Why You're Still Single

[Lefty]

JSB...put your city in your profile and you will be amazed how many young or middle twenty people are in your area that you could at least JUB talk with. Trust old Uncle Mikey on this one.




Diamondskin are you looking for the Golden Dildo of the week Award? Or trying to be funny (my fucking job on here) just sarcastic tonight or are you really that down at this timeI

I hope it is just trying to be funny.....love is here man, but as trite as it sounds...You got to give it to get it. Nothing, sorry, nothing..not even love is free.

You buys your ticket and you takes your ride....50 plus years of hearts beating

Hopes soaring, crashing and soaring again, tears of joy and those of sorrow

have taught me that....Live it NOW there is no tomorrow..sorry, preaching is over.

Happy Valentines Day to ALL and may your appropriate entity Bless and Keep you.

 

[Lefty]

Give Ger...I said give...that is what you do not expecting/demanding anything in return

...it doesn't qualify as giving then because it has become you owe me or buying or at least trying to buy.

Come on dude..this hallmark stuff isn't my image, I'm embarrassed at getting caught. They killed my zeitgist/troll so I am outed and exposed man..

 

[Under-taken]

13. Sharing is caring!

 

[Wajdan]

6,7 and 9 for me. Another Valentine Day with my loneliness....

 

[Corny]

1. Expectations are too high in terms of looks.

My longest relationship was with a gay who probably wouldn't have turned my head on the street. At the moment a guy who could get "serious" is also not my kind of "perfect" guy in the looks department. If you are just out looking for looks - you are limiting yourself.

2. Too independent. Need to give up some of this in-order not to grow into a lonely old man.

Doesn't need to stop you .. this can work with some people.

3. This is a biggie- you're pining after straight guys and making a fool out of yourself. In the end you're heartbroken and lonely. (I'm still reeling from the aftermath of doing this several time)

Come on .. we are not 16 any more ..

4. Being too desperate. Major turn off for almost any guy.

Probably when you are doing lists like those? And yes, I agree

5. Your playing hard to get. Playing hard to get= hard to read. Not fun.

Those are usually the guys with the most random hook ups

6. Your still in the closet. Everyone has their reasons and it's a personal choice of when to come out but the sooner the better. Take your time but don't take so much time you end up loosing years or decades of your life.

Wise words

7. You're too shy. (Me) Again guys don't exactly now what to make of shyness if you don't give them some sign of interest or reciprocation. Shyness is endearing for a while then it becomes frustrating and he may move on. Many shy people also may have underdeveloped social skills. Practice them and you won't feel as shy around that great guy.

I think shy people are cute. You actually need to "work" with them a bit. But the important thing is that at some point you need to get comfortable enough to tell what you feel.

8. Being selfish. Not holding doors for other people, especially him. Being rude or inconsiderate. Selfishness is a red flag and doesn't bode well for relationships.

Not holding doors? For real? That reminds me of the guy who always scolded me when I let a lamp post "split" us (= he passed left of it, and for minimal movement I passed on the right) instead passing it at the same side as him .. But that's not selfishness .. that shows different.

 

[braex27]

Oh, so many of those fit me. It doesn't really depress me... more... points to address.

 

[GL]

why am i still single? i guess i just haven't met the right guy. but i've been going out, meeting new guys so i think its just a matter of time.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>Not quite motivating when you fit so many descriptions and then some.

It's supposed to motivate you into working on those potential "problem areas", not into explaining why you're destined to be that way forever.

>>>i guess i just haven't met the right guy. but i've been going out, meeting new guys so i think its just a matter of time.

And this is why I think GL might not be "on the market" all that much longer.

Lex

 

[AverageJoe]

1, 2, 6, 10

 

[BeMused]

Too many numbers have been added for me to care to keep track, but I'm single because 1) I still don't know for myself what I want. 2) I'm in love with my friend, who just wants to be my friend. 3) I'm in a college town in western Mass. There's no one new running around. Same old faces.

