Why straight men are so denial of getting a blowjob from another guy?

[akivapomerantzz]

I’m just wondering why some men are so denial about they’re young self first experience with their friend or cousins, I mean by that, the first mutual masturbation or oral sex and even the dry humping?

I know the typical answer is “it’s not something you talk to most people” or “you can’t accept the idea of most people finding about the truth and using it against you and being called GAY or FAG”

I’m just so concern about it because of the growing number of straight men who force themselves marrying women and have kids when they have a younger phase of their life when they’ve done it once or couple of few times that leads them to divorcing their wives and suddenly outing themselves and embrace the gay out loud life?

I think it’s should be considered as a mental disease knowing that you would go through a straight phase life and fake it and just one morning you realized you are totally gay.

 

[USEDCAR]

Who is going to go around and tell people, "Hey, I exchanged blow jobs with my cousin as a teenager? That is something between you and your cousin.

Most guys are in denial about being gay and still think that if they get married, date a woman, and have kids, their gay feelings will go away, or they can keep pushing it down. The feelings get stronger, and they start hooking up with: men on the down low. You have family and religion that keep them in the closet. I have said it many times: I truly feel bad for the women and children involved when the guy is out and about hooking up with men.

I hooked up with a lot of straight, curious guys, and I asked them about it, and they always said, Oh, its something I've been curious about, or they wanted to try blow jobs and have anal sex. They either keep going or slowly come out of the closet, or it was a one off curiosity, and they move on with life.

 

[MusicMan321]

Who is going to go around and tell people, "Hey, I exchanged blow jobs with my cousin as a teenager? That is something between you and your cousin.

Most guys are in denial about being gay and still think that if they get married, date a woman, and have kids, their gay feelings will go away, or they can keep pushing it down. The feelings get stronger, and they start hooking up with: men on the down low. You have family and religion that keep them in the closet. I have said it many times: I truly feel bad for the women and children involved when the guy is out and about hooking up with men.

I hooked up with a lot of straight, curious guys, and I asked them about it, and they always said, Oh, its something I've been curious about, or they wanted to try blow jobs and have anal sex. They either keep going or slowly come out of the closet, or it was a one off curiosity, and they move on with life.

Ya from what you said at the beginning of your message not every guy is gonna tell people unless it's someone they know on the DL

 

[BiBtm64]

Lots of guys try out different things when they're young, and it's easy with other young guys - when we were young we're all full of raging hormones, we're discovering these new pleasures, we get hard-ons easily, and let's face it, we're curious about what other dicks look like, and feel like. Having experiences with other young guys is, I think for many guys, more about curiosity and discovery than it is about being gay. Many of those guys move on to be totally straight and put their same-sex experiences behind them. Others may go on to be bisexual or to suppress their gayness, as you suggest.

For some guys who, as you say, lead a straight life and then swing the other way later in life - having done it before, it's easy to go back. They're probably identifying as straight, they're perfectly happy to marry a woman, not forcing themselves as you suggest. Then they get bored with the relationship, the sex with the same person, and many women lose libido later in life and their men find themselves in a sexless relationship or the sex is given grudgingly.

Then the curiosity seeps back, sex with men is easy, uncomplicated, and, let's face it - passionate and wild. It's exciting, and it's easy because they've done it before, long ago. I know, because I've been with many married men who simply need that bond, contact, passion, and sexual release that they can't get from a woman. If I can help a guy to feel good, I'm happy.

I don't think it's a mental illness. It's simply a life journey of discovery for many guys to have their experiences and to ultimately accept what is best for them. We should not judge those who are learning about their desires or who have accepted what they are.

 

[aethelreddansforth]

a person cannot be straight and still enjoy sex with men. yes, sexuality is fluid. but i feel this masking of shit needs to stop. and labels aren't inherently bad either.

 

[BiBtm64]

I think a guy can enjoy getting his dick sucked by another guy and not be gay or bi, as in not be sexually attracted to men, especially the situations that happen in formative years as the OP points out.

