Why Does He Ignore Me?

[justhappy]

.... there could be a lot of reasons why the two of you just didn't fully click ... a lot of posters have given you advise, but I think each one of them was suggesting that perhaps you were moving a little too fast for him, so next time slow down take it easy.......there are a few people that would be uncomfortable finding out that you want to bed them down on the first meeting.....he might have thought that you were coming across as a bit needy...or he might have viewed it as a "line" and you simply saw him as a conquest ..... if he went to that first meeting at Starbucks expecting to meet a new friend and you went there thinking of it as a first date, that definitely would make a difference in his firast impression of you.....you are young.... use the experience as a lesson.... and remember it in the future because someday you are gonna be on the other side of the table at Starbucks and how will you handle the situation?

 

[G-Lexington]

JY's got a good point. That is in fact what we all SHOULD do if this situation arises, and we don't wish to persue a relationship. Problem is - other people aren't always so considerate. We can't dictate their actions. We can only dictate our own. Yes, it'd be great if this person announced he was no longer interested. But given that he's not playing, Q can only go on what information is available to him. And the available information is "he's just not that into you".

Lex

 

[JackFTwist]

sometimes things just don't click - be glad for the good of it and move on -

 

[Lube]

maybe he just likes to fuck virgins and you're no longer a virgin.

Or maybe he realizes that, as your first fuck, the probability of you two lasting forever is almost nil. In any case he has quite clearly told you he is no longer interested. Move on and learn from it. You'll know what to look for in Mr. Right.

 

[VICTORIADON]

I would never ignore you...

 

[Lube]

Wait, his main concern was the I was a virgin. I did push sex a little too much, but at that time I just came out and wanting to find out more about being gay, gay sex, etc., so I guess you can't blame me too much. I remember when we first starting to message each other his said he would mind being a mentor. I maybe I can move on, but I will never forget him. I just wish I could talk to him a least one more time, so that I can tell him.... thanks.

Don't worry, I'm not blaming you at all.

You can see my age at left, and yet my first gay sex was surprisingly recently. The first time I did it was with a hookup from an online hookup site (who turned out to be a really nice guy, actually--not that most of them are) and I loved it so much I kept pestering him and pestering him. Finally, he's like "Dude, I just don't need sex that often", LOL. But it was all so new to me, I was extremely horny. So I know exactly how you feel.

In spite of the fact that he was a nice guy, I knew from the beginning that he was just a fuck buddy, so I never pursued the romantic side of things with him.

War is hell and love is just as bad, so maybe you just ought to forget about this guy. He did you a favor (took your virginity at your request) and it's time to move on.

Sometimes you just don't get closure.

 

[Lube]

Oh, sorry, I misread this:

The thing is that he knew I was a virgin and I did pushed the idea that he would be my first time.

as if you had sex. My bad.

Then, yeah, G-Lexington has it right. He's just not that into you.