Young and wanting to explore

[Sammey90]

Just thought I'd share my thoughts of my well status.

I consider my self a straight acting guy, not really men until well.. I get horny. At let's be honest, 18 is the age. Anyway, I've had a bit of a thing for older experienced men. The thought is a bit daunting to be honest but I consider my self a bottom guy. I've given a lot of thought of what I'd like to do and what I want done to me... I've had a few offers to meetup from guys, but I'm mainly not looking to rush into doing something that I might regret later. I'm after an educated smart, possibly older man to give me a really wild time. I've experimented with myself and am not really the whole idea of oral with men, more so being teased, spanked and the idea of anal interests me.

The whole concept of my 'Bubble Butt' is really something I love (See pics in other forum).

Anyway yeah, I just want to live a few of my hard fantasies with an older man and am wondering if I'm being too picky. Should I just take the plunge? I'd obviously would consider experimenting something around the my age with the same experience as me as the idea of an older man that regularly interacts with men is daunting, but I love the whole daddy idea haha.

 

[DonSade]

Exploring involves seeing what's out there. There's really no point in holding back! You've said yourself you have interest and it seems there's many options to choose from. Maybe you'll find you can settle for what you currently have available at the moment. You won't know if you truly like it until you try it.

 

[rareboy]

Don't limit yourself.

 

[youngnihilist]

Well, be careful. A lot of older men will jump at the chance to devirginize you, then dump you afterwards. If you can just have no strings attached sex for your first time (like I did - except with someone my age) then, okay.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>I consider my self a straight acting guy, not really men until well.. I get horny.

Well, yeah.

I'd say you might benefit from an online hook-up, just to see if it's something you enjoy. I won't give you the whole nine yards about how to do it unless you want it, but I'll give you the basics.

* Be VERY clear about what you're looking for and what you're expecting. Clarity is going to trump "naughty talk".
* Meeting in public first is an absolute must. Meet for coffee, see how you interact, and decide if this is someone you want to get physical with.
* If so, tell him you'll contact him to set up the time and place at another time. It's best if you don't move from coffee to bed. Give yourself 24 hours to mull it over.
* Condoms. Lube. Always.

Lex

 

[tommyj]

Wow - excellent scenario

 

[conrad]

My question would be: "Why be hobbled by the idea that you need some "experienced" dude to "do" you so that you can determine the shape of your sexuality? Our ancestors did alright for thousands of years by simply finding someone to explore with; we all learn by doing and most of us have found that we do just fine.

For me it happened at age 15 when I bonded with the new guy in town, also age 15, and, thanks to a zone of privacy which we had at his home, our friendship grew and it needed expression and the sex came about very naturally and seemed so right; it was a confirmation of the bond that already had come to exist between us. That relationship ended when we graduated from high school. I loved him then and I love him still though we have both been married very happily for many years. something that all "regular guys" expected to do one day. And we never thought of ourselves as anything other than regular guys.

You are the decider. Be open to the beauty and mystery of sex whether your first partner be a man or a woman.

 

[billybob109]

Well what turns you on about an experienced "older man" is it becuase you have not been with a boy your own age.. i truly believe experience and age really has nothing to do with it im 23 and ive probably have had just as much sex as a 40 year old man. If anything an older man is and wants a younger boy becuase they can go longer than someone their own age. If you want to experience sex with another man i would suggest doing it with someone your own age that can relate too you and that is also in the same boat as yourself. An older "experienced man" would take total control and it might make you feel uncomfortable.

 

[Sammey90]

Not really too sure what it is, I think it's just because I find them more masculine and powerful. I guess I think that an older man will simply know how to pleasure me better as someone experienced. I still want be in control as the bottom but I do want to be 'bossed' so to speak.

A lot of the men that contact me do so through online encounters. Thanks G-Lexinting, that's exactly the same thing I had in mind.

I guess I just like being intimate with an older man. A masculine kind of hair chested bear type man. I just don't imagine myself with someone my age really, not really sure why.

Some no strings fun with a friend basically.

 

[tommyj]

^^ I knew I liked Aussies!

 

[Sammey90]

>>>I consider my self a straight acting guy, not really men until well.. I get horny.

Well, yeah.

I'd say you might benefit from an online hook-up, just to see if it's something you enjoy. I won't give you the whole nine yards about how to do it unless you want it, but I'll give you the basics.

