Why do people have sex???

[Ninja108]

to me, it's about sharing love with another person in the most intimitate way possible. It allows you to become one with the other person. At least for me.

 

[rareboy]

The reason I'm asking is because I'm tired of people saying that there must be something wrong with me because I have no desire to go there with anyone. I'm eager to hear your responses.

It is so hard to tell someone who obviously has no taste for sex why others do it and I can't imagine how this will result in answers that help you with the above issue.

It is just great fun. You get to give incredible pleasure and receive in return.

Telling you why we love it is like describing the wonders of an amarone or barollo to someone who doesn't drink wine.

If you don't want to do it, don't....but don't think the less of the rest of us because we think it is the best thing next to breathing. There's no moral ascendancy in asexuality.

 

[sixthson]

If your not doing it then it should not bother you.

The same goes for you. If you are not having sex and never want to have sex, why make such an issue of it? Why tell your friends or even us that you are asexual? Why draw attention to it?

I think you need to get laid.

Seriously.

 

[-Ryan-]

people have sex because its in our genetics.

DuH!

 

[winterknight]

"Anyone who thinks sex is overrated simply isn't doing it right"

--Sam Black Crow, in American Gods by Neil Gaiman

 

[guitardan]

Serious question thebigone06 .... how does your post below in the requests forum fit in with your asexualness ?

Hi Fellas,
Does anyone out there have pics of video clips of guys bulging package.To me there's nothing hotter than sexy guy with a great body bulging through a pair of tight jeans, spandex, underwear and my favorite nylon shorts from the 80's. You know what I mean I know seeing is believing but sometimes it's what you don't see that's an even bigger turnon

heh, i think you just answered your own question, thebigone... or answered it before you even asked it, to be more exact...

 

[LatinoSTAR]

Well...the way you phrased the question,makes it easy for you to find so many things wrong.

I don't just have sex.....I make love...

There is not a better expression of love,commitment,passion and intimacy....then that of making love.

Are there other things that can be substituted? And that make you feel good? Sure....but...exercise....great friendships.....love of siblings,mothers and fathers...will ((never compare)) to an intimate relationship with,your one true love.Nor,should they.... The two of you...become one.

Also...there are many health studies that link sexual intimacy,with better ((mental)) and physical health.

Here is just one article......called...Is Sex Necessary?

Your Health
Is Sex Necessary?
Alan Farnham

Fans of abstinence had better be sitting down. "Saving yourself" before the big game, the big business deal, the big hoedown or the big bakeoff may indeed confer some moral benefit. But corporeally it does absolutely zip. There's no evidence it sharpens your competitive edge. The best that modern science can say for sexual abstinence is that it's harmless when practiced in moderation. Having regular and enthusiastic sex, by contrast, confers a host of measurable physiological advantages, be you male or female. (This assumes that you are engaging in sex without contracting a sexually transmitted disease.)


- Improved sense of smell: After sex, production of the hormone prolactin surges. This in turn causes stem cells in the brain to develop new neurons in the brain's olfactory bulb, its smell center.

Reduced risk of heart disease: In a 2001 follow-on to the Queens University study mentioned above, researchers focused on cardiovascular health. Their finding? That by having sex three or more times a week, men reduced their risk of heart attack or stroke by half. In reporting these results, the co-author of the study, Shah Ebrahim, Ph.D., displayed the well-loved British gift for understatement: "The relationship found between frequency of sexual intercourse and mortality is of considerable public interest."



Reduced depression: Such was the implication of a 2002 study of 293 women. American psychologist Gordon Gallup reported that sexually active participants whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners did. One theory of causality: Prostoglandin, a hormone found only in semen, may be absorbed in the female genital tract, thus modulating female hormones.

- Pain-relief: Immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine. In women, sex also prompts production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.


Less-frequent colds and flu: Wilkes University in Pennsylvania says individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30% higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system.

- Better bladder control: Heard of Kegel exercises? You do them, whether you know it or not, every time you stem your flow of urine. The same set of muscles is worked during sex.

- Better teeth: Seminal plasma contains zinc, calcium and other minerals shown to retard tooth decay. Since this is a family Web site, we will omit discussion of the mineral delivery system. Suffice it to say that it could be a far richer, more complex and more satisfying experience than squeezing a tube of Crest--even Tartar Control Crest. Researchers have noted, parenthetically, that sexual etiquette usually demands the brushing of one's teeth before and/or after intimacy, which, by itself, would help promote better oral hygiene.

- A happier prostate? Some urologists believe they see a relationship between infrequency of ejaculation and cancer of the prostate. The causal argument goes like this: To produce seminal fluid, the prostate and the seminal vesicles take such substances from the blood as zinc, citric acid and potassium, then concentrate them up to 600 times. Any carcinogens present in the blood likewise would be concentrated. Rather than have concentrated carcinogens hanging around causing trouble, it's better to evict them. Regular old sex could do the job. But if the flushing of the prostate were your only objective, masturbation might be a better way to go, especially for the non-monogamous male. Having sex with multiple partners can, all by itself, raise a man's risk of cancer by up to 40%. That's because he runs an increased risk of contracting sexual infections. So, if you want the all the purported benefits of flushing with none of the attendant risk, go digital. A study recently published by the British Journal of Urology International asserts that men in their 20s can reduce by a third their chance of getting prostate cancer by ejaculating more than five times a week.

