younger "str8" guy at work, is he interested in something?

[jaycee style]

loose loose

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lose lose.

 

[JNewYork]

HEAR, HEAR!!!

the 1st guy i ever fooled around with was a "str8" coworker i'd had a crazy crush on. he'd made a habit of making little comments and hints towards me. one night we left a party together, went back to his place and fooled around. i knew it was just sex, and wasn't expecting anything else. the next morning i leave, but get home and realize i'd forgotten something. went back to get it, and the fucker wouldn't even open the door. i figured he'd probably regretted what happened, and was freaking out a bit. i decided to just leave it alone, and we'd both forget about it.

Fast forward to Monday morning. i get to work, and this chick comes up to me and says that dude had told everyone that i made a pass at him and he'd had to shut me down, which couldn't have been further from the truth. not only was the encounter mutual, but HE made the 1st, 2nd and 3rd move. shy, and closeted as i was back then, i wouldn't have even THOUGHT about approaching a guy like that.

needless to say, it made for a very uncomfortable work experience, which led to me blowing off alot of days and getting fired.

i don't really know all the circumstances of YOUR situation, so the only "advice" i can give you is this: think long and hard about whether something that'll probably amount to little more than a quick hookup, is worth all the potential ramifications.

btw...10 years later and that guy is just a hot fucking mess!!! he's gained like 100lbs, and has 4 or 5 kids he can't take care of. in other words, he's turned into a real winner

Thanks for sharing this information! I had two bitter experiences at two different jobs years ago.... 1.) This athletic STUD used to catcall around me and in a macho way say that I was a handsome stud. He'd always be looking at me and hinting, etc. So one day I just asked him to go snowboarding. He said okay. So on Friday I asked if we were still going. He acted like he had no idea what I was saying. "Go where?" I said, "Snowboarding." He then had a smirk on and said, "Oh yeah, I did say that didn't I?" He then walked away and never said another thing. He DID say something to the other coworkers because they started making gay innuendo and references.

You would have thought I would learn, but no. I had to endure another job and another experience years later. 2.) This coworker stared at my dick constantly. Always looking at me up and down. When we were alone sharing a hotel room on a business trip I finally made a move. I hugged him and wouldn't let go. He pulled away. I was shocked. This dude was coming on to me for MONTHS. He couldn't take his eyes off my cock and he did it so I would see him doing it. And then when he had the chance to act on it all he didn't have the guts.

So I learned that straight and curious dudes have the potential for disaster and pain. With the internet these days you can find pretty much exactly what you're looking for without having to put yourself through pain.

But even so, I still say it's worth a shot--as long as you are comfortable with potential rejection.

 

[inthecloset]

Don't do it. Trust me, if you really like this guy then the heartache of him deciding he doesn't want to do anything again after getting your hopes up is not worth a night of fun. I "fooled around" with a friend of mine shortly after I came out to him. He told me he was curious about what it was like and we didn't do much but...I felt horrible afterward when he told me it would never happen again. I still carry around a damaged heart because I really liked this guy and he completely shot me down after he got my hopes up.

 

[djdanska]

I completely forgot about this thread i made! Quick update. We chat on and off via text/facebook. Due to cutbacks, the last few weeks i have only worked with him one time. I work the days he doesn't work. He texted me yesterday saying he hates working with the guy he works (instead of me). I said jokingly that he can ask the boss to have that guy and me switch shifts, so i work with him more often. He liked that idea a lot. I have not been into work yet to check next week schedule yet but i hope he does.

I am taking it day by day with him. Whatever happens happens. I generally stay away with younger/closet types. Lot of work. Balls in his court. If i work with him, we will have time to spend outside work, which he told me he wants to do. (Has been saying that the entire time. Sadly, if i am working that day, he isn't, and the other way around.).

Sorry for the lack of updates.

 

[Chris1984]

Step one: You say, "Hey, let's go grab a beer (or a soda) after work."

Step two: At the bar (or soda shop), you say, "Hey, listen ... were you serious about being interested in being with a man? I've been thinking about what you said and thought I'd like to talk about that some more, if you're interested. No pressure, but I'm open to the conversation."

Step three: See where the conversation leads you.

Step four: Cut a hole in the box. (Just kidding about that one.)

Anyway, it sounds like you already have a good rapport with your friend. Ordinarily, I'd say you're best off not getting involved with coworkers, but the sex topic has been raised previously so, let's face it, the work situation is now equally tricky with a platonic friendship as with a sexual friendship. The opportunity is there, so why not see where things go?

Cheers,
DL

HAHA! Dick in a box! That was so funny, lol. Sorry to hijack the thread, but JT and Andy are hilarious together