Hi guys, thanks for the advice and just a bit of an update. Thanks Lex, have joined a few online dating sites and have matured to a bit more to understand what I'm fully looking for. As I'm closeted, im still at a stage where I'm Bi-Curious. I'm still after the same mature daddy type masculine figure and despite the immense bombardment I've only pursued a few men online. Even those after all my self experimentation, I've decided I'm mainly in it for the pleasure, I don't feel attracted to older men when I'm out and about but I guess the thought of it is so 'kinky' when I'm at home and no mention all the online attention and messages I get is really something I enjoy. Though I admit, I am after some emotional connection. I tend to not reply to many of the guys who post pictures of their cocks only and only specify their after sex, as I'm guessing they would have more partners and are only after a quick fling.

I've specified my importance for safe sex and am wanting my lover and definitely want that emotional connection, not a relationship but at the very least a friendship and the ability to get along as I want to go back for more if I ever receive.

Am I too picky to ask a partner to be tested with me (despite being a virgin), even though I plan on using condoms? I am wanting to give oral and will give flavored condoms priority but some of my fantasies include oral without a condom, despite the minimal risk, it would be something I'd be more at ease doing if my partner was clean.

Also is it too selfish for me to want to film my first encounter? I've established a bit of an online presence with a few of my videos and it's something I'd want to do...

 

[rareboy]

It sounds more like planning an invasion than an encounter.

Is there any possibility you could just relax and enjoy what happens?

And without being a star in your own movie?

 

[Sammey90]

You're right, I'm definetly overthinking it.

 

[altlover85]

It seems like your putting a lot of conditions on this. If that's what you need to feel comfortable, then that's okay. It sounds like you want a friend with benefits. I would work on getting to know whomever you feel has a good connection with you. I would then follow the advice given by G-Lexington. Just be aware that all the conditions you are putting on things makes it seem more like a boyfriend type thing, but with you not being out, they don't get the whole experience.

Either way, good luck!

 

[Nomenclature]

To me, it sounds like Sammey just doesn't want to get molested or an STD. He DID say that he wants to be in control.

That absolutely IS in your best interests, and you're right for doing this, but keep in mind that very, very few men on hook-up sites - especially the older creeps - will be willing to respect your conditions. If they see a 19 or 20-year old virginal kid, they'll just say anything so they can deflower you, and then they'll give you the cold shoulder, or just be a total jerk to you to get you to stop talking to them.


I've also had older men try to talk me into NOT wanting to use a condom, saying that they had more experience and know that condoms make it more painful for the bottom.

Don't do anything stupid.

 

[altlover85]

I've only had a few negative experiences, but I think that's more based on the guy than it is on age. There are jerks at any age.

BTW, the majority of men I've been with have been older, so I'm talking from experience as far as being with older men goes.

 

[Sammey90]

To me, it sounds like Sammey just doesn't want to get molested or an STD. He DID say that he wants to be in control..

That's definetly the case. The video thing is not something I care so much about. It's something I would feel fine with if my partner was also comfortable doing.

I guess Im insecure about being with many older men as those that tend to be me muscular have a bit of an ego and I am mainly looking for a friends with benefits relationship, not a boyfriend as I think that's a bit more fair. If sex was regular that might make me my partners sole partner but I guess without a trusting relationship, there's a chance he would sleep with other men.

I'm mainly wanting to get tested together, for his piece of mind and mine and don't want to be ditched after. I think it might be better to not list myself as virgin?

Here's my current message on manhunt:

Hi guys. I'm a Bi-Curious younger guy, ideally looking for an intelligent muscular or athletic DTE friend to explore my sexuality with but won't rule out anyone so long as they're intelligent, fit and healthy. I really value friendship and will consider no strings with the correct guy but really after a mate first. Am attracted to older muscular men or dominant tops as I think I'm more of a submissive bottom. I like to take things slow.

Safe sex is really important.
No Pics, No Reply. Winks Over Messages

Does it seem too much like I'm asking for sex? I'm guessing if I removed the section about tops, I'd attract more men with similar interests as of course being a dating site, sex is obviously applied and I'm mainly looking to just meet and chat first despite my sexual conditions.

 

[rareboy]

Well, given that you're looking for sex, why be shy about it?

It all still looks like a lot of work.

Hi guys. I'm a Bi-Curious younger guy, looking for an intelligent, muscular and athletic 'top' guy to explore my sexual desires with as their submissive bottom. I really value friendship and would like to have a 'friends with benefits' arrangement with the right guy.

I like to take things slow.Safe sex is a must.
No Pics, No Reply.

Now isn't that more to the point?

But c'mon. Get on with it.

And stop overplanning and overthinking this. It makes you seem neurotic and can only lead to disappointment.