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Yep, caught my bf cheating on videotape. What should I do?

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damn! what an asshole!! how did he know about the cam? ya could post the video on xtube, lmao
 
thats fucked up but it's one of those things where you reflect on it for a while, feel sad, then move on. shit happens, especially when dealing with assholes.

posting the video........definitely a no-no. it's not that serious to risk ruining a couple guys lives. people have lost their jobs and family because of posted pornography.

I understand the urge you're having, but it's not worth it.
 
Well, it's good that you caught him cheating...but turning cameras on in your house two weeks into a relationship is...well, a little scary. It's not as if you had them for security considering one was aimed at your bed...
 
JUst move on and dont answer him and let it go. The more you stew on it the worse it's going to get..

Do let him lower you into a heartbroken record. Just get himout of your life and move on.

Let it go, there are more important things in life than this crap.
 
I have absolutely no patience or forgiveness for anyone who's sadistic, and neither should you.

You absolutely NEED to find someone who would never even consider doing that to you.
 
Sounds like you had settled for a boy instead of a man. ;)
 
:eek: :cry:

I feel for you right now. I really do. I completely understand. However, you still love him don't you? Because that is the vibe I am getting. Now I am going to try to make this next part as clear an unbiased as possible...

Here is the answer from my Logical Mind.

Don't completely ignore him. Talk to him. The two of you need to come to some kind of understanding. I am NOT saying you SHOULD get back with him however. That is for you and only you to decide AFTER you have made peace with what has happened. If you do not get back with him, you should find closure. breath the wall of pain and mistrust so that later on you are available to someone else who wishes to build the foundations of love and happiness with you.

On the other hand, If you do decide to get back with him, make sure he understand that it is somewhat a trial basis. To see if he can be faithful and committed to you and give you what you need in a relationship. And if there are any indiscretions on his part that it will be ended by you. AND FOLLOW THROUGH. Don't make this statement and then go back on your word.

Furthermore, If you do get back together, maybe right now isn't the time for you to move in together. Maybe the two of you aren't ready for that step. Personally, if he wants to live in your house he needs a job, but that is just my opinion. Unless he is independently wealthy...That is a different story.

And now from my Evil Vindictive Bitch Mind.

:mad: What you should do is post that video on every porn site known to man...even take the time to edit out the nude parts and post it on YouTube. Find a better, hotter guy and make sure you flaunt him. if your ex has any online accounts make sure to post to them this experience with him. If he has not told his mother yet, give her a call. And last but not least, beat the hell out of both of them. :twisted:

PS. That last part was for pure humor, none of that advice should ever be followed, unless you are me...because I can get away with it.

PPS. I sincerely wish you the best in this time though. Don't dwell on it. Heal. You will be fine.

:D ;) (*8*) ..| :=D: :wave:

tata!
 
Wow i am sorry to hear that good thing you got it on video.

Next time he calls you make peace with him and send him on his way, and then block him and block his calls and stuff. Your a good looking guy you will meet a new man (If that's your picture) How long have yall been dating?

Take a break from dating men for a while until you feel better
 
and so I am (was) very lucky to have him as my boyfriend.
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Uh.....no.

Anyway Rick doesn't know that I have two cameras in my house.
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Rick also knew that the camera was there, because he was smiling and flipping the bird at the camera while he was having sex.
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So yeah, I know my story is crazy, it was the cruelest thing to do to someone you love,
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Great story though.
 
First thing you should do is delete your bf's sexcapade. It is unlawful to film people having sex without their knowledge. I don't think it matters that it was in your house. So, unless you want legal troubles, delete and forget about it.

Also, drop the bf. As someone said earlier, you got a boy not a man. Why would you want to live with someone who doesn't work or go to school, but just leeches off you and gets fucked behind your back while you are working. If you take him back, you are just a chump.
 
well, stop talking to him, move on.

i have to say, though... you have secret security cameras in your house? directed at your bed? you dont tell your live-in boyfriend about them, and you use them to spy on him? you are a major creep. hes a cheating asshole, but hes also lucky he got rid of you. sorry.

just delete the tape. dont post the tape online under any circumstances. it would be a terrible thing to do - you could ruin their lifes.
 
i have to say, though... you have secret security cameras in your house? directed at your bed? you dont tell your live-in boyfriend about them, and you use them to spy on him? you are a major creep. hes a cheating asshole, but hes also lucky he got rid of you. sorry.
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Some might say that everyone seems to have gotten their just desserts.
 
I think the taping is creepy too. If I moved into someone's place, with the agreement that we were going to be live-in lovers, and I found out that I was being covertly videotaped..man, I'd just freakin' lose it. Not only would I dump you and move out on the same day, but I'd look at legal recourse.

But to the original point:

I have no idea why you'd even consider taking this guy back. The sexual act, and where it took place were intentional, noted by him giving you the finger and smirking at the cam. Who cares if he's good looking? He's a loser. Getting back together with him is going to invite more of the same into your life.
 
Since he knew you had the camera there... wouldn't it be not illegal to post it :P.

Anyway, he doesn't have a job, and does nothing all day, and cheated on you. Best to leave him :).
 
CoolKid77 said:
Believe me, if you knew him, you would have probably done the same.

He is a complete low life. He has no job. No money. Toyed around with drugs in the past. Been in jail. Has no interest in going to school or doing anything, and I wouldn't be surprised if he cheated on me before.
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I can assure you, I would have never done the same thing.

Why would you invite a guy like this to move in with you in the first place? Why would you invite anyone that you didn't know well enough to trust them to move in with you? Having hidden cameras certainly indicates that you have some trust issues that go well beyond him. From what you wrote, there was every red flag possible, but yet you still moved forward with a relationship. Is your need to be in a relationship so strong that it doesn't matter what kind of guy you have for your partner?

By the way, it sounds like he discovered that you had hidden cameras and set the whole thing up to get back at you for spying on him. Trust is two way street and I think you may have been the one to break the trust first. I sure hope you learn from this whole episode. I'm not trying to be hard on you. I just want you to realize that you are not going to have a good, solid relationship if you keep doing things the way you are doing them. I would recommend that you get some counseling so that you can learn how to develop a healthy relationship from the start.
 
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