Why will some Bimen fuck and suck but not kiss?

[bigwhiskers65]

I've met guys like this and also watched some porn where the guy will classify himself as Bi and do gay for pay video where he will suck and get sucked ,fuck and get fucked but will not kiss.
What's with that ? I mean if he's willing to get plowed and suck a dick ,why not kiss?
Is it just a problem with intimacy or something emotional ? Like some guys say I can't get intimate with a guy that way , ok but then taking a dick in your ass isn't personal and intimate? Can't get much closer than inside someone ?

 

[Telstra]

maybe mouth is the dirtiest organ around.

It can eat any smelly stuff.

 

[gingentleman]

I have often wondered about this, myself. I suppose they equate kissing with romantic love and are somehow caught-up in the mistaken notion that kissing is an activity they should only do with women.

 

[AsianDream]

Actually there are quite a few gay guys that won’t kiss either.

Face to face kissing is very intimate and personal – you just can’t help knowing someone else isn’t just an object doing this.

I’d no longer consider having sex with someone I wouldn’t want to kiss – or who wouldn’t kiss me.

But I guess for many guys – not kissing or showing any physical affection is what they like and helps them keep emotionally detached.

Whether this is a healthy form of sexuality is – I guess – a personal view – but I know some guys (both gay and BI) who prefer no suggestion of intimacy during sex.

For me they are missing the whole point – if you don’t really want intimate contact with other people – why not just masturbate instead?

 

[Rex]

I've met guys like this and also watched some porn where the guy will classify himself as Bi and do gay for pay video where he will suck and get sucked ,fuck and get fucked but will not kiss.
What's with that ? I mean if he's willing to get plowed and suck a dick ,why not kiss?
Is it just a problem with intimacy or something emotional ? Like some guys say I can't get intimate with a guy that way , ok but then taking a dick in your ass isn't personal and intimate? Can't get much closer than inside someone ?

Yes kissing is more intimate than fucking or sucking, so yeah I think you already knew the answer to your question.

For me they are missing the whole point – if you don’t really want intimate contact with other people – why not just masturbate instead?

Cus someone's throat feels better than your hand.

 

[bigwhiskers65]

Yes kissing is more intimate than fucking or sucking, so yeah I think you already knew the answer to your question.

Simply saying yes it is - anyone can say that . What I wanted to find out was why ?
If you can take a cock in your ass and have a man all over you then why such a hangup over kissing. Unless you have some physical aversion to it . Is it just some macho romantic insecurity rule that you just dont wanna do it because it means something more than what it actually is , like how many biguys have kissed women and actually cared about them. I just dont buy it. But thats me.

 

[bigwhiskers65]

Actually there are quite a few gay guys that won’t kiss either.

Face to face kissing is very intimate and personal – you just can’t help knowing someone else isn’t just an object doing this.

I’d no longer consider having sex with someone I wouldn’t want to kiss – or who wouldn’t kiss me.

But I guess for many guys – not kissing or showing any physical affection is what they like and helps them keep emotionally detached.

Whether this is a healthy form of sexuality is – I guess – a personal view – but I know some guys (both gay and BI) who prefer no suggestion of intimacy during sex.

For me they are missing the whole point – if you don’t really want intimate contact with other people – why not just masturbate instead?

This is directed to bi-guys not gay guys. I do agree on some of your points except the fact that kissing means the guy isnt just another playpal. How many porns and dirty bookstores do you see total strangers making out with even thinking about it . Only those I think who read more into it and make it personal rather than sexual.

 

[LGNTexas]

Because kissing another guy "is SO gay!" perhaps and if you don't do it, then you are really straight.

 

[Eagle653]

Because kissing another guy "is SO gay!" perhaps and if you don't do it, then you are really straight.

I think this is what's behind most of it.

 

[easyroad]

I've met guys like this and also watched some porn where the guy will classify himself as Bi and do gay for pay video where he will suck and get sucked ,fuck and get fucked but will not kiss.
What's with that ? I mean if he's willing to get plowed and suck a dick ,why not kiss?
Is it just a problem with intimacy or something emotional ? Like some guys say I can't get intimate with a guy that way , ok but then taking a dick in your ass isn't personal and intimate? Can't get much closer than inside someone ?

Yeah, there are even some people in this forum who are like that. I just hope that I never meet those types in real life.

