Would You Live in a "Dry" Home For Someone You Love?

[Beachguyj]

I am an alcoholic. There is not and will not be any alcohol in my house........even after 34 years.

Can you or do you go to a bar with friends and just have a soft drink, juice or water?

 

[AlmondMilk]

I'd do it. I like wine, but if it's for a guy I care about, it's fine. I don't drink too often anyway.

 

[seven2go]

Can you or do you go to a bar with friends and just have a soft drink, juice or water?

I'm not THAT fragile but don't go to bars very often........it's like keeping matches next to the dynamite.
I go to bars on occasion to eat.......but almost invariably there's someone half pissed up that ruins it for me so I just don't bother much.......

(I DO love my cranberry juice....... )

 

[kevbo]

No. I pregame at home before going out.

 

[Soilwork]

I would also never date anyone that was such a touch-and-go drunk that they couldn't even be around alcohol.

Because that won't end well.

 

[benno5693]

Yes I could, but the relationship wouldn't go far if they tried to stop me drinking when we are out...

 

[Corny]

Alcoholism is a very serious disease and worse than many other addictions. I have worked in a rehab clinic for about a year and every recovering alcoholic who manages to stay sober deserves respect. I would live in a "dry" home, but might try compromises like .. when there are guests we will have alcohol but we will just buy it short before and remove whatever isn't drunk.

 

[rareboy]

I would if asked to.

 

[jackoroe]

If you love somebody, you do whatever it takes to help them. If that's what they need to keep them from drinking, I'd be fine with that.

I have one good friend who is in recovery. He and another one of my friends meet me about once a month or so for lunch. We invariably meet at a restaurant that serves alcohol. He's cool with it. I'm real proud that he's been sober for years now and can be around others while they have a couple of beers. If he wasn't I'd certainly be happy to meet elsewhere.

 

[Beachguyj]

I would also never date anyone that was such a touch-and-go drunk that they couldn't even be around alcohol.

Because that won't end well.

An alcoholic in recovery. who can't stop once they start drinking. and may give in to temptation if it's around, is not a touch and go drunk.

I would rather date someone who knows they are an alcoholic and gets help than a guy who needs to get drunk every night.

You can usually tell who's a drunk by the fact that they don't have a car in an area where it's needed to get around.

 

[ibill1]

In my opinion, you do whatever is necessary for the guy you love. I did for almost 35 yrs. Although there were no issues like this, if one would have developed I would have done anything for him to make life easier for him, and I mean anything. I know deep in my heart he would have done the same for me.

We would smoke sometimes in the evenings while hanging around the house especially when friends were over. When my job required that I be randomly drug tested I gave it up and he and our friends would go outside so I wouldn't be subject to the passive smoke.

Again, just an opinion but when he is sick you clean up his vomit, his shit, whatever. Both of us did this throughout the years. Some of the greatest joy in my life was making him happy and comfortable, I wouldn't have given that up for anything.

 

[unloadonme]

No. A relationship is about compromise, not total capitulation.

 

[seven2go]

Alcoholism is a very serious disease and worse than many other addictions. I have worked in a rehab clinic for about a year and every recovering alcoholic who manages to stay sober deserves respect. I would live in a "dry" home, but might try compromises like .. when there are guests we will have alcohol but we will just buy it short before and remove whatever isn't drunk.

That ^ .......

There are occasions when I need a little booze for cooking, brandy sauce or some vodka for flaming an entre........ ....... so guests ooh and ah. What I don't use I give to a guest. Beer, for beer batter, gets used and what's left over goes down the drain.
If you want to maintain a bar in the house or a nicely stocked wine rack things are not going to pan out so don't even try it.
If your "roommate" was adamant that YOU can't drink THEN there's an even larger problem......

 

[Ninja108]

If that what it would take,then yes.

 

[USEDCAR]

It wouldn't bother me, when i go out with friends 2 drinks is my limit i don't need Alcohol to have a good time.

 

[fetaby]

How does a person even get to the point of moving in without having a situation like this sorted out?

 

[Beachguyj]

No. A relationship is about compromise, not total capitulation.

But if a person told you they have a severe peanut allergy and they can't have it in the house would that be a problem for you.

I would hope the person could control themselves, but I would feel real guilty if they became a raging alcoholic because I had booze in the house.

 

[unloadonme]

But if a person told you they have a severe peanut allergy and they can't have it in the house would that be a problem for you.

No.

I would hope the person could control themselves, but I would feel real guilty if they became a raging alcoholic because I had booze in the house.

Maybe the compromise would be to bring booze in when one wanted it, rather than to keep a well-stocked cellar.

 

[lambdaboy]

If it were a dry home because th person I love is an alcoholic yes. If it was for the usual reason some Jesus loving ass hole that forgets that if he existed he drank wine no thanks. They can shove it.

 

[Kabluey]

I like a drink, but I think I'd be okay with this.
Just need some cold drinks that aren't overly sweet on hand. I like the tartness of alcoholic drinks.
Cranberry and grapefruit juice have a bit of the same tang.