wow...so i met someone...

[Dman007]

well he lives 5 hours away...so that kinda stinks.
He's my type, im his type.
and we seem to agree alot sexually, we wanna meet, but dont know exactly when, but soon, we wanna meet each other half way so neither has to drive to terribly far.

Im a little nervous, as this is the first guy ever for me to do ANYTHING with, inve never even kissed a guy. so thats just got me a little nervous, i dont wanna be bad at anything, or look bad you know?

he is not a JUBer, that I know of, i saw him on a site called dudesnude.com that a JUBer reffered me too. and I messeged him just for the hell of it, and apperntly were pretty much perfect for each other, now neither of us or too sure we really want anything long term, as I am closeted and it be kind of hard to have a relationship right now...lol, but we definetly want to meet, even if it is just to hang out and whatever...get to know one another a little better.

all I can say is..Im nervous...lol

any advice happy to take
lol, i may be falling for him already, we were talking, and he asked me if I had a web cam and i said "no my computer sex" ...."...I mean sux!"

he was like "well I can see whats on your mind"

lol

 

[shea]

I would meet the guy and get to know him a little and go from there. Sure you are nervous that is to be expected.

Go slow and see what is comfortable for you and him. I wish you the very best. shea

 

[Dman007]

thanks.

Im sure he'll make a move first, thats kind of what im hoping for to be honest, he's 35 and im 18, he's more experienced. So im betting he has been with guys before, and I will just have to follow

 

[SilverRRCloud]

Yeah. Take it nice, slow and easy. Do not talk Relationship just as yet. Make friends, have fun, enjoy each other's company in every sense and take your time to think about it and draw your conclusions afterwards.

SC

 

[Dman007]

yeah but I'll tell you what, if he wants it...he'll get it...lol, i dont think i could refuse

 

[Dman007]

were meeting on the 27th of this month, and he's so charming really, i told him about how im experienced and I dont wanna seem bad at anything, and when I told him I hope im not bad kisser, he said "Dont worry, I'll teach you" i was like "theres no way we could meet like NOW!" and he laughed.

Im still nervous, I guess just because I met him online and i dont want anything bad to happen but he seems sincere, and really hope he is, but like i said he's charming, that could be good or bad, because that also means he could be lying...but I guess I'll just have to run with it for a while.

Any like way to tell if he's trust worthy?...lol

 

[UC3543]

Any like way to tell if he's trust worthy?...lol

That is an interesting and very good question. How can you tell if someone you met online is trustworthy. I believe there are little ways. Have you been e-mailing regularly. Have ypu spoken on the phone or do you plan to.

I think you can tell a little bit by his e-mailing pattern. If he says he'll e-mail you "later tonight" for example, Does he following through, or if he doesn't does he give a good reason why he didn't. When you read his emails do they seem like they are coming from the same person, or have you received an e-mail or two that just seems alittle strange, maybe different language used, or different type words, or maybe really long or really short. Also believe your gut feelings about him.

Keep all his e-mails and after you have maybe 10 or 20 , read them all at once straight through (without reading your responses) to get a good feel for the way he communicates. Reading them several times right in a row will take a lot of the emotion out of it and you can try to observe the way he wrotes. And follow your instincts.


That is what I would do and what I have done in the past, and it has been pretty reliable.

 

[JackFTwist]

dman he's experienced you're not and that is more than the sexual act - relationships however slight are far more emotional at 18 than at 35

lead with your brain and don't lose your heart; also rely on your gut instinct if anything is not right

practice safe sex - insist on it -

and you have other good advice from others -

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[Dman007]

thanks guys...well, I told him I have no diseases and stuff since im a virgin, he said he doesnt either but just to re-assure both of us, we are both gonna wear condums if we do anything. it'd be stupid not to. and if he has any reason not to im gonna get a little suspicious, because if he says he likes barebacking, im gonna be like "okay so you managed to go all these years barebacking? and never caught a disease?"

well he does seem trust worthy so far, I jus dont wanna feel so trusting of him that I forget about all the dangers to just be with him, you know?

Today, we were chatting and he turned on his web cam for me since he didnt have any real current pictures, and he thoughtm what the hell i'll use the web cam, well we were talking about our meeting date and stuff, and he got hard (well we both did..duh) talking about all the possibilities, and J/O right then and their for me

he's so hot, god it was great. his smile is enough to drive me wild.

 

[Pringle]

My response would be why not.

Sounds good - I will wish you the best of luck - you seem pretty down to earth with it. The only piece of advice I would give and its up to you if you take it on board . . .

but sometimes we are so desperate for things like this to work we choose to overlook some things that we otherwise wouldn't. Take a small step back and think clearly for a minute. If you still feel the same for this person then go for it. If there is a niggling doubt then take your time. Life isn't a race - no prizes for coming first.

But go into this with your head screwed on and there is no reason why it can't be a great success. Play safe (and I'm not just talking about condoms) and you should have a great experience.

 

[Dman007]

thanks Pringle,

I have thought about it, and he really seems to be trust worthy I dont think thats my cock talking either. theres little things here and there that gives him bonus points in my trust book

there is one thing that bugs me about him...one thing, its not that bad, its kind of one of those things that makes me think he's gonna *ah-hem*

"hit it, and quit it"

you know? it'll be a one night thing, and i'll never hear from him ever again. I dont want that, even if we dont want a relationship. I dont wanna never hear from him again.

but im not too into talking about it, except with him, when he wants to talk about it.

so far he hasnt been decietful and has told me the truth about everything I wanted to know or he wanted to let me know. THAT is the reason i think, no, I know, I can trust him.

 

[Love_chair]

Hey (Dman) yeah everybody has given grate advice and remember please remember to use condoms if you have sex very important because you don't know for sure where his dick has been and also meet him in a public place a store a restaurant something like that and this my sound extreme but I would also bring a gun you know just a little pistol you can put inside your jacket or down your pants or just some pepper spray or something what am trying to say is safety is VERY important at all costs whether it's sex or just safety in general because you can never know someone 100% but I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything turns out the way you planned have fun LOL and take care

 

[Art1eJ]

Dont have sex with him right off cause that might be what hes looking for and i wouldnt go to his house either before knowing him awhile first and meet in a public place so if hes not so nice you can get away or help if needed

 

[Just_Believe18]

Don't expect much with a 5 hour distance. You'll probably hook-up once, but then circumstances will drive you apart. You're a virgin. You want to get laid. But there's so much that comes after that and a 5 hour trip may stifle your fantasies of this becoming a regular thing.