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are only interested in hooking up and don't care about dating?

i wonder because the last couple of guys i've gone out with are not interested at all in dating. all they wanted was to mess around.

don't get me wrong, i'm not a prude and have enjoyed my fair share of hookups but i wonder why no one wants to get to know someone beyond dropping trou and pipe laying.

thoughts? opinions?
 
maybe you're searching in the wrong place?
 
I'm all about the dating. I just usually don't wanna take it past that. Because I'm a bitter old hag. :D

Oh, and also because no one wants to watch NASCAR with me on Sunday mornings. :cry:
 
I've always been the opposite. I'd long for substance and relationships through promiscuous phases.
 
I think you just need to make your intentions clear from the get-go Dan. There are just as many guys who whore around as there are who want serious relationships. The ones who are looking for action make themselves more visible, so there's more crap to sift through before finding quality. As has been said, I think most of us go through phases when we're single.
 
Molotov Spark said:
every time i meet a guy that i want to go out with and potentialy have a relationship with, they are usually just in it to hook-up for sex and nothing more.
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Try taking another perspective. Don't consider any guy you meet a potential long term partner. Enjoy meeting someone new, and if feelings develop, go with it. You can't plan long term relationships.
 
Under-taken said:
I've noticed this, I think its just more the norm to settle down in the 30s
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I kind of see myself as rolling free until around this time, too... might as well enjoy this youth while I can. Safely. Hurting as few people as possible - none would be nice.

Hm maybe we'll make it forties.



OK I just don't like dating. (!)
Maybe that'll change, maybe it won't. I don't think it's inherently a gay thing, though. I can think of more straight "desperados" I know than gay ones. I might buy an argument that it's common amongst males regardless of sexuality, but then again I'm no sociologist.
 
GL said:
are only interested in hooking up and don't care about dating?

i wonder because the last couple of guys i've gone out with are not interested at all in dating. all they wanted was to mess around.

don't get me wrong, i'm not a prude and have enjoyed my fair share of hookups but i wonder why no one wants to get to know someone beyond dropping trou and pipe laying.

thoughts? opinions?
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why is it we gay folk...

ya answer ya own question

what ( gay ) got do it? any male can wear da label not gonna stops males be da borins pathetics wet comic straight sadistic wanky putrid suburbia snot ans lot da
dicktionsarys polite words

yawn

why no go meet GAY folk ans leave ya skirt at home;)
 
I am more interested in someone when I take time to get to know them....

to be honest, ive had alot of sex in my life and it takes a little more than the promise of a blowjob and some ass to get me excited enough to put on the nice shoes and go to the north end.

I need a real personality and a real conection now, cause honestly, I do better at pleasing myself than most strangers do. I hate having to train people I don't like....lol
 
I thought it was the complete opposite from everything i read and hear.
 
because dating is like boys meets girls fantasy !!!
Its high school stuff.
 
It's interesting... here are all these guys on this website, and none of us go out for hookups, or are more interested in dating than in hooking up (or at least aren't willing to admit they only want a hookup).

So, where are all the hookup guys hanging out? Besides Craigslist?

I can understand why people are more interested in hooking up than in relationships: dating is very time-consuming and forces you out of yourself and your routines. Who has time for that? Just get your rocks off and away to the next event. It's efficient.

But if all you're doing with the time you saved is trolling for the next hookup, you're not really saving time. Anyway, it's cheaper than paying a whore, I guess.
 
hmmm

let me say this swellegant

I have a really good friend in his mid twenties... does the whole manhunt grindr thing...

he is not a happy man. I don't know if hes unhappy because of he's looking for companionship from an anonymous cock or vice versa, but in the end it doesn't matter.

I think hes looking for happiness and he's getting Blowjobs

now... blowjobs rank high on my list of fun ways to pass time, but... it does not make me happy in a substantial way that really matters

I think some of us learn at different paces and rates, we have different needs at different points in life, and we have different ideas of what happiness is.
 
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