Why hasnt he called?

[Danugh]

I gave this guy my number 2 days ago and he hasnt called me. Funny thing is before i gave him my new number we used to talk all the time and hook up and stuff. But i havent heard from him since i gave him the number. We never had a disagreement or anything. When i called him he didnt pick up. It rang once and went to voicemail which means he rejected the call.

He asked me for the number. So its odd that he would stop talking to me.

I was watching Ugly Betty last thurday and after Alexis gave the guy her number he revealed that it was just a bet. So i am here wondering if the guy just wanted to get all my contact numbers as a bet.

Why do guys ask for numbers but don't call whats the point of number collecting?

And then some people call using private numbers how rude?

Anyways i am not stressing it, i just would like to know why. He could be man enough to tell me he doesnt want to talk to me, but to just cut me off cold turkey like that without any explanation right after i gave him my number?

Lucy you got some splaining to do...

 

[rareboy]

You should make people pay a deposit to get your number.

 

[Danugh]

I know right, some incentive in cases like this.

And you know its not just this guy, whats the point of getting a number and not calling?

 

[GrayFox]

Why are you giving out your number when you have a husband?

 

[luminum]

Newboy, you're confusing me. How many guys are going out with right now? Shouldn't you be focused on the one with the brother you'd rather dump him for? Or the one with the fake eye?

Maybe he knows you're currently involved. Or maybe he's just not into you. Or maybe he feels weird about persuing youw hile you're associated with at least 2 others?

 

[Danugh]

Newboy, you're confusing me. How many guys are going out with right now? Shouldn't you be focused on the one with the brother you'd rather dump him for? Or the one with the fake eye?

Maybe he knows you're currently involved. Or maybe he's just not into you. Or maybe he feels weird about persuing youw hile you're associated with at least 2 others?

First of all key word was hypothetical. Secondly there are no two others but even if there were and "Or maybe he feels weird about persuing youw hile you're associated with at least 2 others?" then if he feels wierd why would he ask for my number?

And in future how about we focus on the threads at hand and dealing with that problem.

 

[luminum]

What I'm focusing on is that in all probability, either he's not into you or maybe he knows that you're involved or considering being involved. If the situation with the two brothers is hypothetical, there's still the guy with one eye that you've been involved with.

If you've been talking for a long time with this guy, then it means that he probably knows some things about you, like who you're with and who you're interested in. If he didn't hear it from you, because maybe you don't tell other guys that you're involved with other guys at the same time, then maybe he found out from a friend, or a friend of a friend.

Or maybe he knows that you're not so quick to enter into a relationship or stay in one, so he's bidding his time and mulling it over whether its worth the trouble or heartache to be involved with you in any way beyond being a friend.

So maybe it's not him. Maybe it's what he knows about you.

 

[Danugh]

So maybe it's not him. Maybe it's what he knows about you.

I hear what you are saying but you still havent addressed the fact that even if "he knows something about you" why then does/would he ask me for the my number after the fact, even knowing what he knows, whatever that is.

What is the point of that?

maybe they simply ask for your phone number in order they avoid giving you theirs

No because i have his number, you not understanding the post. It was mutual. Everything was going well until he got my new number, which he asked for. Thats why i was a bit puzzled.

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In any event i just checked my mail and he messaged me saying , that he has been trying to call me for 2 days, what a liar.

What the hell? I would have rather he not send me a message at all and have me on JUB with you guys trying to figure him out. Liars turn me off and it is not necessary AT ALL. Just be real with me. My world wasnt going to fall apart if he wanted out. I mean it was new so it wasnt that serious. Should have been upfront.

I have caller ID and in any event, he has ALWAYS left a message if he got my voicemail, and i was checking my messages like a love sick school girl for the last 2 days hoping to hear from him and nothing.

We met online so then he says what am i even doing on the site, given he thought we were in a relationship kinda. Then he tries to turn it around on me and says that if i dont want to talk to him anymore then i should just tell him and he will leave me alone? Have you ever?

I am glad this happened though because even though i liked him, i couldnt trust him because, he used to model and everytime we would go out guys were always trying to talk to him. It wasn't about jealousy, because i was not, it's just something about him i couldnt trust.

I really don't care because i got over him, and he is freak and couldnt trust him because if he does the things we do together with other people there is no way i can take him back.

Soooo, should i respond to him or just say nothing and make him continue to think he got played if i am foolish enough to believe that he was actually trying to call me when he wasnt.


He had my two numbers both have caller ID. You know what, he shouldnt have lied, thats where he messed up. So i am just going to leave it and him alone.

 

[luminum]

Well, immediate problem solved, apparently...

I've called people plenty of times and left messages and talked to them later only to find that my messages hadn't gone through or haven't even reached them. A friend of mine waited for me toc all her so she would come to this party and I had called her every 10 minutes for an hour and she never got the calls or messages.

I agree with ruffboi that I don't think you really had much invested in him if you're dropping him because he didn't contact you for two days and then emssaged you in an attempt to contact you. Especially if you're telling us that you didn't trust him because he looked good and was getting attention from other guys.

Whatever makes you happy, though.

As for the question you seem to keep asking me:

Maybe he asked for your number in the moment and then really had to consider the choices he made. Maybe he didn't really want your number as much as he thought. Maybe he did want your number but then wasn't sure if he wanted to enter into a relationship with you. Maybe he asked for your number and then thought: was this such a good idea considering that he may be involved with someone else? Maybe he asked for your number with the full intention to call but got caught up with his life. Maybe he actually was calling you all this time and the service providers fucked up. Or maybe he asked for your number and then saw a hotter guy and had a dilemma about whether or not he wanted you or him. Tons of possibilities.