There's a weird obsession of some gay guys trying to label straight guys as gay or bi simply because they've tried something out. I don't understand it.

 

[aethelreddansforth]

I know from the other thread that you cannot handle an opinion, even if it's not denigrating directly towards you. Though IMHO, I'd say that there is generally a base attraction to men if one desires a BJ from another man. some might deem that "restrictive", but I don't think like a fake and hypocritical "liberal" Californian. Sure, individuality is fine but it's not everything. if Californians hate that sentiment, i don't care really. it's my honest opinion that a lot of this "fucked a guy and but I'm not gay or bi" thing is cope. yes, sexuality is fluid, but if going by basic definitions of straight, gay, bi, etc. then a person cannot be straight if they get turned on by a man.
a non-californian would think "i don't completely agree, but you do you".

 

[BiBtm64]

You don't know me at all from another thread, and I didn't read beyond your opening statement because an opening like that simply indicates that you make no sense at all and attack anyone who has an alternative opinion. All the best.

 

[seven2go]

^^ and ^ I strongly suggest you put each other on ignore aethelreddansforth and BiBtm64
If nothing else it'll save me time.

 

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[nadawon90]

Here's my opinion, for what it's worth. I only meet up with straight guys, and I've doing this for the past 9 years. At the moment I have 8 straight guys who are regulars and who give me "referrals" to other straight guys. I only give head and get fucked. I don't kiss, I don't cuddle, I don't do foreplay, I don't want the guys touching my dick or doing any of that. I don't chase after the straight guys wanting more. I don't call them, I don't text them. I basically let them get in touch with me when they want to meet up. I'm also bi, with a girlfriend who has no idea, and I'm very straight acting. I've found that straight don't mind doing stuff with another guy if the guy doesn't chase after them and is more straight acting than feminine. But that's just been my experience.

 

[BiBtm64]

Here's my opinion, for what it's worth. I only meet up with straight guys, and I've doing this for the past 9 years. At the moment I have 8 straight guys who are regulars and who give me "referrals" to other straight guys. I only give head and get fucked. I don't kiss, I don't cuddle, I don't do foreplay, I don't want the guys touching my dick or doing any of that. I don't chase after the straight guys wanting more. I don't call them, I don't text them. I basically let them get in touch with me when they want to meet up. I'm also bi, with a girlfriend who has no idea, and I'm very straight acting. I've found that straight don't mind doing stuff with another guy if the guy doesn't chase after them and is more straight acting than feminine. But that's just been my experience.

That's a good way to be - you're available to serve their needs, when they need to cum, and you get what you want out of it as well.

I've had many straight guys as regulars and I've had similar experiences. I can relate. I'm a hole and a mouth to get off in, that's it. They're not interested in my dick, or my body, or kissing, or feelings. Regulars came to know and trust me to keep their secrets, and to be available to simply make them cum in whichever hole suited them. It's a perfect symbiosis. If they're not getting it from their partner, or she's not giving up her ass and they want anal, or they know where they can get better head. They know a guy who enjoys sucking dick will give a great experience and will always swallow gratefully. They can pound my ass without having to beg, plead or negotiate. Then they can leave and go back to their partner satisfied as if nothing happened. It's perfect.

I'm surprised about the "referrals" though. No straight guy I've ever known would admit to another straight guy that he has fucked a guy or had his dick sucked by a guy. Do they refer friends? Or contacts on hookup apps?

 

[nadawon90]

That's a good way to be - you're available to serve their needs, when they need to cum, and you get what you want out of it as well.

I've had many straight guys as regulars and I've had similar experiences. I can relate. I'm a hole and a mouth to get off in, that's it. They're not interested in my dick, or my body, or kissing, or feelings. Regulars came to know and trust me to keep their secrets, and to be available to simply make them cum in whichever hole suited them. It's a perfect symbiosis. If they're not getting it from their partner, or she's not giving up her ass and they want anal, or they know where they can get better head. They know a guy who enjoys sucking dick will give a great experience and will always swallow gratefully. They can pound my ass without having to beg, plead or negotiate. Then they can leave and go back to their partner satisfied as if nothing happened. It's perfect.

