Why does the first time hurt so much?

[Zeremonie]

I don't know the answer to that, but I think that anal sex should not hurt if you've taken plenty of time with lube and patience. I hope you did pull out immediately.

Your post does not fit in the poll forum because there is no poll attached. I think perhaps it fits in the health and well being forum but your thread might fit in a couple of different places, so please reply if you want it moved elsewhere.

 

[chrisdobro]

it hurts the anus if you rush in and the guy who's bottoming is not prepared. I know how it hurts and don't want to experience that again ...
The entering part should be slow and penis/anus should be well lubed up.

I personally like to nudge/hump my way in when I top. That way I stay hard, get pleasure and it does not hurt for the other person. When the penis is inserted right in and the anus is not prepared, that's when it hurts like heck. Ouch! When you top, be patient and you'll get in eventually & "naturally".

 

[king01]

Frat Man, when you put 9.3 inches up a guy the first time, he is either gonna scream or faint......lol

 

[wastingmymind]

There are times when it doesn't hurt while I'm doing it, but it hurts days after. I don't know what it was. Adrenaline. It's been six days now.

 

[luminum]

It's all about being prepared. There has to be enough lube, the bottom has to be relaxed, the muscles need to be stretched, and the top has to take it slow and allow the bottom to adjust to gradual penetration.

If the bottom is tense and isn't 'opening up', or there isn't enough lube and too much friction, and the top is rushing then it's going to hurt.

 

[CagedBird]

Ok, my two cents on "WHY DOES THE FIRST TIME HURT...""

Everyone reacts differently to their first anal penetration. Being relaxed & lube is only part of it. It can be comfortable in the beginning, but if you & your partner don't communicate in the middle of the process, the one penetrating can get carried away.

I'm a very tight virgin, but have been practicing with my digits for aprox 2 weeks now in anticipation of the real thing.

I just had my FIRST TIME a few hours ago. I topped my man [who, btw was HUNG]
lubed up & within a minute or less was penetrated. It was comfortable for the most part, till I reached behind me & realized he was not full engaged in me.
I asked for the whole thing [mistake] & he got carried away on thrusting. This is what I mean about communicating with your partner. You cant tell how much pain your giving another when its YOU thats plowing away!

Go slow & respect each other, then its love!

 

[TomahawkEagle]

Think it might be good to practice taking things up your ass if you're not use it ass fucking. I haven't fucked or been fucked before but from time to time I like to shove an ice stick up my ass just so I can get the feeling of penetration. The first time I did that it really hurt and felt awkward. It's been a few years since I first started doing that and now I know that if I prepare myself and use plenty of lube, the experience should be enjoyable. Of course the next step for me is to take the real thing up my ass.....but first I have coming out issues to deal with.