erobert
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I have almost the same problem.
People tell me I’m very good looking, my mother says I look something like Aston Kutcher. I was almost chosen to be a model at several agencies. A casting director for the movie Stranger Than Fiction literally jumped out her seat and signed me up to be an extra because “she loved my look.” On top of that I’m 6.6’.
Yet, I’m lonely and frustrated thinking the exact same thing as you. Why don’t any guys my age like me? Thing is they do like me, I can tell many types of guys my age are attracted, all the right elements are in place for them to come up to me but why aren’t they making a move? I think there’s a couple factors with gay/bi guys our age:
They are afraid to go beyond eye flirting or don’t know what to say if they do come to you. I get a lot of looks in my college classes on a daily basis, but it seems like 99% of the guys don‘t make a move. It’s like a high school dance where everyone is standing around pressed to the walls. I’m shy so I don’t make the first move either, which doesn‘t help either.
Also many are in the closet. Generally ,lots of young bi/gay guys are really struggling with their feelings of same sex attraction. Many aren’t being honest with themselves and some aren‘t out to themselves. It takes a confident, secure guy to hit on a guy around his same age- especially in public.
Hot guys can be intimidating as already mentioned. Some will think you’re out of their league because your hot, but the truth isn‘t really a “league.” Being tall can sometimes intimidate guys.
Finally, a lot of guys our age haven’t fine-tuned their intuition (aka gaydar). They second guess themselves, there oblivious you’re flirting with them or you’re not aware they’re flirting with you, etc... If you’re in a place where a lot of people are on a daily basis, such as a crowded urban area, you’ll begin to fine tune your gaydar and make it easier to pick out gay/bi guys in a crowd or recognize those subtle signals of interest.
Don’t make yourself a target for older predators. I talking about body language, attitude, etc... Some of the things you described border on sexual assault. If that stuff happens again you may want to notify police or a trusted adult.
BTW, you’re pretty good looking for your age. I’m sure a lot of other guys your age in your area think that too.
People tell me I’m very good looking, my mother says I look something like Aston Kutcher. I was almost chosen to be a model at several agencies. A casting director for the movie Stranger Than Fiction literally jumped out her seat and signed me up to be an extra because “she loved my look.” On top of that I’m 6.6’.
Yet, I’m lonely and frustrated thinking the exact same thing as you. Why don’t any guys my age like me? Thing is they do like me, I can tell many types of guys my age are attracted, all the right elements are in place for them to come up to me but why aren’t they making a move? I think there’s a couple factors with gay/bi guys our age:
They are afraid to go beyond eye flirting or don’t know what to say if they do come to you. I get a lot of looks in my college classes on a daily basis, but it seems like 99% of the guys don‘t make a move. It’s like a high school dance where everyone is standing around pressed to the walls. I’m shy so I don’t make the first move either, which doesn‘t help either.
Also many are in the closet. Generally ,lots of young bi/gay guys are really struggling with their feelings of same sex attraction. Many aren’t being honest with themselves and some aren‘t out to themselves. It takes a confident, secure guy to hit on a guy around his same age- especially in public.
Hot guys can be intimidating as already mentioned. Some will think you’re out of their league because your hot, but the truth isn‘t really a “league.” Being tall can sometimes intimidate guys.
Finally, a lot of guys our age haven’t fine-tuned their intuition (aka gaydar). They second guess themselves, there oblivious you’re flirting with them or you’re not aware they’re flirting with you, etc... If you’re in a place where a lot of people are on a daily basis, such as a crowded urban area, you’ll begin to fine tune your gaydar and make it easier to pick out gay/bi guys in a crowd or recognize those subtle signals of interest.
Don’t make yourself a target for older predators. I talking about body language, attitude, etc... Some of the things you described border on sexual assault. If that stuff happens again you may want to notify police or a trusted adult.
BTW, you’re pretty good looking for your age. I’m sure a lot of other guys your age in your area think that too.
