Would you ever out someone?

[Orlandude]

No, I would not. I believe that is a personal decision that a person needs to make on their own.

 

[jetsonboy]

Neither would I.

 

[ronboy]

It's a matter of respect for your fellow gay man.

You wouldn't go around and announce to the world that your straight male friends boff women, so why should it be an issue that a man is boffing another man.

It's nobody's business what a person's sexual orientation is, unless that person shares it freely themself.


I wouldn't ever think to out anyone.....

 

[Inwood]

Never. As much as I think being in the closet is wrong for various reasons, ultimately its their choice.

I would offer advice, assistance and support if warranted on how to come out.

 

[Marbas]

No, I wouldn't.

 

[G-Lexington]

I've encouraged people to out themselves if I think it would be beneficial for them, but I don't think I'd out anybody.

Lex

 

[trawler69]

The only time I would consider it is when a homophobic Gay is making other Gay peoples lives a misery by inviting and encouraging their persecution. Eg. Ted Haggard.

 

[Orlandude]

I never have and never would out any guy but I'm with MattieMich here. When you have Russian gays being beaten up by police during their Pride march, and someone who is partly responsible for that action is a homophobic closeted gay himself, then surely he needs outing.

A public figure is open game. That's different and was not your original question. It is unlikely that any of us would ever be in a position to "out" a public figure. As for the cop, it comes with the territory of choosing to be a public figure. A cop is a paid public servant and is held to the same standard as any public figure. A cop is sworn to uphold the Law, regardless of his personal convictions about gays or anything else. The Law doesn't care about his personal convictions. It was like years ago with the "Orange Juice Queen"....Anita Bryant, who conducted an entire anti-gay "bash and trash" campaign using her position as spokesperson for the Florida Citrus Growers. Then it was found out that her own son was gay. She was immediately fired and put out to pasture. Any public figure, even someone like the President of the United States, is subject to anything the public wants to dole out, gay "outing" or anything else.

 

[1gayguy]

Not intentionally.

 

[bimmrboy]

Yes! I'd out closeted homophobic public figures who were doing damage to the gay community.

In general, I wouldn't out anyone as it's none of anyone's business.

If you have a public official or someone who's gay and hypocritically targeting gays and causing damage, outing is acceptable to me.

i.e. Ted Haggard

 

[sonny10305]

No one has the right to out anyone. Ever. Under any circumstances. It's a simple matter of common decency and due respect to others. It's no more complicated than that.

I could not have said it any better or agree more.

 

[operafan]

Yes! I'd out closeted homophobic public figures who were doing damage to the gay community.

Agreed. The hurtful hypocrites are the first to go!

 

[Absolut]

Nope! It's really no one else's business, unless they choose to share that part of themselves with you! If I knew they were in the closet, I would counsel them to come out.

We are all glad you did too sweets.




oh, and no. I wouldn't out someone. That's some bitchy shit right there.

 

[metta]

If someone asked me to out them because they did not feel comfortable telling people but at the same time wanted them to know, then I would probably do it.

 

[PreTTy PeTe]

Yes! I'd out closeted homophobic public figures who were doing damage to the gay community.

Yes i agree with mattie

 

[Riverrick]

Isn't calling someone gay in order to hurt them fundamentally wrong? I mean, what does that say about being gay?

How can we use homosexuality as a weapon and still maintain that there's nothing wrong with it? It doesn't make any sense to me.

 

[chance1]

No

It's despicable in my opinion

No wiggle room on this one for me

 

[CGHJ]

It's a tough one but I have to say, if they're in a position of power and they use that power to opress gays, then yeah I might out them. It would have to be serious damage...purely homophobic wouldn't do it...it would have to be something like "passing laws causings gays to be arrested or beaten etc etc". I.E. closing bathhouses disapproving of Disney Gay Days would not be a good enough reason. They'd have to seriously be violating the rights of others and outing them would have to be the only recourse to save others from actual harm, or close to it.

It would be about the last thing I would do, for all the great reasons that people who wouldn't do it gave above. But I would do it if it came to it. And I'd prolly second-guess myself pretty bad afterwards.

 

[ari25]

If they're in a position of power or attaining wealth, fame, prestige or influence over others and only doing so by pretending to be straight... then yes. My tolerance level for self-hatred is pretty low and sadly gay men a lot of times seem to lead the pack in self-hatred.

If this is a young person who's still trying to figure themselves out, then no...just don't ask me to lie for you.

 

[Lube]

Isn't calling someone gay in order to hurt them fundamentally wrong? I mean, what does that say about being gay?

How can we use homosexuality as a weapon and still maintain that there's nothing wrong with it? It doesn't make any sense to me.

Well, as MattieMich and others have stated, if it's a public figure who is oppressing/hurting gays, and he is the one is making gays look bad, then I say give him a taste of his own medicine and out him.

But just some innocent regular Joe in the neighborhood? No way. I'd never out an innocent guy. Last thing on Earth I'd do.