why doesn't anyone my age like me?

[StlKj]

What kind of guys are you hitting on? How do you approach them? There's way too much being left out here for anyone to really know why it's not working for you.

Here's a thought--if predator types are hitting on you aggressively, are you putting out any kind of vibe that says you might be prey? You say you have high self-esteem--how does that come out? Do you project confidence in yourself?

We just don't know enough about you and how you operate to answer your question, so we're left telling you the only thing you already know on some level--you're physically attractive. Now it's time to find out more about who you are to see what's really up.

 

[theblackajah]

What you need is a makeover.

My personal opinion: Take a look at Michael Trucco. You look like him in facial features. Copy his hair- your long slightly wavy hair doesn't suit you. Perhaps it makes you look older, and that would be why you attract people older than you are.

Just some objective makeover advice. I wouldn't want to bullshit you and say "you're fine the way you are, screw those people that can't see your inner flowery beauty!"

Nothing wrong with improving ourselves.

But of course, if you're emotionally attached to your hairstyle, oh well.

 

[SurferBoyKai]

Here's a thought--if predator types are hitting on you aggressively, are you putting out any kind of vibe that says you might be prey? You say you have high self-esteem--how does that come out? Do you project confidence in yourself?

We just don't know enough about you and how you operate to answer your question, so we're left telling you the only thing you already know on some level--you're physically attractive. Now it's time to find out more about who you are to see what's really up.

oh yah, i project a lot of confidence in myself. i don't know what you mean by if i come across as prey. like, i'm not getting that concept. what do you need to know about me? ask away brah.



theblackajah - all i see is a picture of a frog and something about bandwitdth. i'm actually trying to regrow my hair out a bit more, but i guess i'm open to suggestions

 

[martin6]

Um... I don't know what other guys my age are thinking, but I can speak confidently and say you're pretty fuckin' cute!

No... really!

 

[StlKj]

oh yah, i project a lot of confidence in myself. i don't know what you mean by if i come across as prey. like, i'm not getting that concept. what do you need to know about me? ask away brah.



theblackajah - all i see is a picture of a frog and something about bandwitdth. i'm actually trying to regrow my hair out a bit more, but i guess i'm open to suggestions

lol I did ask. What kinds of guys do you approach? How do you do so? When you're hitting on a guy, what do you say?

 

[maxpowr9]

IMO, cute is such a derogatory word to describe a person's appearance.

Anyways, speaking from my experience with guys, what attracts me to a guy is not necessarily his looks but rather his personality. As long as a guy takes of himself, I'm happy. Obviously, I know pretty much nothing about you, but if you tend to be very "mature", you tend to attract older guys. May be you are looking in the wrong places for guys. It really does help a lot if you know what you are looking for in other guys.

 

[SurferBoyKai]

lol I did ask. What kinds of guys do you approach? How do you do so? When you're hitting on a guy, what do you say?

oh, my bad haha. i don't really have a specific type, but i approach guys i think are clean and know how to have fun (fun being like, goofin off, having a shaving cream and silly string fight, water balloon fight, etc). i approach them as myself, none of that "myster's system to get laid" bullshit haha. i really dunno what i say. i don't use pick up lines or anything like that.

 

[thewiz]

Well Surfer Boy...let me just throw my "old" two-cents in!

I have only been out a little over two years and so I've had to learn a lot about the gay culture; some I like very much and some I am still confused about. First, you are very cute and, no, I'm not hitting on you and I'm not sending you a plane ticket! I don't tend to act or look my age; I play in a gay football league with guys your age or slightly older and most think I'm 30-35. Many of these younger guys are drop dead gorgeous; one has been featured as a model in a number of magazines and publications.

However, he says the same thing as you; no one ever hits on him. If he weren't such a good friend, I told him I'd happily oblige! But he finds that he intimidates guys because he is good looking and confident. Because he has modeled, guys don't think they are "good enough" for him. He is actually frustrated and lonely.

Second, many guys your age want older guys which still surprises me sometimes. I guess they figure older guys are better lovers, have their act together or whatever. Having tried to date these older guys, I hate to disappoint them on some of those beliefs!

