Why do straight guys flirt with gay guys?

[AussieAri]

Hey!

One thing I've noticed since coming out months ago is that straight guys flirt with me a lot more... it's sort of like waving the hook and bait in front of a fish. I'm not too sure why.

All of my friends are straight, but after I came out, guys with girlfriends would hump me, slap my ass, or ask if I think that they're hot or want to see their dick... Obviously as a joke.

One guy teases me by saying that I want to see him naked, and if I'm lucky I'll get to but he changes the subject before it gets too heavy. I know he's straight so I don't pursue anything; but I want to know why they tease you like that. Is it for self-gratification?

Is it a curiosity thing, or a power mentality or just a way of feeding his love of himself? Has this happened with any of you? Just confuses me sometimes.

Many thanks!

 

[blackbeltninja]

I think with your friends maybe they're just showing you it's not an issue for them and they're comfortable with your sexuality.

My gym partner was the first guy I came out to, and he's really comfortable with teasing me along those lines and flirting a bit; ironic, in a way, because he's really not that confident generally. I think it's his way of just acknowledging the differences and treating me the same as he would other friends (assuming he had more confidence, at least). I know he's not serious, of course, and he knows I wouldn't ever take it seriously.

-d-

 

[Nomenclature]

A lot of straight guys flirt with gay men, because it's flattering to them; they can feel wanted and lusted after by someone they'll never have to act on. If a man isn't feeling lusted after enough at home, he will also flirt with an unobtainable woman just for the thrill of it.

It's also jokey to flirt with us, and humor is a man's way of showing he isn't threatened by something.

 

[cinnamontea]

it's either - they're looking for some sort of appeal-approval (the more people lust after him the more important he feels) or he's simply just using you as an outlet to sorta say things to guys that he will never say to his str8 buddies, lol.

i think mostly it's nothign serious, and they're just being flirty..just dont take it like they wanna have their cock sucked..

 

[braex27]

A lot of straight guys flirt with gay men, because it's flattering to them; they can feel wanted and lusted after by someone they'll never have to act on. If a man isn't feeling lusted after enough at home, he will also flirt with an unobtainable woman just for the thrill of it.

It's also jokey to flirt with us, and humor is a man's way of showing he isn't threatened by something.

Could not have said it better myself, Nomenclature.

....sometimes the straight guys acts on it....

 

[Telstra]

it's either - they're looking for some sort of appeal-approval (the more people lust after him the more important he feels) or he's simply just using you as an outlet to sorta say things to guys that he will never say to his str8 buddies, lol.

i think mostly it's nothign serious, and they're just being flirty..just dont take it like they wanna have their cock sucked..

but what if they want their cocks sucked just for fun.

 

[cinnamontea]

but what if they want their cocks sucked just for fun.

all i'm saying is, don't make the first move. if they really want it, they'lll ask. but most of my str8 friend flirts with me, but they never cross the line and i will never too. it's just awkward. but sometimes they might say that just as a joke, which should not be replied with enthusiasm, cause it makes you look desperate, lol. like dog waiting outside a butcher's shop for some scrap of meat...it makes you seem pathetic, so i never actually do that.

 

[HornyHenry]

Some straights get a kick out of teasing, making fun in an underhanded way, seeing if the gay will come on to them, etc..
Some like to see how much like a woman a gay will act.
Some will do these things in order to later have a laugh with their friends behind the gay's back.
Other straights may have a secret bi side and be trying to get up the courage or the oppertunity to either suck a man's cock or let a poof suck their cocks.

 

[AussieAri]

all i'm saying is, don't make the first move. if they really want it, they'lll ask. but most of my str8 friend flirts with me, but they never cross the line and i will never too. it's just awkward. but sometimes they might say that just as a joke, which should not be replied with enthusiasm, cause it makes you look desperate, lol. like dog waiting outside a butcher's shop for some scrap of meat...it makes you seem pathetic, so i never actually do that.

