worst day ever...

[Nonimus]

She's a mother - She's just doing her job. Not many parents are completely open about sex, and she's probably just encountered the first sign that her little boys are not little boys anymore.

It'll all blow over mate, no worries.

 

[trawler69]

It's like Noni says. She was probably embarrassed as well. She's just doing what she believes is right. Better to say it than bottle it up if you can't ignore it.

What were the DVD's about anyway. Just desperate curiousity

 

[Theyoungman]

How old are you? 15?

Seriously why are you letting her get to you? Even if it wasn't your fault you should tell your mom straight up that its not your and you had very little to do with it. Don't be a mamas boy unless you are underaged which will see that you get banned, but I don't think you are a kid. I think you are old enough to make your own decisions and not obey and listen to everything mommy tells you.
I don't know why you would let her sink into you like that.

Tell her sraight up next time that you have nothing to do with it.

 

[Nonimus]

How old are you? 15?

Seriously why are you letting her get to you? Even if it wasn't your fault you should tell your mom straight up that its not your and you had very little to do with it. Don't be a mamas boy unless you are underaged which will see that you get banned, but I don't think you are a kid. I think you are old enough to make your own decisions and not obey and listen to everything mommy tells you.
I don't know why you would let her sink into you like that.

Tell her sraight up next time that you have nothing to do with it.

Unless of course the guy was taking the shit off his mum for his little brother - in that case, he's a cool big bro. My mother always expected me to get into trouble and do dodgy stuff, but when it was my little brother, she used to come down on him like a ton of bricks. I took the flack for my nipper a few times simply because I knew she'd be more severe on him than on me.

 

[D-Base]

my mother was cleaning my bro's room today and happen to found out he hided some DVDs there.

my mother was furious, and later gave me a lecture saying that looking at those stuff is bad for our health and stuff like that, and that we should wait until we get marry and stuff like that.

I felt so embarrassed - even though it wasn't my dvd. I just can't believe my bro is so careless..and now i got into trouble as well.


have u ever been in this situation before? the talk with my mother was so uncomfortable...I spend the whole day questioning what is right and what is wrong...

How old are you? Your mom is still doing lectures at you guys?

 

[1st love ron]

Was it GAY porn? If so then I'd say she took it rather well.

 

[roguehunter]

give him a break, hey buddy, dont get down in the dumps for too long, its not good for you, when you can turn that frown upside down, you will eventually see the funny side of this. and have a good laugh about it.

 

[NickCole]

have u ever been in this situation before? the talk with my mother was so uncomfortable...I spend the whole day questioning what is right and what is wrong...

It's good to question what's right and what's wrong, to really examine it.

Ultimately, though, live your life on your terms.

Let your mother make choices for herself about what's right and wrong, and you make choices for yourself.

We each have to live with the consequences of our choices; make sure that what you end up living with is true to who you are.

 

[star-warrior]

Your profile says you're 25 and you're complaining bout getting flack from your ma?

If you're under 18, you really ought not be here in this adult site.

As to your question, no, my mother never cleaned my room ever since I was a kid. I had my own lock and keys. IF you don't want her rummaging through your stuff, you really ought to clean your room up yourself.

 

[D-Base]

you forgot there is this word... RESPECT.

as long as you live with your parents. their house. their rule. wanna make your own rule get your own house.

<anywho.. parents will always act like a parent no matter how old we are. >

I understand what u are saying but when you are 25 there is like a time in your life that you let your parents know they can't treat u like a little one anymore...

 

[Nonimus]

Technically yes, but your mother is your mother all your life - she never stops being that.

 

[gabriel1]

my mother was cleaning my bro's room today and happen to found out he hided some DVDs there.

my mother was furious, and later gave me a lecture saying that looking at those stuff is bad for our health and stuff like that, and that we should wait until we get marry and stuff like that.

I felt so embarrassed - even though it wasn't my dvd. I just can't believe my bro is so careless..and now i got into trouble as well.


have u ever been in this situation before? the talk with my mother was so uncomfortable...I spend the whole day questioning what is right and what is wrong...

Mothers will always be Mothers,. I've never been in the situation myself but I was out on my own at 18 so.... and btw the grammar police have noticed there is no such word as hided, it should read he had hidden.. Like on Judge Judy the other day someone said tooken, ahe said what is tooken???

 

[Spiff]

Your mother said you should wait until you marry until you watch gay porn? Lol. Interesting philosophy.

 

[Swellegant]

Oh, I remember the first time the Grandmother found my porn. She burned it in the backyard and brought the ashes back and put them where I'd kept the porn... a rare and rather fabulous bit of drama if you think about it. I was mostly angry because I liked that porn and because it wasn't exactly cheap. But we didn't talk about it.

The next time it happened, many years later, after I had moved out of the house and then moved back in, we had a pretty big blowout about it. The main gist of her argument was that it's her house and she doesn't want that kind of filth in her house. And I agreed that she had the right to ban materials in her house. However, I also felt that I deserved a modicum of privacy, that I was 25 year-old male and I needed privacy whether she wanted to give it to me or not. This aspect of my life was part of me... the upshot was to either accept it or kick me out of the house, her choice.

I thought about giving up porn just to please her, but in the end did not... I just hid it better so she'd never see it. And I keep my room a mess so she can't come in here without risking grievous bodily injury. Simple precautions are all it takes to keep people and the things that upset them separate.

I have found, though, that women in general, and mothers in particular, don't understand porn or masturbation. They tend to think it's a dirty unnatural habit. Depending on your relationship with your parents, it might just be best to let a mother (or grandmother) keep on thinking that.

In your and your brother's case, Jumbo Jimmy, I recommend keeping your room spotlessly clean so she never has a reason to come snooping. And keep the porn someplace she'd never think to look, or in a locked container (a footlocker or a suitcase with a lock would be useful).