 

[pauliesan89]

none of the above, Im single because im very sarcastic and people find it hard to follow they think im just mean

 

[dpnice]

Being 59yrs old doesn't really help either.

All I can say is if you are suffering about your being single it is high time you started doing something about learning to like your life as it is.

A fulfilled life doesn't revolve around a partner (that is a bonus) it revolves around you liking what you do, being able to amuse yourself, finding things that interest you and finally making real friends.

I do understand the pain being alone can bring.

But what is the choice? Sitting at home alone bemoaning your miserable life or making some effort and getting out there and enjoying yourself even if it is by yourself.

 

[Audio Tech]

1,2,7,9. 1: Maybe not unrealistic, but I do have standards for christ's sake. No shaven FAT guys. Sorry.

I have my own business, I'm somewhat shy because I have been alone for 45 years, and because I AM busy, I don't get out much..... It was easier when I had a 9-5 job with a weekend.

Most of the time none of this bothers me, but I do find myself getting lonely at times. I'm starting to realize that I AM getting old, by Gay standards in LA, anyway. "I" do not feel old at all.

Well, I'm joining a scuba club this summer, we'll see where that leads me.

 

[CumAlong]

3, and 7 mostly.....and no one loves me

 

[Lefty]

Yessie...reach out my man...if you are careful when you feel up, well..

then there are 2 people with a smile on their faces.

 

[scains]

7 and 9 for me. Though I am working on the getting out more part.

 

[erobert]

Yes, this post is supposed to motivate not depress everyone as Lex indicated. Should have made that more clear in my OP. We don't need to be single and depressed also. That's the last thing anyone needs right now. The title is kind of depressing also, should have made it "How Not to be Single Anymore.' That's sounds better.

Many people are single and want a change. These single guys are good catches (in general) but might need to work a little on one or two things first to become boyfriend material. As said they may be working toward their first relationship with a guy. There's a lot of info on how to improve your game for single ladies and straight guys out there but not much for us. Is it this hard for straight BTW?

Lefty, thank you. That's the kind of discussion and advice I'm looking for about this topic.

Corny, yes, I'm guess I'm a bit old fashioned about holding doors or is that just being anal? I just think guys should be gentleman and chivalry is sexy too.

BeMused, there's a lot of guys at campus who are probably worth another look. I know the feeling though, going to college and seeing the same old faces. Wondering if you're going to be alone until you graduate. No one wants to come out or make a move until you do. Ugh, now I'm feeling a bit depressed.

Come on single guys. We may be single but not for long with some steps in the right direction. You will find someone, half of the battle is attitude. Which reminds me,

13 (14?) You're attracting the wrong type of guy. A positive change in behavior can really go a long way to attracting the right type of guy.

 

[LongBeachBill]

I wanted to offer encouragement. I have always been a loner...not really shy, just very withdrawn. I finally joined a gay bowling league, made a few friends. There was one guy who began chatting with me, he was somewhat shy also, but he was persistent. We starting getting together, as friends... and it has turned into love. So don't sit back continually saying you want a boyfriend, but are just too shy....blah blah blah.
Over the years, I did date at times, met a few guys that seemed interested..but as mentioned above, they gave up on me because I just took too long to open up and let them get to know me. This is also for the more outgoing guys out there...if a guy is shy, give him some slack; don't give up on him too quickly.
Many guys out there are worth getting to know..and it's not always easy.

 

[Lefty]

And the only stigma to being single is the one you put on yourself.

Many coupled, paired or 'in a relationship people are so fucking jealous of you and your freedom. You can eat what/where/when you want. If the bed doesn't get made first thing..who cares. No stupid tiffs on money or who is driving or paying for whatever.

Holidays and other important dates can be spent where and with whom you want..This could go on for hours but will close with a final thought

Its my birthday (bar mitzva whatever) and I am alone/lonely..OKAY Stupid, go pro active and throw yourself a birthday party and invite the people you LIKE not the ones you should or have to.