Wow! I've Seen Everything!!!!

[Jo-thin]

I had to post this! I just found something out really shocked me!!!!
Ok I was on a gay dating website and I got a new message......
It was one of my band members cousins! and I'm friends with him!
So I look at the picture in shock! I mean I never thought this dude
would be gay!
This proves to me that it's possible anybody can be gay! I mean he's the type that
would call you a fag and ect. (Jokingly) He never gave a gay vibe at all! He's one of the last people that Id suspect to even be gay! I mean no signs at all!!!!

Well he doesn't know its me cause I don't have a picture on there (cause I'm still closeted) and I'm planning to play along and get some info out of him! Like who has he ever came out to!? And you know whats ironic!? I had a major crush him like about a year ago! I mean he's so hot and cute!

My point of this is should I approach him? I'm thinking he's not comfortable enough!
I know id be awkward between me and him..... I see him 2 a week (sometimes more) because of band pracice and he lives with my band member...........

 

[GBirdie]

Lol, lucky you.

Well, if he's the one that messaged you, I don't see what's wrong with approaching him, erm.... approach meaning get to know him better. He might even need some help if he's not out, which I don't think he is since you don't even know and couldn't even guess.

Just do what you think is right.... don't play with his thoughts though....

 

[W10 Chubb]

can we see the picture?

 

[G-Lexington]

So you found a friend on a gay dating site.
Someone you think is pretty good-looking and nice.
The realization has made you feel a lot better about yourself, and the entire "gay thing" as a whole.

So now you're gonna "play along"? Maybe fuck with him a little? Seriously? That's his "reward" for being out enough to post a picture, and to help you feel better about yourself?

Why not man up? Write to him through the site, say who you are, and say "Dude, I had no idea".

Lex

 

[1091MAC]

I agree with Lex. I think that you need to be honest with him. He put himself out there and I think it's only fair that you do the same. If he is not comfortable with it, then he can tell you that.

Good luck. Hopefully, you will let us know how it turns out.

 

[Yuki Sohma]

IMy point of this is should I approach him?

Me would..............& then get to dating him

 

[Jo-thin]

SEE!!!
This is why I had to tell you guys! I never see it the other way! Ive only seen this situation one way and you guys make alot of sense!
That is extremely selfish of me and I should approach him!
But honestly guys I'm afraid that he camoe out to my band member and hes going to tell em!

 

[G-Lexington]

He's gay. He then almost certainly understands that some people aren't ready to leap out of the closet. So when you contact him, tell him that. "I'm still pretty much in the closet, and I don't think I'm quite prepared to come out just yet. Hopefully, that'll change over time. But if you could keep things on the downlo for now, I'd really appreciate it."

Lex

 

[billybob109]

I would not mess around with him i would send him a pic of yourself and then see what he says... it could be akward the next time you see him but play it off cool.

 

[Lalada]

Just drop him a line saying you know him already... but you are still closeted.

Approach him in person at next practice or a couple down the road and drop a hint.

 

[PlayingwithChance]

Just imagine what sort of "band practice" you could have after this! Mmm mmm mmm!

 

[Lube]

Regardless of religion, if you have any kind of conscience, you must tell him who you are.

 

[Jo-thin]

He hasn't logged in in awhile!

 

[LittleGeek]

Lex gave the best advice. Do follow.