 

[Scottyboi]

dude i met awhile back said he wouldnt kiss people cuz he didnt wanna get cold sores

tbh I never thought about it til then and after thinking on it i kinda dont blame him

 

[bigwhiskers65]

Because kissing another guy "is SO gay!" perhaps and if you don't do it, then you are really straight.

Except this was directed at Bi-Men , not the insecure men who can't accept the fact and are going through the sexual identity crisis.

 

[iwantbig]

I've met guys like this and also watched some porn where the guy will classify himself as Bi and do gay for pay video where he will suck and get sucked ,fuck and get fucked but will not kiss.
What's with that ? I mean if he's willing to get plowed and suck a dick ,why not kiss?
Is it just a problem with intimacy or something emotional ? Like some guys say I can't get intimate with a guy that way , ok but then taking a dick in your ass isn't personal and intimate? Can't get much closer than inside someone ?

just noticed hoe you say " willing to to get plowed and suck a dick "
its not a matter of " willing " , its what i want ! , i want a cock in my ass hole and i want a cock to suck on and play with and choke myself with , i want my ass hole punished ! but i don't want a mans face in my face ! its just how i am

 

[iwantbig]

Yeah, there are even some people in this forum who are like that. I just hope that I never meet those types in real life.

so are you saying you wouldn't want me to suck your cock because i don't want to kiss you ? i can understand that some people need that contact to make something real , fair enough , we are all different

 

[tipmyscales86]

Because kissing another guy "is SO gay!" perhaps and if you don't do it, then you are really straight.

I think it's really as simple as that. I was with a guy that loooooved to take it up the ass from me, fuck me, and we would suck eachother's dicks for hours, but he got weirded out when we kissed. I asked him why later, and he said "because when I kissed you, it scared me that I might be gay."

 

[Rex]

The problem here isn't with bi men. It's your issue.

If you can't respect someone's boundries in sex and become frustrated when they don't want to do what YOU want them to then find someone else for a fuck buddy and problem solved. Everyone has different boundries with what they're comfortable with and if you don't want to deal with it then you don't have to.

To some people, kissing isn't something you do with a random hookup.

 

[tonyboy]

When I was first with guys... well I'd suck dick, and finger a guys hole at the same time.. but I hated kissing.. not cause I figured I was straight.. I just did not like kissing.. Could be cause I figured I was not good at it..
I later learned how to do it properly.. and found that I did like it...
Just not at first though.
Beats me how a guy can fuck and suck dick but not want to kiss... I mean figuring that kissing a guy may make them gay? haha.. well some guys just may not like the act of kissing.. that was how it was for me at first.. and that lasted a couple of years.... but once I got the hang of it.. well, it's one of the best parts of being with a guy.

 

[bigwhiskers65]

The problem here isn't with bi men. It's your issue.

If you can't respect someone's boundries in sex and become frustrated when they don't want to do what YOU want them to then find someone else for a fuck buddy and problem solved. Everyone has different boundries with what they're comfortable with and if you don't want to deal with it then you don't have to.

To some people, kissing isn't something you do with a random hookup.

You don't need to get so defensive and off topic . Where did I say that I was with someone and frustrated they didn't do what I wanted them to do? I didn't ,as I would not get with or pursue someone in that situation anyway. I asked for opinion and made an observation on it.

 

[bigwhiskers65]

When I was first with guys... well I'd suck dick, and finger a guys hole at the same time.. but I hated kissing.. not cause I figured I was straight.. I just did not like kissing.. Could be cause I figured I was not good at it..
I later learned how to do it properly.. and found that I did like it...
Just not at first though.
Beats me how a guy can fuck and suck dick but not want to kiss... I mean figuring that kissing a guy may make them gay? haha.. well some guys just may not like the act of kissing.. that was how it was for me at first.. and that lasted a couple of years.... but once I got the hang of it.. well, it's one of the best parts of being with a guy.

Thanks for the candid response Tonyboy - I'm not trying to down guys who don't i just wanted to know what some guys think of it and why they dont do it compared to other things they will do in bed.

 

[MisterMajestic]

Some Bi-Dudes will Suck, Fuck & Eat-ass but not Kiss...

You place guys like that under the category "Oral Active Pigs"...Even if no kissing is involved they're still working-their Tongue & Lips between your legs & Buttcheeks...


Let's be real..Guys like that cum in "Handy" when you just want to lay back, throw your Legs up, Get serviced to completion then do the "man-Hug" and Leave....If you wanna be a "Slut" we'll treat you like one..."Sluts" will always be kept on "speed dial"....