Would You Ever Consider Marrying a Woman?

[navigaytion]

For those who want a traditional domestic life, would you consider marrying a close female friend and starting a family if you couldn't find a gay male partner, since men tend to be very shallow, promiscuous, and non-committing?

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

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[barnbuddy]

no I'm gay, why would I do that?

 

[ronboy]

No.

Quite simply, I know that I couldn't get it up for a woman.

Emotionally, it wouldn't be fair to either of us.....

 

[wonderwort]

No.....never have considered it and never will.

I do know for sure........lots gay guys do get married to a

woman to hide their homosexuality. Sad.

 

[navigaytion]

No.

Quite simply, I know that I couldn't get it up for a woman.

Emotionally, it wouldn't be fair to either of us.....

How would it be unfair emotionally if you both care about one another?

Unless you are saying that a lack of sexual attraction means that you couldn't be emotionally involved.

 

[Geoffboyardee]

Maybe if I actually loved her and she was my significant other. But if she's not perfect for me, no.

 

[navigaytion]

No.....never have considered it and never will.

I do know for sure........lots gay guys do get married to a

woman to hide their homosexuality. Sad.

Let's be clear: I'm not talking about gays who marry women to conceal their homosexuality. That's a different topic altogether.

I'm talking about openly gay men who, for whatever reason, are fed up and haven't had success in finding compatibility with other gay men, and so choose to settle with close female friends and have a domestic family type of life.

 

[herry1]

How would it be unfair emotionally if you both care about one another?

Unless you are saying that a lack of sexual attraction means that you couldn't be emotionally involved.

Yes you can. But you also want to start a family.

Maybe you'll find if you find a women who is happy to live with you in a platonic emotional relationship, kids won't be part of it.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

For those who want a traditional domestic life, would you consider marrying a close female friend and starting a family if you couldn't find a gay male partner, since men tend to be very shallow, promiscuous, and non-committing?

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[diamondstar]

Only if we can be on Bridezilla and act like complete assholes.

 

[FPNY]

One of my closest friends is a woman, I care for her deeply, but could not marry a woman. I'm a gay man.....

 

[Swellegant]

... if you couldn't find a gay male partner, since men tend to be very shallow, promiscuous, and non-committing?

Really? I mean really?! You can't say shit like that and expect anybody to take your question seriously.

But I would consider it if A) there was a really good financial reason for it, such as keeping my medical benefits or getting a massive inheritance, B) the woman knew all about me and knew exactly what she was getting into, and C) separate bedrooms, if not separate residences.

Marriage often works really well for people who are friends more than lovers, and so long as you're not lying to each other, I see no reason why people shouldn't get married if they want that kind of life. I, however, do not. I'm very much invested in my bachelorhood, and I would consider it a betrayal of my principles as an out gay man to marry a woman and let people think I turned straight.

 

[blublud]

At 29, after quite an active and exclusive gay life, I met a princess, fell in love, and we married. I came out to her before I would accept her answer to my proposal. I also shared with her mom.

Our sex life was active, altho limited in some ways. We had a son. She became alcoholic and divorced leaving me to single parent my then 4 y/o son. 8 years later she died of alcoholism.

Raising my son, he came first before anything else. I remained celibate until he left for college, then I resumed my gay rampage.

After he graduated college, I did the hardest thing in my life - I came out to him. He took it superbly. He is a successful, married lawyer now.

Would I marry again? No, not to a woman.

 

[navigaytion]

nope to the question..



Love your premise.

Really? I mean really?! You can't say shit like that and expect anybody to take your question seriously.

Well, apparently that makes two people who have a problem with reality.

Sorry, but plenty of gay men struggle with monogamy in the gay community, and some gay men are so desperate for monogamous companionship and a domestic family life that they choose compatible women instead of men for that very reason. I'm not saying it's right (or wrong). It just is what it is.

 

[RaKroma]

Don't worry, you'll find a stable guy once you'll hit 60; at that age dicks stop to work well so guys settle down.

I actually know two such stories of gay guys marrying lesbian/bisexual female close friends. One of such couples have six year old twins and they seem to be living fine. I don't know if I could marry like this, but I don't judge others if they want to this. As long as everyone is honest about it from the beginning and has thought it through very well. Because once you make kids there is no going back and they deserve a stable, functioning family. I did hear from one couple that a lot of their friends turned their backs on them, out of anger as if each side were "traitors" to gay and lesbian communities. I find that type of intolerance ironic.

 

[Zaphod]

I read once about a gay man who married a female friend who was dying in order to adopt and raise her son, whom he loved dearly and who he had largely helped to raise anyway. I would do something like that.

 

[cityboy-stl]

How much $$$,$$$,$$$,$$$ would be involved if I did?




Seriously..... fuck NO.

 

[Swellegant]

Well, apparently that makes two people who have a problem with reality.

Your reality, darling, not mine. The overwhelming majority of gay men I know... and I know a LOT of them, and I didn't meet any of them in bars and clubs... are couples. The few gay men I know who are "desperate" for a relationship and spend their time bitching about how all gay men are shallow and commitment-phobic (except of course themselves) are usually seriously fucked in the head and in no fit state to be in any kind of relationship. So of course something as desperate as marrying a woman so that you can settle down into a semblance of a relationship without any of the passion or pain of a real relationship will appeal to such a broken person.

I'm sorry if that sounds mean, but people who think relationships are the be-all/end-all and the only thing that will make them happy piss me off. I used to be one of them, but thank God I grew out of it.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Ah, another navi nega-post from thin air.

Exciting.

To answer - knowing full well it doesn't matter, since i'm a gay - no, I don't desire to marry a woman to have monogamy. I'm fine waiting for a man that shares that same view.