While possession of a robust appetite for sex--and the physical ability to gratify it--may not always be the cynosure of perfect health, a reluctance to engage can be a sign that something is seriously on the fritz, especially where the culprit is an infirm erection.

Dr. J. Francois Eid, a urologist with Weill Medical College of Cornell University and New York Presbyterian Hospital, observes that erectile dysfunction is extension of vascular system. A lethargic member may be telling you that you have diseased blood vessels elsewhere in your body. "It could be a first sign of hypertension or diabetes or increased cholesterol levels. It's a red flag that you should see your doctor." Treatment and exercise, says Dr. Eid, can have things looking up again: "Men who exercise and have a good heart and low heart rate, and who are cardio-fit, have firmer erections. There very definitely is a relationship."


http://www.forbes.com/2003/10/08/cz_af_1008health.html

Wow, This is Genius!

Whenever Im In A Depressed State, if i have sex, i immediatley get happy and joyful, and im not depressed anymore!

I cant Stand When People Say Sex Is Overrated, Your just mad cause you cant get laid to save your life!

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Hey, TheBigOne06, you do know that there is a site devoted to asexuality? I think it is called AVEN or something very similar. If you have not heard of it, maybe you should check it out.

 

[MidnightPrism]

Sex is overrated... to me. Some people just enjoy it a lot more than I do.

 

[rareboy]

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[Swellegant]

I have also often wondered why people go so out of their way, and devote so much energy, for sex. But then, I never really enjoyed sex as much as I enjoy masturbating, it seemed so messy and unsatisfying... so I don't have the drive that others possess (or which possesses them, however you want to look at it).

Not liking sex is very muck akin to not liking chocolate. People who do like chocolate will look at you baffled, wonder what's wrong with you, and shudder just a bit in revulsion. But if you don't care for the stuff, you don't care for the stuff, and you wonder what the fuss is all about.

As a chocolate-lover, I would go to the ends of the earth for chocolate, and I get very cranky when I don't have any for too long. Most people are like that about sex. And when someone tells me they don't like chocolate, I look at them crazy, the very idea is terribly unnatural to me... but then, I figure that leaves more chocolate for me.

Vive le difference, sez I.

 

[kevbo]

So killing yourself with toxic smoke and alcohol makes life worth living??? I don't get this one. Sorry!!!

It's just that you said:

"people risk their health, reputation and even their life to engage in an unclean act"

and I chose two other things that fit the bill

 

[jonty71]

hi Thebigone06,
Interesting post, i'm curious to know if you have any sexual desires at all, or do you suppress them because you don't want to have sex.
have you ever masturbated, do you masturbate now? if not do you have wet dreams? Apparently its got to come out sometime.You needn't answer these questions, i'm not trying to be intrusive, just curious and interested.

 

[Columboy]

Breaks up the boredom.

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

^ you don't have sexual desires

fair enough

but why are you on a gay male porn site

something must have brought you here

just curious
i am

 

[rareboy]

you say you have never had a wet dream, you have never masturbated and never had sex.

...........if you haven't been seen by a doctor for this, you should be. This is a case of entirely arrested physiological and/or psychological development.

If you have no libido, what would attract you to a very sexual site?

Something rings very false here.

The person who wrote that is a fraud. A phoney.

I don't think we'll ever know which bigone is the fraud or phoney.

Is it the one looking for porn or the one expressing his distaste for sexuality and trying to convince everyone that something he's apparently never experienced is distasteful.

 

[darcey]

Plesae listen to rareboy & get a COMPLETE physical. Having a low libido isn't unheard of, but may be masking a far more serious medical problem. A complete lack of a sexual drive isn't healthy (how would life on earth survive without it?) &, while not everyone has "a trip to the moon on gossamer wings", it can help one's heart rate (at the very least). PLEASE get a complete base line physical!

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

are you popping the virgin

hehe

 

[AngelFromAbove]

Plesae listen to rareboy & get a COMPLETE physical. Having a low libido isn't unheard of, but may be masking a far more serious medical problem. A complete lack of a sexual drive isn't healthy (how would life on earth survive without it?) &, while not everyone has "a trip to the moon on gossamer wings", it can help one's heart rate (at the very least). PLEASE get a complete base line physical!

How do you know that it is unhealthy? Where are your facts to back your claim? Life on earth survives because many people are willing and able to procreate; however, that does not mean that everyone has to reproduce.

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

I'm not sure what you mean by this.

no don't worry about my post

go back to being asexual on a gay porn site