Yep, this I'm aware of. I'm very careful not to cross the line, in fact all of the gay flirting comes from them and I shrug it off as I am positive it's a joke and I'd hate to ruin a friendship, it's just it never happened before I came out so I wasn't sure of their motives behind it.

 

[Steamer]

I'm not really sure; I like it and flirt right back.

 

[Nomenclature]

....sometimes the straight guys acts on it....

but what if they want their cocks sucked just for fun.

Some straights get a kick out of teasing, making fun in an underhanded way, seeing if the gay will come on to them, etc..
Some like to see how much like a woman a gay will act.
Some will do these things in order to later have a laugh with their friends behind the gay's back.

I actually had a straight guy tell me a story of when he did this to his girlfriend's best gay friend. He would drive him to-and-from work, and would tease the hell out of that guy just to confuse him. Their "friendship" finally ended when said straight guy went as far as to have a gay porn playing on TV before he walked in.

/facepalm

I'm not really sure; I like it and flirt right back.

That's the perfect response: Just enjoy it for what it is, and let them be in control of how far it goes.

 

[jrocksnumberrr1]

This literally happened to me today.... at lunch one of my straight friends came over to me and lately he's been like coming over, massaging my back and stuff. ( i pretend not to like it but we all know the truth...he's sexy haha) anyway so today he did that, but he also grabbed my head and was like "kiss me". i literally had to pull my face away bc he was pulling my head towards him.. that was so hard bc not only did i want to...but i also had to put effort into not doing it. sooo annoying..

 

[Marky7511]

Such a true statement!
I tend to fall for the straight guys because they're the ones that flirt with ME! They're always so sweet, or either saying the most sexual things a straight man could say to another man without coming out of the closet! I never pursue them though because they say they're straight, yet I cant help but to develop these immense romantic feelings for them, it makes me sick to the stomach.
I'm not gonna lie, just recently my bestfriend's brother tried this on me, we're all really close, because we've been hanging out with each other for so long we can walk around in our underwear, or do the grossest things in front of each other. Well I just came out to my bestfriend, she was completely okay with it, and so was her brother(surprisingly because he's this macho player player, who tries to sleep with every girl he can). Lately he thinks it's okay to massage me, watch porn with me, and do whatever he can to turn me on. He's been asking me to give him a blowjob, and has gone as far as shoving his penis in my face, but whenever I tell him to put it in my mouth, he laughs it off. But, one crazy night, we watched porn together, he jerked off, and I told him that I love cum, so he had the nerve to stick it in my mouth and making me swallow his cum, but he's straight? and a bj is just a joke? worst of all, i'm really starting to like him, but he's "straight" AND he's my bestfriend's brother, I have no idea what to do in this situation but to stay as far away from him as possible, or should i take it futher?

 

[KewinLtr]

they want their cocks sucked haha well all people like to flirt

 

[cyravance]

Such a true statement!
I tend to fall for the straight guys because they're the ones that flirt with ME! They're always so sweet, or either saying the most sexual things a straight man could say to another man without coming out of the closet! I never pursue them though because they say they're straight, yet I cant help but to develop these immense romantic feelings for them, it makes me sick to the stomach.
I'm not gonna lie, just recently my bestfriend's brother tried this on me, we're all really close, because we've been hanging out with each other for so long we can walk around in our underwear, or do the grossest things in front of each other. Well I just came out to my bestfriend, she was completely okay with it, and so was her brother(surprisingly because he's this macho player player, who tries to sleep with every girl he can). Lately he thinks it's okay to massage me, watch porn with me, and do whatever he can to turn me on. He's been asking me to give him a blowjob, and has gone as far as shoving his penis in my face, but whenever I tell him to put it in my mouth, he laughs it off. But, one crazy night, we watched porn together, he jerked off, and I told him that I love cum, so he had the nerve to stick it in my mouth and making me swallow his cum, but he's straight? and a bj is just a joke? worst of all, i'm really starting to like him, but he's "straight" AND he's my bestfriend's brother, I have no idea what to do in this situation but to stay as far away from him as possible, or should i take it futher?

