erobert
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As Valentines Day approaches I've been thinking about the reasons why many gay guys are still unhappily single (like me
).
True, some guys love being on the market and but there comes a time when we start to seek some sort of relationship. For many this may be the first real relationship they've had.
1. Expectations are too high in terms of looks.
It's not all about looks, there's also someone's personality too. Give him a chance if even if the don't look like an Abercrombie model for crying out loud.
2. Too independent. Need to give up some of this in-order not to grow into a lonely old man.
3. This is a biggie- you're pining after straight guys and making a fool out of yourself. In the end you're heartbroken and lonely. (I'm still reeling from the aftermath of doing this several time)
4. Being too desperate. Major turn off for almost any guy.
5. Your playing hard to get. Playing hard to get= hard to read. Not fun.
6. Your still in the closet. Everyone has their reasons and it's a personal choice of when to come out but the sooner the better. Take your time but don't take so much time you end up loosing years or decades of your life.
7. You're too shy. (Me) Again guys don't exactly now what to make of shyness if you don't give them some sign of interest or reciprocation. Shyness is endearing for a while then it becomes frustrating and he may move on. Many shy people also may have underdeveloped social skills. Practice them and you won't feel as shy around that great guy.
8. Being selfish. Not holding doors for other people, especially him. Being rude or inconsiderate. Selfishness is a red flag and doesn't bode well for relationships.
9. You don't get out much. Guys aren't going door to door looking for boyfriends, get out there and meet people. Whether or not you're into the "scene" just go some place every day, the more you're around other people the more likely it is you're going to meet someone. We're everywhere.
10. You've given up already. Pessimism get you no where fast. If you're young you need to get some perspective on how quickly your life can unexpectedly change for the better. I've already gotten a taste of this thankfully.
Feel free to add onto the list
). True, some guys love being on the market and but there comes a time when we start to seek some sort of relationship. For many this may be the first real relationship they've had.
1. Expectations are too high in terms of looks.
It's not all about looks, there's also someone's personality too. Give him a chance if even if the don't look like an Abercrombie model for crying out loud.
2. Too independent. Need to give up some of this in-order not to grow into a lonely old man.
3. This is a biggie- you're pining after straight guys and making a fool out of yourself. In the end you're heartbroken and lonely. (I'm still reeling from the aftermath of doing this several time)
4. Being too desperate. Major turn off for almost any guy.
5. Your playing hard to get. Playing hard to get= hard to read. Not fun.
6. Your still in the closet. Everyone has their reasons and it's a personal choice of when to come out but the sooner the better. Take your time but don't take so much time you end up loosing years or decades of your life.
7. You're too shy. (Me) Again guys don't exactly now what to make of shyness if you don't give them some sign of interest or reciprocation. Shyness is endearing for a while then it becomes frustrating and he may move on. Many shy people also may have underdeveloped social skills. Practice them and you won't feel as shy around that great guy.
8. Being selfish. Not holding doors for other people, especially him. Being rude or inconsiderate. Selfishness is a red flag and doesn't bode well for relationships.
9. You don't get out much. Guys aren't going door to door looking for boyfriends, get out there and meet people. Whether or not you're into the "scene" just go some place every day, the more you're around other people the more likely it is you're going to meet someone. We're everywhere.
10. You've given up already. Pessimism get you no where fast. If you're young you need to get some perspective on how quickly your life can unexpectedly change for the better. I've already gotten a taste of this thankfully.
Feel free to add onto the list
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