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Why do I always end up with emotionally fucked up guys?

Roland00

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Do you like helping people? Are you an "enabler?"

If not just bad luck?
 
Perhaps it is your misanthropic attitude that draws you to such people--no better reinforcement than to date people who fit your outlook on others.

Most of us have patterns of behavior and draw to us what we are driven to attract, regardless of what we might think we actually want. If you want the selection of men to change, you'll probably need to look at what you need to change inside yourself first.
 
You need to ask your friends this question. Tell them you really want to know why and ask them to tell you the truth. They are in the best position to help you understand. I hope you have better luck with the next guy.

PS - it could just be a run of bad luck, it's worth investigating.
 
Well what are your expectations? And at what point do you start calling it 'a relationship'? From your description it sounds as if you're 'in a relationship' and suddenly, whoa!, they turn out to crazy, negative or fucked-up in some way.

Decide what your 'deal-breakers' are and jettison anyone who doesn't comply. Look out for them and check them off your list way before you ever get to the stage of calling it a relationship. If 'no alcoholics' is your bottom line and then you put up with the fact that he get's totally off his face every night just because he has a good sense of humour and a big dick, then you do so at your own peril.
 
Because you allow it.

On some level you must like it.

After the the first time, you should not have allowed anybody to treat you like crap and walk all over you.

Fool once yaddda, yadda.

You should probably see a profesional before you enter into another relationship.
 
"Therapy is so self indulgent, i don't need therapy i need 2 find someone normal, it just seems like all the sane ones r taken. And i don't go looking 4 crazy people, usually i start liking sum1 and then they turn out 2 b disturbed. The worst is guys who r like I hate myself. I mean what can u say, if u disagree saying they are not ugly or not a bad person etc then they think u don't really mean it. And on no level do i like it which is why i would never stay with sum1 who was emotionally fucked up.
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Sounds like newboy12 has struck a nerve and your sig is "interesting"
 
maybe you are in some way attracted to people like that.
but its not like there are just a few people who are like that and you are unlucky to get them.at least half of the guys are like that.
 
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