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Wow. I'm shocked. My brother died.

actually, the quote was "when the ship lifts; all bills are paid - no regrets."

he also said, "Do not confuse “duty” with what other people expect of you; they are utterly different. Duty is a debt you owe yourself to fulfill obligations you have assumed voluntarily. Paying that debt can entail anytbing from years of patient work to instant willingness to die. Difficult it may be, but the reward is self-respect. But there is no reward at all for doing what other people expect of you, and to do so is not merely difficult, but impossible. It is easier to deal with a footpad than it is with the leech who wants “just a few minutes of your time, please--this won’t take long.” Time is your total capital, and the minutes of your life are painfully few. If you allow yourself to fall into the vice of agreeing to such requests, they quickly snowball to the point where these parasites will use up 100 percent of your time--and squawk for more! So learn to say No--and to be rude about it when necessary. Otherwise you will not have time to carry out your duty, or to do your own work, and certainly no time for love and happiness. The termites will nibble away your life and leave none of it for you. (This rule does not mean that you must not do a favor for a friend, or even a stranger. But let the choice be yours. Don’t do it because it is “expected” of you.)"
 
My condolences are with you and your family members. That was sudden but I think much preferable to a long drawn out period of suffering for your brother. I read your post the other day, and no, you were not a bad brother. Take care
 
Sorry for the loss - my boss at work had the same thing happen to her - he was only like 49 and died of a stroke. It's going to take here some time to assume her full duties I'm sure....
 
So sorry to hear this news....my thoughts are with you...
 
I feel for you brother.

my brother disappeared 25 years ago and I will never know if he is dead or alive.

at least you have that sense of closure.
 
Neil, sincere condolences to you.

My life has afforded me many times to think on death, which is actually to think on life.

Rather than think on the relationship that never was, maybe it is a good time to just take in life, the chlorophyll and all of it.

May you enjoy a new peace. (*8*)
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This i could not have said it better , sorry mate...............(*8*)
 
Hang in their, friend. This has to be a confusing time for you. My thoughts are with you.
 
A thought has crossed my mind, as I'm sure it must have crossed a lot of your minds as well. With his death occurring only a few days after the diagnosis, the collapse in the bathroom, and the swift cremation with no service, I have a feeling that my brother may have committed suicide.

I won't ask the family directly, of course, but I suspect he may have gone into the bathroom, popped open a bottle of pills of some sort, and downed them. I think, perhaps, he didn't want to deal with what my mother went through when she died. She was diagnosed with cancer in November, 2003. She died in December. The cancer had taken away the woman she was and was left a mere shell barely recognisable as my mother. I think, perhaps, my brother didn't want to face that.

Just a thought.
 
A thought has crossed my mind, as I'm sure it must have crossed a lot of your minds as well. With his death occurring only a few days after the diagnosis, the collapse in the bathroom, and the swift cremation with no service, I have a feeling that my brother may have committed suicide.

I won't ask the family directly, of course, but I suspect he may have gone into the bathroom, popped open a bottle of pills of some sort, and downed them. I think, perhaps, he didn't want to deal with what my mother went through when she died. She was diagnosed with cancer in November, 2003. She died in December. The cancer had taken away the woman she was and was left a mere shell barely recognisable as my mother. I think, perhaps, my brother didn't want to face that.

Just a thought.

Smart move on his part to have died a quick almost painless death.
My mum died a slow death from lung cancer many years ago. She begged doctors and relatives to put her out of misery but no one could help.
 
Sorry for the loss of your brother.

You could be close to something with the suicide idea. Although, we had a family friend who seemed fine, was diagnosed with lung cancer and was dead in a matter of days. It happened that fast. So it's possible that your brother truly did die of natural causes.

Well, at least you can move forward and not have to wonder about what you should or should not do anymore. Again, sorry for your loss and the end of your brother's life.
 
Wow, that is sudden. Whether natural or, as you have wondered, by his own hand, I am glad for him (and you) that it was quick. Witnessing a slow decline is to me the very definition of helplessness.

Condolences.

-d-
 
A thought has crossed my mind, as I'm sure it must have crossed a lot of your minds as well. With his death occurring only a few days after the diagnosis, the collapse in the bathroom, and the swift cremation with no service, I have a feeling that my brother may have committed suicide.

Religious believes aside, I believe it takes courage to do commit suicide.

If that was his decision, it looks like your brother knew what he was doing.

I trust this brings you some closure.
 
Wow.... I'm sorry for your loss...

Whatever your feelings may have been, he was still your brother, and you his. But it sounds like he was spared great suffering in the end by checking out quickly, whatever the cause may have been. I lost a great friend to cancer a few years ago, it was also very quick. I'll miss him forever... but I am glad he didn't have to suffer.
 
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