure and intimacy. You might even find that sex is wonderful, too.

 

[Sigma-taylor-E]

For a second I though someone revived a dead thread...but serious...^ this the best advice...

 

[medic1]

I hooked up with a guy earlier today and he gave me a rim job. I've never had this done and I honestly thought it was disgusting. Anyhow he started pressing his penis on the outer area of my ass like WTF, I hate when guys do that. And then I say "condom" and he gets one. Why does this keep happening to me?

Buddy your threads just keep getting more and more bizzare,so the guy gave
you a rim job and you honestly thought it was disgusting.
Why did you not stop him right at the start ?
Even some of the other posters are starting to question your threads.
And to be honest i can understand why.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Because if you struggle thinking you might get AIDS, our penis gets more action. /jk

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OP, the bottom is always supposed to be in control.

Discuss condoms before sex (putting that in your profile is a good idea), always have them handy, and always insist on using them.

I'm a top and as such I can tell you that there are lots of tops who like to do it without (because it's much easier), but who would also wear the condom if the bottom insisted.

OP, you will often be the one who decides about condom use, and it would help greatly if you took the initiative.

 

[mbamike]

You need to be clear and specific about your expectations when you hook up with a guy. I tell my guys "to bring condoms. I don't fuck without them." Sure they rim my ass, finger my hole, stick their cocks between my ass cheeks and rub their bare cocks on my hole; this is all foreplay. They don't penetrate me without a condom on.

Sounds like you are sexually inexperienced. Just keep playing safe and be specific about your expectations. You will calm down soon.

 

[RaKroma]

Perhaps you need to seriously stop hooking up with strangers until you learn to take control of situations, learn to find more responsible guys and learn to communicate with them before they start licking your asshole.
No one is going near my crotch before I see condoms around and watch them put it on before we proceed. It's not rocket science to control and communicate with your partners.

 

[jdoe4822]

as a previous poster mentioned, a lot of people will say on personal sites profiles "safe sex only" but then if asked if they'll bb, they say "well if he's clean then sure". I don't ever play around unsafely, and I don't do it with guys who might be hooking up with other people unsafely.

Although this is being dishonest, the only reliable way I know of to find out what a person really is open to is to fake interest in bb and see if they bite or give a response like above. I don't trust people enough to give an honest response if they know that I'm only looking for people who play safe. Besides, as I see it, its a hookup, this guy and I don't have a relationship, so I've got nothing vested in earning his trust. Not to mention its my health and life at stake, and as far as I'm concerned, anyone worth being friends with would respect my desire to safeguard that.

It's scary, depressing, and oftentimes very frustrating how many people I catch this way. If I'm meeting someone online, its a conversation I have before we ever get to the point of meeting up.