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Would it be bad if I fell in love?

kayman23

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My only advice is I guess "slow it down" :confused: Love is a gamble regardless, sometimes you win then sometimes you lose. I guess I'm at a lose for words at the moment for you.
 
Falling in love happens to us. We don't decide 'whether to' or not. So, if you're in love, enjoy it and get all the good sex the two of you can. Possibility of hurt and pain is high...but that's love. Still, there's always the possibility of plain ol' happiness followed by a long period filled with happy moments.
 
I'm hearing alarm bells. There is something about this guy that sounds wrong, like he's telling you what you want to hear.

Maybe not, what do I know... just be careful.
 
There's almost nothing you can do about the "falling in love" thing. It's completely and utterly out of your hands. If you do, just keep people around to sort of give you an "outsider" point of view on things.

Good luck.

Lex
 
Since I'm your age, I would say take it slow, you're both in very different part of your life. At our age, we tend to misconstrue reality and fiction, so just take it slow, you're life is just beginning.
 
Have fun tonight and tell us what happens.

I wouldn't be afraid of love, or falling in love, simply because he's your first. You really can't control that anyway and it's head trying to rule your heart and most of the time that doesn't work either. After all, there will always be a first boyfriend, and a first love. Many times, it's one in the same.

Instead, just let a friendship develop if it's meant to be. Most importantly, be tuned into your instincts and listen to them. They'll rarely steer you wrong.

Good luck and report in and let us know how it's going!
 
I read this thread after I posted on your "Virgin No More" thread, so I think posting here is moot. I think your response there about this topic is more up to date.
 
Falling in love is beautiful, but falling out of love is awful! It rhymes, huh?! ;)

I've fallen in love, and experience bliss. I've also fallen out of love, and it felt like hell. I've grown to be stronger, but I often question myself - am I all that stronger or am I still living in fear to fall in love again?

Love is gamble someone has said, I couldn't agree more. I don't mind gambling at the casino but in the game of love, I'm still way too fragile and I don't know what to do.
 
At least your heart isn't drowning out your brain. You can look at the situation from an objective point of view. You obviously have to give this a lot of thought - can you continue in a strictly sexual/somewhat-friendly relationship with this guy?

Lex
 
Hold up! He doesn't think gay deserve to marry and you are the 5th vigin he's fucked? I know you like older guys but you need a starter dick with a clean slate. You really should try someone your own age. Trust me you are only gonna have problems. Being 20 is a world away from 37 and this guy is way bitter. And at 20 we all fall for our first. Emotions run high at your age. That's something this guy can't fake.
 
Quanchi said:
So I was talking to him earlier. I'm starting to understand why he think that gay don't deserve to be married. I don't agree with him, but I can see his point. I won't get into his opinion on the subject. Also his is far from bitter. If you guys knew what he's been through, especially his last relationship, you might have an idea why he thinks that way. I'm not going to get into that either, be all I'm going to say is that is was the biggest regret.

Also I've been thinking about what I need. I don't need a starter dick, I don't need to be in a relationship, I don't need to have a boyfriend. The only person who knows what I need to me, no one else. I do really, really like this guy, but there's more important things to worry about being with love. Everyday I'm learning more about myself and making sure I'm getting my proirities straight, like my future, and I believe he's helping me with that.

I would rather have this guy, even as just a friend, than someone who will lie to me, use me, stab me in the back, play games, and so on.
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you sound confused. good luck.
 
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