Third, guys your age are sexually peaking (well, some of us peaked later!) I often find that they just can't get enough sex or have enough sex and get sex and relationships confused. A relationship is not meeting, chugging a shot, and going home to fuck. But sometimes I think the two get confused. Dating for more than 3 weeks seems to be a long term relationship!

All of that said (and it is personal feelings and findings), just be yourself. The times I have met the most special guys was when I wasn't looking; when I wasn't trying to force an issue. Sex has never been a problem to find; but only when I don't seem to look have I found the really special guys.

It's easy to tell someone to have patience, just not when it involves me! You will find that special guy and don't get frustrated!

 

[Shepherd 2]

Are you doing any pursuing of your own? Or are you sitting back waiting for them to come a-knocking? Because the squeaky wheel gets the grease. And usually where it wants the grease, too.

Lex

Are you being passive? Lex is a good adviser.
Initiate, for you seem to have a lot to offer.
I also can tell you that a lot of older men pursue
young men as well. It is a matter of personal choice
for you as well as those you will pursue.
Shep+

 

[will_zeis23]

Hey dude, sorry for your luck with guys, I'd wish I could hit on you but I'm across the country. ^_^ you're a sweet guy. And cute I use only describe an action someone does, not how they appear, to me it sounds like calling someone a baby or childish.

 

[gameboy 11]

You're OK-looking.

I'd hang whicha!

Hehe. Do you use AIM or Yahoo?

I LOVE to chat!

 

[martin6]

Surfer: Whatever you want to be called, honey, I'll call you that!

 

[SurferBoyKai]

You're OK-looking.

I'd hang whicha!

Hehe. Do you use AIM or Yahoo?

I LOVE to chat!

right...so i'm just ok looking? i use both though

 

[dalton41]

Lucky7 is right, have patience. I was in my 20's and there was not one single person I cared about or interested in and they certainly was not interested in me...only older guys. Well I'm an older guy now with a bf that is ten years younger. WOW! I never thought that would ever happen.

 

[boy0boy]

Wowzer I'm so gonna start my own thread on this topic so all these guys can compliment me. HAHA Just playin.



But for real. Just an idea on that whole look of "you with me?" maybe its a look of shock.... and your taking it the opposite way. I dont know... but just think, you'll like the guy who does do all that for you like even more.

good luck kid

 

[gayfilam]

Young men at your age are just starting. You claimed to be bi and that could be the reason no one your age is approaching you. Young men who are gay will look for only the gay. Stop dating young girls that are seen with you and you will see how quick guys of your age will come to you. I made that mistake when I was your age. Now I'm over the hill.

 

[-Lance-]

I'm not complaining about any male attention i get.

I'm into older guys, so its all good.

 

[SurferBoyKai]

I'm not complaining about any male attention i get.

I'm into older guys, so its all good.

except the attention i get is gross. like the customer that shoved his crotch in my face and told me to suck his cock

Young men at your age are just starting. You claimed to be bi and that could be the reason no one your age is approaching you. Young men who are gay will look for only the gay. Stop dating young girls that are seen with you and you will see how quick guys of your age will come to you. I made that mistake when I was your age. Now I'm over the hill.

i haven't been with a girl in a long time either haha



i was talkin to my co-worker yesterday. i told her that i hate my nose, that i think it's too big. she told me that "it's very common for attractive people to be insecure and a bit lonely" i dunno if it's true or not. i don't consider myself lonely because i have my friends.

anyway, she this about my nose: "yer nose is perfect for you. the first thing people will usually notice about you are yer lips because of their fullness. then they'll follow up to yer nose, which is perfectly straight, leading to yer eyes. then they notices the length of yer eyebrows, which they follow to yer hair, which leads back up to yer lips. people don't just look all around randomly at yer face, and you don't have an imperfection that stops then dead in their tracks, like a bump in yer nose" then she mentioned some art term haha.

yah, if you can't tell, sketch is an art student haha

 

[Zildjian]

I've had this same problem to with finding guys my age. Seems like [for the most part] that only guys 35+ find me attractive.

I guess that because of my childhood and upbringing, that I seem a little mature for my age and there is a conflict with guys who really are and act like young 20 year olds.

I'm not really interested in what younger guys do. I like fine dining, dressing conservatively, entrepreneurship, etc. Most guys my age are interested in drinking, clubbing, and sleeping around.

Am I weird of what?