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Why do you think people cheat on their partners?

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What are the reasons, in your opinion, behind someone cheating on his/her partner?

I think people, in general, have an extremely superficial perspective on this matter...as they do on most matters actually. I've seen people cheat but I knew what was going on and, even though I don't necessarily agree with it, I understand why it happened.
Of course it depends on the situation but it's not, IMO, that cut-and-dry. Just as any other type of behavior, it has its genesis, its reason (which varies, of course).
 
Because we bisexuals are filthy whores. We make everyone we see fall in love with us and then we cheat on them right in front of their eyes because that's just the kind of people we are :rolleyes:.
 
jasoncrew03 said:
Because we bisexuals are filthy whores. We make everyone we see fall in love with us and then we cheat on them right in front of their eyes because that's just the kind of people we are :rolleyes:.
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Um...what made you think this is about bisexuals? This is about people in general.

Jesus! Lighten the fuck up, will ya? :rolleyes:
 
"Re: Why do you think people cheat on their partners?"

Not enough sex at home.
Not satisfied with the sex at home.
Want more variety than just the sex at home.
Someone is a horn dog.
 
I wouldnt call it a superficial perspectrive. I can understand some peoples reasoning to cheat, however that doesn't justify it. Whatever the circumstances it is a selfish and very dishonourable act to commit.
 
Only cheated on one BF and for a myriad of reasons. Breath was always foul, he jumped up several pant sizes in the first few months I knew him, he never put out, undies had skid marks so I know that area wasn't clean enough for me to tap on him, he cheated too. Basically, I watched him really let himself go and it was totally his fault. It just got to the point that I was disgusted anytime I looked his way. At that point, I figured he could still be around me but I fired from being my sex provider; though I still allowed him to use the term boyfriend with me out in public. I'm not that picky but goddamn, I do require you brush, floss, shower and wipe and maybe from time to time, maybe opt for a ham sandwich and some salad vs. ordering fast food.
 
Because we could at least function as friends and he was paying half the rent. He also kept the booze cabinet stocked.
 
^ LOL

As far as cheating goes, I think some people cheat because they want the relationship to be over, but can't bring themselves to break up with the other person.

I actually almost cheated on a boyfriend of mine with my ex because I realized my boyfriend at the time wasn't going to be able to provide equally more than likely. He was in a wheelchair and on SSI and didn't seem to want to work. He also had health problems, which made things more difficult and could obviously impact both is ability to work and our life as a couple. I realized I wasn't over my ex as well.

I went to kiss my ex when I was visiting him, but he stopped me from doing it. I told my boyfriend at the time and then we broke up and I got back together with my ex.

It's not something I'm proud of and I haven't cheated on anyone else since.
 
not being happy was my reason and my love for cock. i'm not happy without some cocks in my hands and mouth
 
They either feel neglected or are not serious at the first place.
 
People cheat for all manner of reasons. Maybe Wilde was right to suggest that 'young men want to be faithful but can't, and old men want to cheat, but can't.' Can't seems strong. Don't sounds more believable. Perhaps it has something to do with growing up to respect not only ourselves sufficiently, but also those who love us, really loving and adoring those people, and wanting to save ourselves only to share with that person, nobody else being so close to our inner-selves, and so on.

Darren what-his-name sings in Affirmation that trust is more important than monogamy - if I had a partner who didn't remain monogamous, he would have blown the trust I had in him about the same time as he blew his first shag away from home.
 
Cheating is a selfish act where the cheater hardens his heart to the one person he is supposed to love above all others. ALL others. It is the breaking of trust and trust ranks right up there with love. In fact, love and trust are the two sides of the same coin.

I think the question is not why do people cheat, but why do they value love and trust so little that they are willing to break the heart of the most important person in the world to them for a cheap thrill.

From some of the posts here, it appears that some downplay the seriousness of infidelity i.e. boys will be boys.
 
As long as the partner knows it, it is not cheating. Monogamy is an illusion for young girls.
 
huntneo said:
haha...that's a cute opinion.
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I don't agree with the monogamy is an illusion, but I have a question.

If science has proven that 2 out of 5 men are not genetically compatible with monogamy, along with a multitude of factors (parents divorce) in their lives and the 3 that may be genetically compatible, that may influence their behavior in relationships...

Why do we continue to chase something that many of us are not compatible with? That we will screw up and hurt people in the process?
 
Oh I agree that some are just natural for monogamy and don't desire anything else.
And some don't.

But I was wondering why people continue to desire it after let's say...the third marriage and divorce.

Or the 5th relationship where person A cheated their boyfriend.

At some point, should one wonder whether they should shrug their shoulder and wonder "perhaps an open relationship would work?"

I know early civilization generally had no taboo on multiple sex partners. Monogamy really only exploded after the rise of Christianity. And open relationships are generally consider taboo now. No one has to say no to monogamy because the odds are it would not work, but perhaps if more people (and society) stopped viewing open relationships as taboo, people would stop hurting others after the 4th failed monogamous relationship?

Combined with the scientific evidence to point out why it would not work out, along with countless horror stories of messy break ups, we still chase after monogamy after the 1st dozen times failed. And the same could be said for open relationships.

Unlike you, where you and others knew you wanted it and it works.

Again, I'm not say monogamy is unnatural or dismissing it as an illusion, but it is rather odd how people continually cheat but still thinks monogamy works for them.
And I think it ties in to how to open relationships are generally taboo.
 
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