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Would you pretend to be straight for your a dying relative?

Pretend to be straight for dying loved one?

  • Yes

    Votes: 5 19.2%

  • No

    Votes: 18 69.2%

  • Maybe/ I'd come up with a different solution...

    Votes: 3 11.5%
  • Total voters
    26
  • Poll closed .
nope

I don't do it for strangers, why would I do that to a relative I cared about?

let them die believing I am someone who I really am not?

It seems cruel to me NOT to tell them the truth.... A dishonesty that the grave makes unreversable.
 
Nope. Way back when I was teenager I made a promise to myself that I would never lie about sexuality.
 
No. And if any relative is foolish enough to think my homosexuality needs to be changed, I hope they learn from that mistake before they pass.
 
anyone diein already know humans ans cultures become whack jobs

ans go die quicker some toon go start

got tell ya sumthang
' ooh when dead not know '
yeah but got tell ya sumthang
' ooh look time got die bye '
How rudeeeeeee gonna tell everyone on internet ya was soo rude
' SMILES '

;)
 
I'd rather she die hating me for who I am rather than loving me for something that I'm not.

Fortunately, I don't see this happening in my life.
 
Nope, I already came out of the closest, I'm not hopping back in for a few months to appease a dying relative.




I highly doubt this would happen to me anyway.
 
I'll never forget when my grandmother cut out newspaper article about 2 gay men who used a surrogate to have a child, and she wrote "interesting!" in the margin.

But, hypothetically speaking? No. Never. If I really believed they were so mentally deficient that my sexual orientation would cause them to keel over, than I'd simply not mention it. That said, I rarely mention it anyway. There just isn't cause 99% of the time anyway. I'm a man who happens to be gay, not a gay who happens to be a man.
 
In that particular situation, no. The grandmother's "love" was obviously conditional so what is the use in tyring to make ammends with someone if it's just a lie?

I can defenitely understand wanting to say goodbye to someone on good terms but I don't think that is the right way.
 
Once I was out to the family, I was out to everyone in the family.

Fuck them if they couldn't stand the truth...I was not going to hide it anymore...
 
I was told not to tell Grandma that I was gay, because "it would kill her". So I resignedly went along with it. A couple years later, my grandmother was visiting my sister, and out of the blue, she asked her, "What do you think about Lex being a homosexual?"

Grandma ain't dumb. :)

If I had a relative who hated the fact that I was gay, and was on her deathbed, I'd go visit. But I wouldn't renounce who I was. If she wanted to use the occasion to let bygones be bygones, great. If she wanted to make a scene, I'd just leave, and consider that our "goodbye". :)

Lex
 
That is a tough one. I admire some of the members' pride, but I can't bring myself to say "Fuck grandma if she can't accept me." That's terrible. Everytime I see both my grandmothers they tell me how proud they are of me. The younger g'ma could deal with it better than the older one. Luckily, I'm not to the age where I'm "expected" to be married, so I'm just avoiding the subject. Call me what you like, but I just don't feel the need to come out to my grandparents, at least at this point in my life. If I find the right guy and settle down, that will be different but I'm not to that point yet.
 
"Reads topic" That would be the best time to come out. Kick em when their down I say.
 
Yes.

Some things are bigger than making a statement or political stand.

Hell, I pretend not to be an atheist every time I go home for Christmas and we host about 25 family members at the house for two weeks. What good comes from not doing it?

I wouldn't be thrilled but I wouldn't be that upset to honestly.
 
I would for a large inheritance solely based on my heterosexuality...

But other than that no.. It wouldnt fool my grandmother, and I would just go there and not throw it in her face and try to work around it.
 
If I was a serial killer, I might hide that from my relatives.

Maybe.

Other than that, I am what I am, and she is what she is, and if we can't get along I don't see how lying about it is going to make anything better. This isn't an "Oh, I'm going to a party" instead of "I'm going to get laid at the baths" kind of lie, this is a "I love you" instead of "I spit on you and everything you stand for" kind of lie.
 
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