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Would you have come out in a younger age if you could?

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Or you are happy with the time you came out? If you knew how gay life is wonderful and regretting not have come out in an early age.
I came out when I was 18, so no regrets.
 
I didn't come out until I was 24 and yes, I wish I would have sooner. Spent far too much time in denial, which, ironically, takes far more effort than just dealing with it.
 
I came out at 22. Given when and how I grew up, I don't think it was unreasonable. Rather than wishing that I could have come out earlier, I wish I were born later. It's a fine difference, but I think it's crucial. I wish I had gone to high school post Ellen, during Will and Grace, Dawson's Creek, and Queer as Folk--I think I would have been out at 14 instead--I can't imagine how it would have changed my life.
 
I'm happy with when I came out

My father?

not so happy with it
 
I came out at 21 and that's fine, no regrets.

But if I had it to do over I'd come out in high school. Those people I was worried would ostracize me weren't worth the worry.
 
Yup! The mid and late 50s has been awefully challenging to begin a Gay life, especially since I have an eye for 20-45 year olds. (For me, fresh, live blossoms are more interesting than dried flowers!) If any of them show an interest, its in having a dad, or an old man buddy, or a Sweet Wisdom Figure, but not a playmate or partner. I'm sure every "coming out " age has its problems, so these are the ones that I have encountered in the later in life categorey. All I can do is wonder what it would have been like to be young and openly Gay and have a more "normal" Gay development. Thank God the times have changed! The world is very different now than it was way back when. I'm really glad for you younger guys. Something has to go right for someone, even if it isn't me, and that makes me happy.:D
 
Well...I think I'm the one with the long history. I didn't come out until last year...in the other years I tried to deny I was gay even though I knew it from the time I was 11 or 12. My career paths and the area in which I lived simply did not allow for someone to be gay.

It was sad because I was just at a conference and eating with some friends when I overheard some other guys talking about "that person" who had obviously come out in the profession. "I think his city decided to find a way to get rid of him because...you know..." was the jist of the conversation. How sad even today that this type of thing goes on but I was well aware of it.

When I decided to come out last year, I again felt 18; I only wish I could have been honest with myself all of those years but I have not regrets because I did end up with two beautiful kids and a lifetime of experience that made me who and what I am today. I do envy young people that not only can but do be totally open today.....
 
I came out at 25 and see the years before as lost years of a sort. Sex didn't really begin for me until I was out and I wish it started earlier. 15 or 16 would have been nice. One problem though: I wonder who would I have had sex with (in the early 70's)?
 
FUCK YES! The guy I love was basically opening up to experimenting with me back then but I was too stupid to realize it (didn't even realize I was gay back then (16 yo)) and now it's too late. If only I could turn back time shit could have ended up so much better! :(
 
well I came out when I was 19... and I did it because I thought it was time i turned my life around.. I had already started losing weight and dressing better.. so I took the next step and told my friends about my love of the cock....

now... the dilemma i have with this question is... if i had come out back when I was younger 14-18... then would I have tried losing weight?.. would I have started to dress better? who knows... so I guess it all depends... if i could dome out and lose the weight and take better care of myself at an earlier age... i would.. but if if its just a question of if I could come out back then before I lost all the weight when i was 19 then hell fucking no... my mind was far too fragile back then to handle fat jokes and gay jokes
 
If I could go back, I think coming out earlier would have been a good thing. I think coming out in high school would have still been out of the question for me, but the start of university when I was 18 would have likely been a good time. I'm 22 now and I starting coming out in January of this year, I'm excited that I'm finally putting the closet behind me, but with this newfound freedom I definitely wish I would have done it sooner.
 
thewiz said:
Well...I think I'm the one with the long history. I didn't come out until last year...in the other years I tried to deny I was gay even though I knew it from the time I was 11 or 12.

When I decided to come out last year, I again felt 18; I only wish I could have been honest with myself all of those years but I have no regrets... I do envy young people that not only can but do be totally open today.....
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TheWiz summed it up pretty well for me. No regrets, and I feel like I'm 18 again (for better and for worse :-) )!

Better to come out late than to never come out at all.

I couldn't have come out earlier; it was a special confluence of events that provided me with the opportunity to rid myself of denial. It couldn't have happened without my previous life experiences. So, no regrets.
 
I wish I had come out in a better atmospere.... if I would have come out before I did.... I would not have lived to tell about it!! Not good! I am currently 'closested' at work.... if I want to keep my job!!
 
I wish I could have 'come out' sooner but it would have been quite impossible being raised in a christian home. That doesn't mean I didn't still *|* every chance I got. Just never with anyone else.
 
I came out this year at 21 but wish I had done way sooner....it would have saved me from a lot of stress and depression probably. and the struggle of trying to live a straight life by having a girlfriend for nearly 2 years. but, i was a confused young man and didn't know what i wanted - so I could say i wish I came out when I was 18, for example, but I didn't know who I was back then or why i felt like relationships with girls where so unnatural for me. i tried to convince myself i was just a late developer.
 
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