Why is there such a backlash against the term "straight acting"?

[altlover85]

Afterall, if you are a man looking for sex with another man, you don't want to feel gay when you do it.

I love this.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Shoe on the other foot time - what I take offence to is that some of the members here don't think you're gay enough (or that you're insecure/have issues/self-hating/whatever) if you aren't belting it from the rooftops.

For those of you who are effeminate or gay-acting or whatever term you'd like to use to describe yourself, well done. But it's hardly medal-worthy.

In short, for those who will miss the point I've made, neither grouping is better than the other.

-d-

 

[Knucklehead]

Hmmm....you are a huge fan of the "Golden Girls"...

Yeah, so what? I like the girls too,and I'm far from a screaming queen...

 

[Knucklehead]

I recently saw this on LOGO..Check it out if you get the chance..

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77OOvq3vb0Y[/ame]

Hell,I found it..You can watch it here.Just click the link..

http://www.logotv.com/video/the-butc...playlist.jhtml

 

[figjam]

I thought you made a thread about this a while back.

And I've never heard anyone use the term acting white, black or gay.

Agree. Made-up (false) topic indeed.

 

[Knucklehead]

Double post..

 

[BrianPGH]

probably the word "acting,"

ie pretending something you're not, but secretly wish you were.

just use masculine - some might still take offense, but you make the same point

ie, I'm not a queen

I think you're right, that the choice of the word "acting" is the hang-up for many gay men. "Acting" connotes putting on a performance, and pretending to be something you're not.

Personally, I'm not offended by the phrase, and I understand the majority of men who use it don't mean it literally, nor do they mean it to be offensive. But describing oneself as "masculine" is probably the best, and certainly least potentially inflammatory, way of getting the point across.