Why will some Bimen fuck and suck but not kiss?

[quasar]

Many gay men don't bother to try and understand bisexuality - which is why the subject is always a 'hot potato' here. Bisexuality, like heterosexuality and homosexuality, isn't as cut and dry as it seems

• Bisexual man A - Has a physical and emotional attraction to both sexes.
• Bisexual man B - Has a physical attraction to both sexes, but needs an emotional attraction to women.
• Bisexual man C - Has an emotional attraction to both sexes, but only a physical attraction to women
• Bisexual man D - Has a physical attraction to both sexes, but only an emotional attraction to men.
• Bisexual man E - Has an emotional attraction to both sexes, but only a physical attraction to men.

It may well be that he's Bisexual Man B who enjoys the physical aspect of sex with a guy, but just doesn't want or feel an emotional bond. For these bisexual men a kiss is too much of a 'love' thing, it's too intimate - more than having a dick up their ass - it's about emotions, rather than a 'let's have sex and then go for a beer' thing.

IMHO.

 

[SteveyBoyLA]

Kissing = intimacy/romance. Suck/fuck = sex. I think of prison: straight or bi men want only sex (can only get it from men). But they don't want or need male kissing i.e., intimacy or romance. (Kissing: that's a girl thing!)

 

[Rex]

You don't need to get so defensive and off topic . Where did I say that I was with someone and frustrated they didn't do what I wanted them to do? I didn't ,as I would not get with or pursue someone in that situation anyway. I asked for opinion and made an observation on it.

I wasn't off topic and I wasn't directing that post at just you. Just sounds to me like another countless thread made by a gay guys who have issues with bi guys.

 

[bigwhiskers65]

I wasn't off topic and I wasn't directing that post at just you. Just sounds to me like another countless thread made by a gay guys who have issues with bi guys.

I don't have issues with Bi-Guys. Your getting way off base now.
Nevermind - plenty of other guys have offered more insight without getting all combative about it.

 

[HunterM]

Maybe men who don't kiss do not find the other men's faces attractive enough.

 

[Rex]

I don't have issues with Bi-Guys. Your getting way off base now.
Nevermind - plenty of other guys have offered more insight without getting all combative about it.

I wasn't off topic and I wasn't directing that post at just you. Just sounds to me like another countless thread made by a gay guys who have issues with bi guys.

Obviously you do have an issue or you wouldn't have made the thread. It's the same old story we've heard over and over again here:

Gay guy is dating/having sex with bi guy. Gay guy is frustrated because bi guy is bi. Relationship/sex ends.

Nevermind - plenty of other guys have offered more insight without getting all combative about it.

Hmmm... first you said you wanted more of an answer...

Simply saying yes it is - anyone can say that . What I wanted to find out was why ?

and when I gave you one it wasn't the answer you wanted to hear so you end up bitching about it.

... no offense you're starting to sound like an idiot.

 

[tipmyscales86]

I wasn't off topic and I wasn't directing that post at just you. Just sounds to me like another countless thread made by a gay guys who have issues with bi guys.

I don't know if you were including me in that, but just to clarify my post, I don't have any issues with bi guys. At least not the ones that acknowledge they're bi. I was responding to a post talking in theory about the types of guys who will do all kinds of sexual things with other guys, and then try to claim they're straight. The guy I was talking about in my post did just about everything sexual with me for five years except kissing, yet he continues to this day to claim he's straight. Which is pretty annoying, if he just acknowledged he was bi I'd be cool with that.

 

[iwantbig]

just jumping back in because i can see this is still going ,
i'm only in it for sex , i don't want emotional involvement , i don't want a relationship as such , just cock really ( sorry i'm a dirty slut and i only want you for your cock ), i'll do my best to keep you interested and make your cock hard , i'll poke my tongue in your ass hole if that helps and if you feel the need to kiss me i'll do my best not to show that i don't want it so you don't get the shits

 

[evanrick]

i believe for some men sex is more or less about physical needs and less about emotional ones. for other guys, intimacy requires kissing, as there is an emotional need.

but why is this kissing issue only talked about during sex?

i would have no problem kissing a guy or a girl if they were a close friend and they felt the same way.

i think it has more to do with what someone said earlier, that there are only some things you can get from another man, these are learned behaviors just like heterosexuality, so the play an important part in our social fabric.

sex between men is a social necessity, like playing sports and shouldn't be confused with being exclusive this or that.