Just don't get into a situation where you get used to prove some straight guys desirability...I know straight guys, and they can suck, suck, suck! And not in a good way...

 

[Gamby6]

Hey!

One thing I've noticed since coming out months ago is that straight guys flirt with me a lot more... it's sort of like waving the hook and bait in front of a fish. I'm not too sure why.

All of my friends are straight, but after I came out, guys with girlfriends would hump me, slap my ass, or ask if I think that they're hot or want to see their dick... Obviously as a joke.
.....

That got me thinking how would str8 guys react if you do the same. Jokingly of course.

 

[rysmiley88]

My opinion is that all men are curious at some level. I work with a very hetero guy, a bodybuilder and a cop, who just loves any attention. We always greet with a long affectionate hug. He knows I'm gay, and he feeds on it, because I react to it...He comments on the bulge in my pants, he jokes about "taking me to Pleasuretown", but it's all just talk. I'm glad he's open minded, and I don't feel belittled at all. Point is, STR8 guys like to flirt. And if they're secure with their sexuality, they will flirt with guys as well...

 

[undeux]

This literally happened to me today.... at lunch one of my straight friends came over to me and lately he's been like coming over, massaging my back and stuff. ( i pretend not to like it but we all know the truth...he's sexy haha) anyway so today he did that, but he also grabbed my head and was like "kiss me". i literally had to pull my face away bc he was pulling my head towards him.. that was so hard bc not only did i want to...but i also had to put effort into not doing it. sooo annoying..

You don't have to put effort into not doing it. If he initiates, go for it. And if he expresses anger it's his own regret. You were just following his advances.

 

[undeux]

Such a true statement!
I tend to fall for the straight guys because they're the ones that flirt with ME! They're always so sweet, or either saying the most sexual things a straight man could say to another man without coming out of the closet! I never pursue them though because they say they're straight, yet I cant help but to develop these immense romantic feelings for them, it makes me sick to the stomach.
I'm not gonna lie, just recently my bestfriend's brother tried this on me, we're all really close, because we've been hanging out with each other for so long we can walk around in our underwear, or do the grossest things in front of each other. Well I just came out to my bestfriend, she was completely okay with it, and so was her brother(surprisingly because he's this macho player player, who tries to sleep with every girl he can). Lately he thinks it's okay to massage me, watch porn with me, and do whatever he can to turn me on. He's been asking me to give him a blowjob, and has gone as far as shoving his penis in my face, but whenever I tell him to put it in my mouth, he laughs it off. But, one crazy night, we watched porn together, he jerked off, and I told him that I love cum, so he had the nerve to stick it in my mouth and making me swallow his cum, but he's straight? and a bj is just a joke? worst of all, i'm really starting to like him, but he's "straight" AND he's my bestfriend's brother, I have no idea what to do in this situation but to stay as far away from him as possible, or should i take it futher?

If he lets you suck his dick ...do whatever you want/he wants. You're lucky to be in the situation

 

[DafyddGeraint]

Why do straight guys flirt with gay guys?

It's fun, its safe, they don't think they will get done for sexual harrasment, it's their way of saying they are ok with you being gay, and they don't for one minute think you will take it seriously... even if you do.

Go to some places and you will find young straight guys flirting with each other, it is in many ways the ultimate expression of heterosexuality: Two straight guys telling the other they love them and want to do sordid things to them. There does come a point when a man is so straight he can get away with doing 'gay' things like flirting with you, because he knows that people won't judge him for it, or think that he is gay. And more to the point he doesnt CARE even if people think he is gay because he is secure enough in himself. My Gay best friend started flirting with me, before I did with him, but I know that he isn't interested in me sexually - 'definately not his type'- thats why he knew I would be comfortable, and why he is comfortable with me flirting with him. So it can work both ways, where Gay men flirt with straight men who they know don't want them, but its great fun.

It's just unfortunate that some people get caught up in a false sense of hope.