I'm surprised about the "referrals" though. No straight guy I've ever known would admit to another straight guy that he has fucked a guy or had his dick sucked by a guy. Do they refer friends? Or contacts on hookup apps?

It's been friends who they've known for a while. And I've never had a referral say "John said he fucked you..." It's always been for head. Also, I usually will tell the regular if he knows anyone who might be interested to have them text me. If it happens, the regular always asks me in advance if I'm ok with him telling a friend. Over the 9 years I've been at this, it's happened probably 15-16 times. And again, I think it's because the regular trusts me and they know I'm not going to say anything to anyone. And I'm sure they tell their friend the same thing. I do think it takes a special type of friend to tell them though...someone they've known for quite a while and have been close with.

 

[BiBtm64]

It's been friends who they've known for a while. And I've never had a referral say "John said he fucked you..." It's always been for head. Also, I usually will tell the regular if he knows anyone who might be interested to have them text me. If it happens, the regular always asks me in advance if I'm ok with him telling a friend. Over the 9 years I've been at this, it's happened probably 15-16 times. And again, I think it's because the regular trusts me and they know I'm not going to say anything to anyone. And I'm sure they tell their friend the same thing. I do think it takes a special type of friend to tell them though...someone they've known for quite a while and have been close with.

That's fantastic. What a great network! I wonder if many men consider it not as gay to receive a blowjob as it would be to fuck. Like a blowjob is just a convenient way to get off, but to fuck a guy, they feel like they might be crossing a line, so they're afraid to admit it. In my experience, straight guys are more than happy to fuck me, when they get to trust me to keep their secrets, but it's not something they'd go around telling everyone. I can understand what you're saying now - friends who have known each other a long time may be comfortable saying "Dave sucks a good dick, you should give him a try".

A steady supply of straight dick for your mouth and ass, no questions asked, no commitment - good for you! I'm jealous!

 

[nadawon90]

What you're saying is exactly right. One of my regulars, who does fuck me, always watches straight porn on his phone hahahaha. He's also a security guard who sometimes comes by while he's on duty. He told me once, "I've always had a fantasy of fucking while I was on duty." I asked him why he didn't fuck girls/women on duty and he said "because you were already sucking my cock so I figured you'd let me fuck you, and besides, it's easier to get a gay or bi guy to do shit than it is a girl. Girl's are too much work!" I thought that was a pretty good way to look at it.

 

[BiBtm64]

What you're saying is exactly right. One of my regulars, who does fuck me, always watches straight porn on his phone hahahaha. He's also a security guard who sometimes comes by while he's on duty. He told me once, "I've always had a fantasy of fucking while I was on duty." I asked him why he didn't fuck girls/women on duty and he said "because you were already sucking my cock so I figured you'd let me fuck you, and besides, it's easier to get a gay or bi guy to do shit than it is a girl. Girl's are too much work!" I thought that was a pretty good way to look at it.

Ah yes the convenience factor of man-ass! If women put out and had no strings casual sex like we do, I bet we wouldn't get anywhere near the dick we get. We don't need flowers or to be taken out to dinner, or cute text messages. We don't need to be cuddled afterward. We just want dick, no strings, no obligations, no relationship. Just use my ass, have fun and leave. It's a win win.

 

[nadawon90]

So, so true!!

 

[BlondMichael]

Guilt. They dont want to accept that guys do it so much better!

 

[Doright]

I think they are unable to accept a man can pleasure you more than a women can, I believe a man knows what feels good and will continue to give hiws partner the best pleasure and satifaction.

 

[BiBtm64]

I think they are unable to accept a man can pleasure you more than a women can, I believe a man knows what feels good and will continue to give hiws partner the best pleasure and satifaction.

A man does know, and I've had a few straight guys as regular suck buddies. Once they find out that they can get a fantastic blowjob, no strings, no begging and pleading, I always swallow and I keep their secrets - they keep coming back for more.