 

[easyroad]

Obviously you do have an issue or you wouldn't have made the thread. It's the same old story we've heard over and over again here:

Gay guy is dating/having sex with bi guy. Gay guy is frustrated because bi guy is bi. Relationship/sex ends.

Hmmm... first you said you wanted more of an answer...



and when I gave you one it wasn't the answer you wanted to hear so you end up bitching about it.

... no offense you're starting to sound like an idiot.

Sorry Sultan, but LyleRobi is right, you should calm down. Not every thread asking a question about behavior has a history behind it. Especially not a history that YOU came up with while having no evidence to support it. He didn't say anything of the sort and you alone jumped to the conclusion.

And besides, I honestly don't see this thread as being only about bi men. It says bi men on the title, but the main theme is people who "fuck and suck but not kiss". There are plenty of gay men with that macho atittude, as well as "straight" men who think that getting a BJ and fucking a guy in the ass will still make him a "man". And I wouldn't want anything with those types either. So please just drop it.

 

[Rex]

Sorry Sultan, but LyleRobi is right, you should calm down. Not every thread asking a question about behavior has a history behind it. Especially not a history that YOU came up with while having no evidence to support it. He didn't say anything of the sort and you alone jumped to the conclusion.

And besides, I honestly don't see this thread as being only about bi men. It says bi men on the title, but the main theme is people who "fuck and suck but not kiss". There are plenty of gay men with that macho atittude, as well as "straight" men who think that getting a BJ and fucking a guy in the ass will still make him a "man". And I wouldn't want anything with those types either. So please just drop it.

The OP made it clear this thread is directed to bi men in general but yeah, this isn't something that only bi guys do as others already pointed out. As for having evidence to support all the negativity bi guys get on this board, I really don't feel like looking up the threads but there have been dozens of them that went over 6 pages long and they tend to get annoying after a while.

 

[writerman45]

I once went with a bi curoius guy (well, put it this way: I wanted him and he knew I wanted him and one day I invited him home and he came back with me so I'm guessing there might have been some bi curiosity on his part as he had a girlfiend.) who was an incredibly good and tender kisser but then didn't want to do anything sexual. So there was nothing to be done but cuddle up and go to sleep. I guess it takes all kinds to make the world go round!

 

[easyroad]

The OP made it clear this thread is directed to bi men in general but yeah, this isn't something that only bi guys do as others already pointed out. As for having evidence to support all the negativity bi guys get on this board, I really don't feel like looking up the threads but there have been dozens of them that went over 6 pages long and they tend to get annoying after a while.

Oh no, that's not what I was referring to. I meant evidence that LyleRobi made this thread out of a grudge with bisexual men. He was just asking a question, didn't bad mouth anyone and it's unwise to assume the worst of people for no reason.

just jumping back in because i can see this is still going ,
i'm only in it for sex , i don't want emotional involvement , i don't want a relationship as such , just cock really ( sorry i'm a dirty slut and i only want you for your cock ), i'll do my best to keep you interested and make your cock hard , i'll poke my tongue in your ass hole if that helps and if you feel the need to kiss me i'll do my best not to show that i don't want it so you don't get the shits

And there's nothing wrong with that! I just don't want that for myself. Don't want to be seen as just a dick, thank you very much.

 

[Rex]

Oh no, that's not what I was referring to. I meant evidence that LyleRobi made this thread out of a grudge with bisexual men. He was just asking a question, didn't bad mouth anyone and it's unwise to assume the worst of people for no reason.

That's why I kept mentioning to him that my comments weren't aimed specifically for him but he kept acting as if they were.

 

[RSilva]

I don't like kissing other men at all, and my reasons were already explained: kissing is like an emotional thing, it's like a sign of love and I really feel unconfortable kissing another.
Sucking, fucking, now that's just raw sex, bring it!

In other words:
Kissing -> Gay thing
Sucking cock, taking it up your ass -> Manly

Yeah, weird as hell, but I really feel it this way