why does it seem like...

[BrandonSBCA]

I recently came out to this girl at school who had NO idea I was gay, she said at some time she had her doubts about me not being straight. But she said that the reason she thought I might of been gay was because I was hanging out with girls in the class and that I knew so much about men. I'm who I am, I don't pretend to be fem or pretend to be masculine.

I don't even have a problem with fems at all. But it does seem shocking when a person finds out you're gay and they had no clue of this.

 

[Nonimus]

You should meet my ex - he wasn't at all gay. Pfft!

 

[gsdx]

You should meet my ex - he wasn't at all gay. Pfft!

Is he aware he's your ex? For that matter, was he even aware that he was your boyfriend?

 

[sb]

fags are very theatrical... so by pretending to be straight they get to perform all the time... they love it... a lot of them need to get some acting lessons.

or they think that saying they are straight acting somehow makes them better than the other gay guys because they think that being straight is better.

 

[Nonimus]

Is he aware he's your ex? For that matter, was he even aware that he was your boyfriend?

I shall take that as a slight against my good name sir, are you eluding to the supposition that this 'very gay person' is/was/continues to be a figment of my imagination?

i.e. do you want polaroids to prove it or something?

 

[gsdx]

I shall take that as a slight against my good name sir, are you eluding to the supposition that this 'very gay person' is/was/continues to be a figment of my imagination?

i.e. do you want polaroids to prove it or something?

Whew! Good thing I didn't ask how much he charged for a night.

(And 'yes', polaroids would do nicely.)

 

[Nonimus]

Whew! Good thing I didn't ask how much he charged for a night.

(And 'yes', polaroids would do nicely.)

I can't scan them in; they're all stuck together for some reason.

Anyway, he was a beautiful, well-educated lad who, despite being a flaming queer was adamant that he was 'straight acting'

Sadly, his inner beauty did not reflect his outer beauty, and being dumped just before Xmas wasn't nice.

End of story.

 

[Nonimus]

I can't speak for gsdx, but "I" do.

I refer the honorable gentleman to the post I made some moments ago....

 

[Andreus]

hehehe

theres one guy here at JUB that portrays himself as this uber butch guy who fits in with the straight boys, but he is actually one of the single most bubbly queers you can imagine

it is amusing, but hey...

whatever makes you happy right?

 

[marcde]

Anyway, he was a beautiful, well-educated lad who, despite being a flaming queer was adamant

and your point is?????????????

 

[Nonimus]

and your point is?????????????

Ok, I'm not from the 17th century like you my sweet Jubby Hubby - so I'll take it that's someone famous.

He wasn't THAT flamboyant - just camp.

 

[The_Reaper]

There are guys who you can peg within two miles....There are others who are far more subtle.


Take myself for example.

I was convinced that my parents knew, and that one or two of my friends would have caught on to it.

When I came out to a friend, he was shocked.

When I was outed to my parents and brother, they were absolutly surprised.

And my best friend, is still trying to set me up with girls and makes vague jokes about what part of the woman I like best.

That's going to be quite the shocker for him I think.

 

[josher]

For the most part gay men who think no one suspects they're gay are deluding themselves. Many people who claim to be shocked when someone comes out to them are just trying to be kind. They don't want the gay guy to know they figured it out.

 

[The_Reaper]

For the most part gay men who think no one suspects they're gay are deluding themselves. Many people who claim to be shocked when someone comes out to them are just trying to be kind. They don't want the gay guy to know they figured it out.

*Runs away crying*

 

[Swellegant]

Well, hard-candy, I was about to put on my stiletto boots and break out the Cruella DeVil gloves ("I for one like men who act like men, not men who act like girls," is fightin' words); but after reading your subsequent posts, I know what you mean.

It's called "delusion." It's the same disease that causes teenage girls to wear hip-huggers so small that their flesh spills over the top of the waist, creating the horribly unattractive "muffin-top." It's the disease that causes balding men to think that a combover actually disguises their baldness. It's the same disease that allows Fundamentalists to believe themselves righteous even though they sin far more every day by the terms of their own religion than anyone they habitually condemn.

A lot of people look in the mirror and they don't see what's really there... they see what they want to be there. They think that wearing a certain kind of shirt makes them look straight, or that a certain kind of sneakers make them look young, or a certain kind of underwear makes them look sexy. It's very sad.

And then there are those who project their delusions on others. Women in particular will do this when they are hunting for a mate. All those girls who tell us nelly boys that they had no idea we were gay? It's because they were attracted to us and so purposefully ignored all the warning signs.

There was this woman at my gym who approached my friend Caroline in the locker-room to ascertain whether or not I was available... and while I was flattered that someone found me attractive, even if it was a woman, I had to marvel at her powers of delusion. I mean, though I'm not the screaming queen I once was (it gets very tiring after a certain age), I don't hide my light under a bushel by any means, and I was performing a lot back then so was even more feminized in my behavior than usual.

Granted, my gym outfits weren't exactly gay-looking (mostly from the Gap and Mervyn's), and I don't talk loudly enough in public for the passerby to hear my Gay Accent; but how could she ignore the inch-long acrylic nails ("I thought you played guitar" is a common excuse I heard) or the cubic-zirconia bracelets and rings I always wore, even to the gym? How could she ignore the way I strutted my stuff on the treadmill as if I were hitting the runway at a Paris fashion show? How could she ignore the clearly nonromantic and rather high-school-girly nature of my relationship with Caroline? The poor creature had to be blind not to know right off the bat that I was gay.

 

[Soilwork]

Just so we're clear with this... I have never once claimed to be Straight Acting and would never do so.

I'm 100% gay acting and proud of it.







Ok.. there's a member here (and I won't mention names because I don't want to embarrass him) who has told us many times that nobody would know he was gay if he didnt' tell them and how none of his straight friends know.

They must be deaf and blind.

Now, he's not a big flaming torch-a-saurus, but he's quite obviously gay to anyone with even the weakest gaydar, and although I think he's quite hot, I'd be shocked if he WASN'T gay.

And yeah.. claiming to be "straight acting" is about as lame as you can get.